I trust that you don't mind me quoting your post in multiple segments, Ryan; seems appropriate considering the red text.
We have other community members who are now limiting their participation; whether this is permanent or temporary remains to be seen and largely depends on where we go from here.
The first part of this sentence is pretty sweeping. People limit their participation for all sorts of reasons. A single incident cannot ever be the source; it is the trigger that creates the result.
My reduced activity on HLP is largely the result of the following:
- "knowing my place" (most call it "maturing")
- involvement in other online communities
- real-life commitments (mainly studies as of the time of this post, with employment being the next thing to tackle once studies are dealt with)
I think Point 1 requires fleshing out.
Keep in mind that I've been mooching about on HLP for the best part of the last 14 years and made around 9800 posts. In making those posts, I've occasionally elicited certain responses from others, be it a ban, sharp response, or whatever. This extends to the old IRC, the FS Wiki, and current Discord server. In receiving these responses, I adapt accordingly. I might counter, I might stand down, I might give a weird face. The point is: in doing so, I become "more efficient" in the way I do things; a string of posts I made in 2007 can be reduced to just one post, certain posts I made in 2008 wouldn't exist if I were in the same situation now as I was back then, and so on.
This so-called "increased efficiency" results in me seemingly becoming less active and, ironically, it also means I tend to be oblivious towards certain things. Your message on Discord about "cleaning up site support and posting a thread on alllllll the recent mess" (which resulted in this thread, I guess) caught me by surprise at first, but when I skimmed through the recent posts on the forum and (more or less) got a slight gist of exactly why you sent that message on Discord, I decided not to pour oil on the fire - a side-effect of me being "more efficient" in my approach. If I was half my current age, I'd dive right in. I no longer do that.
None of this has any direct relation with the recent string of disputes that arose over the past six months - starting with the furore over Goober's moderation actions, which resulted in Axem's thread, which I felt warranted a response
- but my response to the disputes (or lack thereof) and resulting obliviousness is a result of Point 1.
We have all, intentionally or unintentionally, played a role in allowing frankly toxic behaviour to persist, interpersonal differences of opinion to become interpersonal conflicts and vendettas, and creating an atmosphere that is less about mutual creation, joy, and respect for each other than it is about grievance-peddling.
Over the past few years, the phrase "HLP is not a democracy" sticks to the back of my mind for some reason. A Google search shows that only Goober and Sandwich mentioned it in forum posts, but the fact that I remember this phrase really
well implies it is mentioned a lot more often (perhaps on the old IRC). It could be a reference to the way HLP was run when Goober was admin, which begs the question of whether preventing this was the point of running HLP the way it was.
If so, it's probably not working as intended, which brings HLP to where it is today.
If you cannot commit to ending it today and moving on from these issues, you need to take a break.
I let my hatchets decompose because I don't have to do anything, even though it takes a really long time. Why should I take the effort to bury it? I'll just feel that it's a waste to let it rot and pick it up again, and that wouldn't end nicely for anyone involved.
...Of course, if the other party wants to bury their hatchet, I'm not stopping them; they're burying their own hatchet while I'm (happily) letting mine decompose. Different strokes for different folks.
On more general news, the moderation/admin staff have been working on draft community standards for a little while (predating this most recent drama). They will be posted for public comment and input this weekend in Site Support. Comment will be left open for a month; constructive feedback is welcome, while rehashing old grievances is not. Any significant contentious issues will be open to vote.
Didn't we have a set of forum rules somewhere? Maybe I'm confusing this forum with another one, but I vaguely recall seeing something like that when I first joined (and it certainly isn't this