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Off-Topic Discussion => General Discussion => Topic started by: Fineus on January 13, 2003, 04:17:36 pm
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A kinda curious question, when someone is saying the kind of things you really don't want to hear - and you know you're going to be really upset at this rate, what do you do to deal with the stress? No given situation to this or whatever.. you can be wherever you want doing whatever you want, all it has to do is deal with the stress and anger inside you.
So... lets see what happens!
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Originally posted by Thunder
A kinda curious question, when someone is saying the kind of things you really don't want to hear - and you know you're going to be really upset at this rate, what do you do to deal with the stress? No given situation to this or whatever.. you can be wherever you want doing whatever you want, all it has to do is deal with the stress and anger inside you.
So... lets see what happens!
NINJA CHOP!!!
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Well lets see....I've done plenty of soccer refereeing now and pretty much every game is a potential opportunity for everyone to be mad as hell at me and me to be mad at hell at them for being complete and utterly devoid of any understanding of the rules of the game.
That being said...first technique is this. Take a very slow and deep breath. Sounds stupid, but to an extent it works. But only to an extent. You're still mad as hell and they only continue to increase the stress.
Usually...I manage to endure till I can get away and tell (and yell) to a family member or close friend about all of the stupidity. The alternative is something bad...and I rarely do it...but I have on rare occasion been pushed over the edge to explode into the irish temper that I have...I breath fire and shoot ice from my eyeballs (hehe!). Fortunately, I'm never a violent person and the only thing I regret is yelling.
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either;
a/ Just ignore it politely and blatantly
or
b/ Start verbals in return
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Usually at first I take a VERY deep breath, then either I surf pr0n sites to get my mind on other things, or I blow **** up in Red Faction. :D
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I take a deep breath and begin to verbaly insult them in such a nice,calm manner that is makes them
mad and they are the ones that end up stressed and angry because I do not react the way they want me to.
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I give people this stupid, "I don't care what you say, I'm not listening" smile and let my eyes glaze over. Eventually they go away.
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I really don't get upset easily ( well, not in real life at least :p ), so I just bear with it until it's over.
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There are damn few things anyone could say that'd upset me for a long period of time. Those that would piss me off to that great a deal would pretty much necessarily be grounds for some serious revenge-taking, since you'd have to **** up my life pretty much irreversibly to make me get that upset, at least for more than about five or ten minutes.
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sledge + brick
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I'll take a breath and then I usually manage to get over the anger quite easily and fast...
sometimes I might get angry again later when I'm more or less alone and then I'll play some FPS online to get ridd of the rest of the anger :D Slaughtering pixels works quite well, and no one is really harmed
... or I'll go to sleep... it's the ultimate stress remover ;)
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Originally posted by Vertigo1
Usually at first I take a VERY deep breath, then either I surf pr0n sites to get my mind on other things, or I blow **** up in Red Faction. :D
What if the thing stressing you is trying to figure out why Red Faction sucks so much?
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I'd go visit Yad VaShem (the Holocaust Museum here) and just sit there for an hour or three. Kinda knocks things back into perspective rather quickly, makes you realize how truly insignificant your problems may be.
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Bloody Knuckles with the local bedpost is fun.
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Followed by cold revenge of course.
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I usually either think/shout random swear words and stare at my wall until I get bored of staring at a wall and go back to programming/playing games
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in angry for about 5 mins then i forget it (or do i just pile it up inside ? )
then i go to a scrapeyard and destroy a car completly :D
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Ok how to deal with stress, that can sometimes be a tough one.. The first thing is taking a few deep breaths, and a short time out that can be the difference between being civil or being a loose cannon..
I have noted that it is easier for me to help a friend out with a stressful problem than if the problem was mine..
The closer you maybe to a person the easier it is for them to cause you undue stress....
Meditation is also a good outlet providing you can clear your mind of all thoughts and distance yourself, (on a mental level) from the stress, not an easy task but can be obtained...
Another thing is that some people may go through cycles of highs and lows, at a low point for stress you can gaff it off...
Though praying may not be acceptable for some this is another way that i deal with work and family related stress...
Raising my voice is something i strive to steer clear of.. Have you ever noticed that at times when a friend gets loud with you and you respond with a soft tone (void of anger) they tend to calm down and talk rather than yell...
Useing a combination of all the above helps for me..
I am aware though that there are times when you are backed into a corner and must speak your peace in a harsh tone to get resualts, hopefully these instances are far and few between...
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heh...my anger has always been a problem for me...I rarely let myself get seriously mad, but when I do, I have absolutely no control...if I ever get that far, I'll simply force myself to walk away. I've gotten in trouble more than once for just getting up and walking out of a class or another situation that required my attendence, but I prefer dealing with that afterwards instead of whatever my anger may have resulted in if I hadn't left. I also find that going on a long walk sometime after midnight really calms me down...it lets me get rid of all the built up stress I carry around...there's just something about the contrast between this city during the day and during the night...it's so calming, considering that I'm not a significant part of it. Also, seeing the stars helps...it adds to the insignificant part of it...
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Thanks for that guys, I think I'll take the route of meditation and deep breaths... Whitelight managed to guess my problem without me even mentioning it in that one of my once very close friends has changed radically in the space of a couple of weeks and now it doesn't feel like she's got time to give me the time of day. I don't know how it'll end but this helps, thanks guys :)
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This might sound odd, but only my partner has the capability of making me really stressed, and this is because it takes her about 2 hours of solid work to do it. Otherwise, getting stressed is for other people.
If someone is ranting at me, I just look at them and don't say anything, even if they have a valid point. When they are done with the rant, I say 'Are you finished', and let the next tirade go by. The net result is that one of two things happens - the person goes away (as they are not interested that I don't want a slanging match) or they calm down and a sensible discussion follows.
Having re-read the starting question, a few more things spring to mind. Once'Time Out' has been called after one of my partner's rants (She can nag for England - cruel, but true, and I think that she knows it) I ask myself some questions, and give myself honest answers. (This last bit is very important.)
1) Am I guilty of the things that have been said in the rant? (Selfish, greedy etc.) If so, what changes do I need to make to ensure said problem does not come back?
2) If the answer to above is no, is there something else going on in other person's life that could be causing the problem. (You may not know about this.) My own experience is that I get it in the neck for something trivial, when in fact my partner is worried about something else that is completely unrelated to the rant that I am getting!
3) Is the other person simply being unreasonable, selfish etc?
Once you know what the problem is, you can then deal with it in the qppropriate manner. (I can't tell you what this, unfortunately - circumstances always dictate!)
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Originally posted by Cuttenslise
This might sound odd, but only my partner has the capability of making me really stressed, and this is because it takes her about 2 hours of solid work to do it. Otherwise, getting stressed is for other people.
That's not odd. I'm exactly the same way.
I don't get stressed unless it's really early in the morning and I can't find some work essential item, like trousers.
But, like someone said earlier, when I get angry it just sort of dissipates quickly but I'm not sure if I keep it in or just have an incredibly long fuse. I've only lost my temper three times in my entire life and I don't think that's a good thing.
Oh yeah, Ninja chop her, seriously.
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The people you love the most are also the people who can anger you the easiest, because you leave yourself so open to them.
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Originally posted by Sandwich
The people you love the most are also the people who can anger you the easiest, because you leave yourself so open to them.
How true. :)
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Tai Chi Chuan
very awesome for relieving stress... PM me for some of the benefits or applications, or i can post them here
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Originally posted by Sandwich
The people you love the most are also the people who can anger you the easiest, because you leave yourself so open to them.
Yeah, they kick you right in the nutsac.
Just found out my favourite band are breaking up and playing their last show in Sacramento in the U.S.
Now I have no passport and not too much cash (saving to go back to college). Anyone know any um "stowaway" tactics?
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Play it cool. Chill.
If you go into counter attack, following may happen:
1. It may turn into an even bigger more serious conflict
2. The person would ignore you (which may piss you off), so you have to be the first one to ignore him and then he will be pissed. Victory is yours. He won't say a thing to you again. :wink:
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If i may, there are a few other alternatives to stress that i had forgotten to mention, that may help....
Music, the sweet sound of a song that has an uplifting affect on you can also curve stress... providing you steer clear of love ballots, they can tend to be depressing and add more stress...
Also, just having someone who knows what your going through to talk to, who can relate to your problem without being jugdemental or taking sides can be a plus...
Thunder, i`m glad that i could be of some help :)
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Originally posted by ZylonBane
What if the thing stressing you is trying to figure out why Red Faction sucks so much?
Hey, I thoroughly enjoyed that game. :) Well worth the $9 I paid for it.
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I punch my bunkbed or lash out at the person making me angry. Not doing what i do in this case, would be a good thing.
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I do a number of things:
A) Get wasted
B) get REALLY wasted
C) watch a film
D) sing/scream my head off
E) exercise
F) something else
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Tai Chi is still the best... more and more Americans are learning and practicing it... an ancient art of healing, and it can do wonders in a few seconds
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No way. I prefer playing Mafia/BF 1942 and mowing down massive amounts of Nazis/Civilians.
Then bloody knuckles. Then Revenge.
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1: Hike in the woods
2: Practice with my Katanna
3: Cold Shower followed by Hot coffee
4: Vent on the object of my stress to my GF.
Etc
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Run...for a very long time, once you put in 10+ miles, it is very hard to be angry at anything, cept of course the spasming of your leg muscles.
Least it works for me
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Originally posted by Stealth
Tai Chi is still the best...
* likes Chai Tea *
:nervous:
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Ok i`ve stumbled opon another stress maker....
So you have this friend and you think you have this person figured out because they seem to be so predictable, then they do something you didn`t anticipate and it throws you into a tail spin..
The answer to this problem is not alusive, the best cure is to NOT try to figure out what makes them tick.. In the longrun you`ll not be stressed by the thought that you really don`t know this person as well as you thought you did..
Accept the friend as they are with all there unpredictabillities and you`ll feel a lot better...
Hope this makes sence.
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Get a punch/hook-and-jab bag and beat the ****ing **** out of it until your gloved knuckles bleed, your arms are too heavy to lift and your wrists sound like cement mixers.
Also, apethy is kinda...............meh.
Oooh, and flaming Stealth really helps. It's soothing and funny.
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Originally posted by an0n
Also, apethy is kinda...............meh.
Meh - whatever. :rolleyes:
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Deal with stress?
Do the words "stair dismount" mean anything ;7
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Stair dismount.
Please explain, i`m a little behind on this saying, never heard it before now?
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stair dismount - the best thing to come out of finland since... i dont know
http://taat.fi/taat/porrasturvat/
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oh, I remember that one... :D
I never get this anger type stress, since I'm usually too absorbed in my own thoughts to pay any attention to what people are saying to me. (so they are the ones who get stressed :D)
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Originally posted by an0n
Oooh, and flaming Stealth really helps. It's soothing and funny.
oooooh I needed a reminder. Graci
*writes down in planner "Piss off Stelf" *