This reminds me of an editorial in Proceedings after the death of the first female combat pilot in the USN. It was a noncombat loss, years back. The F-14 she was flying lost an engine on takeoff from a carrier, and there may have been issues with the catapult too; whatever the reason it didn't come off the deck in proper flight attitude so instead of flying it crashed. The RIO managed to eject safely, but she didn't make it out before it crashed into the water at 250 knots.
The Secretary of the Navy and various other important dignitaries attended the funeral. It was a great gesture towards the family, to be sure.
But it was wrong.
Yes, she was the first female pilot...but that's why it was wrong. She should have recieved no special treatment, she did not in life, she should not have in death. That would have been the thing that made sense; that would have been the thing that showed integration at work. Instead they took a step backward.