I find this thread disturbing.
Like Karajorma, I might be biased or reading things wrong, but from my point of view I see Spoon making a humurous almost "captain obvious" reference, and immediately being thrown **** at him for doing so, being called a "dick" in a response and in the very title of the split thread. Kara realises this is not "the best way to handle things"... well talk about euphemisms. If you are playing moderator and trying to make someone else behave in a less "dickish" manner, why not do so without infringing the very same rules you are tasked to uphold? Or is throwing insults kosher?
I also see Kara making a defense of Scotty on this issue by mostly arguing in a Tu Quoque manner, but I'm sorry to say that moderators *do* have more responsibilities to maintain a dignified presence on the board, if not always (we are all human beings!) at least in the very moments they are moderating... I also see an emotional rant against Spoon's unwillingness to admit his partial blame or whatever. His inquiries for understanding why was he "being a dick" (contrary to what Karajorma claimed, without scent or hint of any sarcastic tone), were not answered other than having the thread split. I see then Spoon handwaving it bemused, confused, followed by Scotty's sarcastic and insulting remark "Thank you for providing further evidence of being a dick in one handy quote-capable post. Locking." Is this really the way HLP polices its members now, by repeatedly calling them dicks, interpret any demand for explanation as "sarcasm" followed by obviously the lack of any explanation, and then later demand them they confess their sins or whatever?
IMHO I did see Spoon's "captain obvious" reference as an inoffensive joke, bordering on unwarranted provocative. But I regard the whole reaction to it a lot worse. If this is how you convince Spoon to defer to moderators when he gets trouble in the WoD forums, well!
Yeah this sums up my view pretty nicely too.
In the case of the WoD forum issues, we've repeatedly stated that you made that problem worse by not using the report button. I've never seen any indication you accept that either. I've never seen any sign that you don't believe the problem was 100% the moderators fault (and I'm not saying the moderators weren't at fault, just that you made the issue worse).
I've mostly been the one complaining that help never reached Spoon. I think it's very problematic to blame him for 'allowing things to get bad'. People came into his forum and attacked him. He was a solo project lead fairly new to the forums. HLP policy at the time more or less minimized the role of the report function and people got yelled at for using it. When other projects faced directed hostility they often had admins directly attached to deal with the problems right away, so there was really no example case for Spoon to follow. The institutional resources required for him to know what to do were pretty much absent.
I think the responsibility needs to remain firmly on the attackers here.
I wasn't really planning on hooking in on the old WoD forum moderating thing since as far as I'm concerned its water under the bridge with a formal apology and what not. But since Karajorma wants me to ACCEPT BLAME FOR EVERYTHING...
What Battuta says is pretty much true, add to that that back in the day I was honestly convinced the admins and moderator staff was
involved and was aware of things going on. It took me a long while to come to terms that the admins and moderators were
not involved and that most of them weren't going to play my release or check the board at all. Hindsight 20/20 etc and yes, looking back I should have hit that report button on occasions. But that simply never occured to me at the time, after all I was talking on irc with people about what was happening and what not, then surely the staff must be aware as well.... right? Or so I thought back then.
What I will take responsbility for on this subject that I was pretty new to how HLP worked/works and my ignorance sure bit me in the ass back then.
And I hope to **** that you finally get that I don't have any particular grudge against you and realise that if you're willing to forget about any previous issues you've had with me, I'm happy to do likewise.
Uuugh
You don't ****ING realize that you've said this previously and that I already told you back then that I don't believe you because you
always act like a big jerk when it comes to me. I never see anything
reasonable coming from you when you are engaged with me. Again and again and again its incidents like this that cement that you always make sure to read every post I make in the worse possible way, assume the worse possible intentions and you
always try to push most of the blame on me.
I don't even feel like making an attempt at replying to your other posts because it will just make me expend a lot of unnecessary energy and emotional energy that I want to spend otherwise. Glancing over them, it seems to be a lot of ACCEPT THAT YOUR AT FAULT type of posts I've grown so acustomed to seeing from you. Not worth it.