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Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 12:29:51 pm
And I wanted to avoid paying dabeers money

but I let her choose a ring

(she's calling it a "promise ring", but it's really more of an engagement ring, but being that we're atheists we can define when we were "married" to when ever we want... and we generally consider that in the past)
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: an0n on March 11, 2004, 12:33:06 pm
What a curious talent you have, to make occassions which any other person would consider joyous, into some kind of melancholy affair.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 12:34:28 pm
not melancholy - i just had to explain things.  I'n mot mad that I bought diamonds.. just irked that i had to fork money over to dabeers - knowing that if i had found the right jeweler i could have gotten synthetic diamond (yes REAL diamond made in lab) 100% chemically pure with no imperfections for a _LOT_ less
My girlfriend was also irked at that too

I must say the stones were fairly good for their prince range (yes i borrow a gem magnifier)



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She still likes the ring though :D (after all she picked it out)
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Post by: J3Vr6 on March 11, 2004, 01:27:26 pm
Dude, Kazan, you make it seem like you're proofing a geometry problem.  

Congratulations none the less.
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Post by: Liberator on March 11, 2004, 01:37:47 pm
I'll never understand how Kaz can make something joyous like that sound like he's buying a roll of toilet paper.  Congrats regardless.

The imperfections are what give natural diamonds their character, synthetics are nice but they look like glass in most situations.
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Post by: karajorma on March 11, 2004, 01:40:28 pm
Congrats Kazan.

I fully understand what you mean about man made diamonds though. Especially the coloured ones. :)
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Post by: GT-Keravnos on March 11, 2004, 01:40:59 pm
Kiss the lucky girl and let her kiss you back, you lucky guy!

Happiness, health, and...

... (geek alert)

LIVE LONG AND PROSPER

... (OK, geeks are gone)
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Rictor on March 11, 2004, 01:41:13 pm
You know what would be cool? Armour made of diamonds. That way, nothing could pierce it, cause hey, its diamonds. Plus, its lighter than iron or whatever. One day......


Oh errr, congrats man. :yes: :yes:
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 01:42:16 pm
Liberator: I'm sure you haven't taken a jewelers magnifier to a diamond, let alonet _seen_ a synthetic, and from a mineralogical standpoint you don't know WTF you're talking about.  The "unique" properties of a diamond that make it sought after are A) hardness, B) critical angle of 22 degrees, C) supposed rarity

A and B are both related to the coherency of the carbon crystal lattice - the less flaws a diamond has the more expensive it is - ie the closer to being a pure perfectly formed crystal.

Lab ones are purefectly pure crystals.


Libby - PLEASE know what you're talking about before posting - forcing me to explain this has just _RUINED_ this thread

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J3Vr6 and An0n: what is it? the disgruntled comment tword dabeers
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 01:43:09 pm
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Originally posted by Rictor
You know what would be cool? Armour made of diamonds. That way, nothing could pierce it, cause hey, its diamonds. Plus, its lighter than iron or whatever. One day......


Oh errr, congrats man. :yes: :yes:


actually a laser would pierce it - if it didn't reflect due to the extremely low critical angle
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Post by: HotSnoJ on March 11, 2004, 02:03:59 pm
Hey another HLP marriage! w00t!!

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but being that we're atheists we can define when we were "married" to when ever we want... and we generally consider that in the past
Sorry for my misunderstanding, but you can't be "married" unless you have a state issued license. So I'm a little confused.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 02:05:27 pm
HotSnoj: two different definitions of marriage - i wasn't talking state marriage
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Thorn on March 11, 2004, 02:10:24 pm
Kaz, I mean no offense, but that girl of yours must be one tolerant and understanding lass...
Congrats anyway.... :)
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Post by: Stryke 9 on March 11, 2004, 03:13:10 pm
Guess it's a little late now, but that's what Canadian's for.

Yeah, congrats and good luck. Regardless of the depressing nature of your initial post, I'm reasonably sure you're happy with the arrangement, so good for you.

Rictor: Yeah, but I think diamonds over a certain size would shatter. They might be hard, but they aren't nearly as flexible as a metal. Diamond coatings are always nice, though, as would be some kinda chain-mail-like setup that compensated for the rigidity of the crystals. And if you're gonna get that complicated with synthesizing the things, you might as well go all out and do compacted fullerene or monomolecular stuff.
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Post by: HotSnoJ on March 11, 2004, 03:14:59 pm
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Originally posted by HotSnoJ
Hey another HLP marriage! w00t!!

 Sorry for my misunderstanding, but you can't be "married" unless you have a state issued license. So I'm a little confused.
Hence my confusion. Would you please enlighten me? :)
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Zuljin on March 11, 2004, 03:29:25 pm
Congratulations :)
hope you two will be happy together :nod:
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Post by: ChronoReverse on March 11, 2004, 03:34:36 pm
OMG why are you people discussing the rarity, purity and chemical composition of diamonds?


Anyways, congratulations to Kazan (even if he's irked XD )
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Post by: Stryke 9 on March 11, 2004, 03:36:36 pm
Because we're GEEKS. Duh.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: aldo_14 on March 11, 2004, 04:16:29 pm
Y'know, you can compress dead people (ashes) into diamonds now ;7
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: redsniper on March 11, 2004, 04:19:25 pm
@ Rictor: diamonds would be far too brittle to make armor out of. A sword could easliy shatter a plate of diamond, not to mention a bullet or explosion

And uh... congrats to Kazan
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: diamondgeezer on March 11, 2004, 04:20:43 pm
How much diamond does one human's worth of ashes make?
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: aldo_14 on March 11, 2004, 04:29:18 pm
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Originally posted by diamondgeezer
How much diamond does one human's worth of ashes make?


One.   I dunno... not diamondify-ed anyone yet.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 04:32:48 pm
rotfl

my first post depressing? i must be confusing you with our symantics
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: aldo_14 on March 11, 2004, 04:33:59 pm
There was hint of a sigh in it.  Such is the medium of...er... text
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Liberator on March 11, 2004, 04:39:53 pm
Kaz has anyone told you that you suck the air out of the room?

The fewer impurites in natural diamond are more desirable and thus more valuable.  Synthetic diamonds can be crunk out by the truckload and are thus less valuable.

Accept my congratulation as they are intended and stop trying to put meaning into peoples words that aren't there.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 04:57:10 pm
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Originally posted by Liberator
The imperfections are what give natural diamonds their character, synthetics are nice but they look like glass in most situations.


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Originally posted by Liberator
The fewer impurites in natural diamond are more desirable and thus more valuable.  Synthetic diamonds can be crunk out by the truckload and are thus less valuable.



Until you learn not to contradict yourself stay out of my threads

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Originally posted by Liberator
Accept my congratulation as they are intended and stop trying to put meaning into peoples words that aren't there.


you're ruining my thread with your cop out crap - you were wrong- admit it.


Also - MANUFACTURED DIAMONDS being cheap is the entire point - diamonds are not _rare_.  Even natural diamonds are not as rare as DaBeers makes them out to be.


Origionally blair wasn't even going to _get_ diamonds she was going to get saphire because normally she doens't llike diamond - just this particular ring she liked
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Flipside on March 11, 2004, 05:00:29 pm
Well congrats Kaz, you can still be an atheist and indulge in a little symbology :D
Sharon likes Cubic Zircona, which is just fine by me ;)
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 05:06:24 pm
hehe nice flip :D
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Post by: J3Vr6 on March 11, 2004, 05:13:56 pm
Hold on guys, I think I can pick up a chunk of glass off the street... Hmm.. Yeah, my girl will just LOVE this!

It's one thing to be price conscious, but another thing is forgetting that this ring will be the symbol of your unity for the rest of your life.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 05:14:55 pm
J3Vr6: my girlfriend agrees with me about diamonds
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Post by: Nico on March 11, 2004, 05:35:31 pm
Girls :doubt:
Nothing better than a girl so I make a fool of myself, w/o any help from anybody else.
My latest feat: I have a crush for a pregnant girl, who asked me out a few years ago and I, thinking she was already with somebody else, turned her flat down.
Go me :doubt:
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Liberator on March 11, 2004, 05:45:11 pm
At least they talk to you, I can't even get a girl to look cross-eyed at me.
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Post by: Nico on March 11, 2004, 05:48:40 pm
But everybody talks to me, there's something like a "I am your best friend" aura around me, so no big deal there.
And I tell you: that's a curse, when it comes to girls ( the one mentioned above is an exeption, I suppose ).
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 05:53:57 pm
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Originally posted by Liberator
At least they talk to you, I can't even get a girl to look cross-eyed at me.


:lol: :ha: :D  No comment :D :ha: :lol:
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Post by: mikhael on March 11, 2004, 05:57:17 pm
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Originally posted by J3Vr6
It's one thing to be price conscious, but another thing is forgetting that this ring will be the symbol of your unity for the rest of your life.

Its not the diamond that is the symbol of your unity. Its the ring.

What do they teach these kids these days? There's a reason the diamond is almost always on the engagement ring, NOT the wedding ring.

As for diamond quality, my wife and I went with a cheaper diamond with a few impurities, but an excellent cut. It came out cheaper, larger, and more brilliant than any of the more expensive diamonds (which we couldn't really afford). The setting also really helped bring out the fire in it. Its gorgeous.

For what its worth, Kaz, my wife and I are with you on the DeBiers thing. You SHOULD avoid giving them your money, especially with respect to a ring of this nature. They're one of the most evil business consortiums on the planet.
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Post by: ZylonBane on March 11, 2004, 06:06:52 pm
(http://www.sallys-place.com/images/beverages/beer/beers.jpg)

Ah, da beers...
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Post by: karajorma on March 11, 2004, 06:34:50 pm
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Originally posted by J3Vr6
It's one thing to be price conscious, but another thing is forgetting that this ring will be the symbol of your unity for the rest of your life.


The point your missing is that for the same price as a 1 carot clear natural diamond you can buy a 3 or 4 carot artificial coloured diamond which looks much more impressive. On top of that it isn't even fake. It's so similar to a natural diamond that it needs to be tested in a specially built device to tell the difference
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Post by: Shrike on March 11, 2004, 06:39:15 pm
Pfft.  Diamonds are for the unoriginal.  Get something interesting, like, oh, tourmaline.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 11, 2004, 06:41:25 pm
some of the newer lab diamonds are only distinquishable because of the on their registration card is says "Lab made"


(http://barrygoldberg.net/fark/debeers1a.jpg)(http://barrygoldberg.net/fark/debeers2a.jpg)
(http://photoshop.superdownloads.net/uploads/debeers.jpg)(http://grog.uchicago.edu/fark/trueadvert1.jpg)
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Post by: Nuke on March 11, 2004, 07:16:38 pm
congrats kaz, now start breeding so you can teach your kids c++ and finish ferium :D.

testing jewelry is one thing i actually liked doing during my brief pawn shop carear. the gold acid test was really fun to do. for testing diamonds we would simply induce an elecric shock, if it conducted, it was a diamond. purity we didnt care about because we only gave about a third of what it was worth.
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Post by: J3Vr6 on March 12, 2004, 08:22:22 am
I was saying it for the comment of the cubic zarconia, which to me reminds me of the home shopping network.  But if that's your cup of joe, then it's all you.

I gots no problem getting a test tube diamond.  It's actually smart to do so, they're almost perfect.  The only problem with getting one from a lab is that it won't be appraised at a much higher value later in the future than a natural diamond.  And appreciation is a good thing (and let's not start the "well if you're planning on staying together forever you shouldn't be thinking about it's appreciation" cuz then I really will pee on you since you have no concept of the value of money).

And "what are they teaching *kids* these days?"  I'm pushing close to 30, now u make me feel old (empties colostomy bag).  If you think the engagement ring isn't also a symbol of your unity, then we got a different belief in that.  I don't know about you guys, but I don't just give any girl an engagement ring.  To me, you give a girl an engagement ring, and it's your commitment to her that you want her for the rest of your life.    A wedding ring, to me, is just that it's official.  That's why the wedding band is usually just plain, solid platinum or gold (or silver).  But the commitment is still there the moment you propose and slip that rubber.. I mean ring.. on.

And as such, I'm not gonna shop the Home Shopping Network's Suzanne Sommers collection for a $2.99 cubic zarconia ring when I propose to my lady.  If I'm going to be doing something that I plan to only do once in my life, for the person who makes my world a much better place, then I'm going to do it right.
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Post by: Flipside on March 12, 2004, 08:52:03 am
Heh, the best way I show my partner that I love her is to be there for her when she needs me, believe in her, and know that she believesin me. What's a rock going to tell her that our obvious affection for each other does not? The simple act of being there for your partner is more honest than diamonds, and, believe it or not, it lasts longer.
And she really does prefer Cubic Zircona :)
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Post by: Gortef on March 12, 2004, 09:36:37 am
Congrats Kazan
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Post by: Liberator on March 12, 2004, 11:24:10 am
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Originally posted by Flipside
Heh, the best way I show my partner that I love her is to be there for her when she needs me, believe in her, and know that she believesin me. What's a rock going to tell her that our obvious affection for each other does not? The simple act of being there for your partner is more honest than diamonds, and, believe it or not, it lasts longer.
And she really does prefer Cubic Zircona :)


It's not the rock or the ring, it's what it represents.

The ring represents the unendingness of your love for each other.  

The diamond represents the strength and permanence of the bond that you enter into with the girl.
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Post by: Kazan on March 12, 2004, 11:34:14 am
Liberator: sing the chorus of Dabeers

you realize nobody thought that until in the 1920s DaBeers sent sales reps around to shows all over the united states and performed the single most successful social hack in history
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Post by: Styxx on March 12, 2004, 11:40:08 am
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Originally posted by ZylonBane
(http://www.sallys-place.com/images/beverages/beer/beers.jpg)

Ah, da beers...


Indeed.

And I never heard of De Beers before reading this thread. What's the whole deal?
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Post by: mikhael on March 12, 2004, 11:42:37 am
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Originally posted by J3Vr6
And "what are they teaching *kids* these days?"  I'm pushing close to 30, now u make me feel old (empties colostomy bag).  If you think the engagement ring isn't also a symbol of your unity, then we got a different belief in that.  I don't know about you guys, but I don't just give any girl an engagement ring.  To me, you give a girl an engagement ring, and it's your commitment to her that you want her for the rest of your life.    A wedding ring, to me, is just that it's official.  That's why the wedding band is usually just plain, solid platinum or gold (or silver).  But the commitment is still there the moment you propose and slip that rubber.. I mean ring.. on.

You kids these days. Close to thirty? Speak up when you GET to thirty.

You're right: the engagement ring IS a symbol of commitment, but its not a symbol of unity. Its a commitment to take the NEXT step and get the wedding ring, the symbol of the union of your two lives. Union... unity... see how it works? The wedding band is a plain circle with no blandishments or fripperies because symbolizes something simple and pure, that requires no decoration: the binding together forever (well in theory) of your lives.

For what its worth, historically, the engagement ring is a relatively new concept, whilst the wedding ring is positively ancient. Kaz is absolutely correct: the whole diamond engagement ring is the secular creation of a consortium to push diamond sales. It has absolutely no symbolic value and certainly no religious basis.
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Post by: 01010 on March 12, 2004, 11:46:11 am
(http://grog.uchicago.edu/fark/trueadvert1.jpg)

Yeah right, the day they stop is the day I'm gone.
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Post by: Liberator on March 12, 2004, 11:48:34 am
Kaz are you suspious of everybodies motives?
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Post by: mikhael on March 12, 2004, 11:57:01 am
You should be suspicous of the motives of anyone who wants you to part with two months' salary for ANYTHING. Its called "personal financial responsibility". The sad fact of the world today (and perhaps all time) is that you cannot trust anyone's motives when your loss will be their gain.

Take DeBiers and their ilk. They have a problem: diamonds are A) not really as rare as they make out, and B) people just don't buy diamonds all the time. They want to make money, so what do they do? Induce artificial scarcity, and create an excuse for people to spend money on their product. It works even better if you can tie this excuse to something people have a gut, emotional reaction to. Thus they create the 'diamond engagement ring'. They proclaim, "See, proof of your love! PHAT L3WT ON HER HAND! 0wnt!!!1111" Its pure psychology and advertising.

Kaz knows the score as do I. We just want to keep the world HONEST.
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Post by: Unknown Target on March 12, 2004, 12:21:03 pm
EDIT: Never mind. Boy I seem to be doing this a lot lately. :D
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Post by: SadisticSid on March 12, 2004, 12:22:49 pm
mik, how is that anything but honest? Social engineering always plays a part in getting consumers to buy 'new' things, such as the whole mobile/cell-phone industry. If DeBeers got to where it is these days by legal (I won't say legitimate, since that's more open to ambiguity) business practises, they deserve their success.
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Post by: an0n on March 12, 2004, 12:30:14 pm
Yup.

If they're willing to try hard enough, good for them.
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Post by: mikhael on March 12, 2004, 12:37:32 pm
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Originally posted by SadisticSid
mik, how is that anything but honest? Social engineering always plays a part in getting consumers to buy 'new' things, such as the whole mobile/cell-phone industry. If DeBeers got to where it is these days by legal (I won't say legitimate, since that's more open to ambiguity) business practises, they deserve their success.


In this case I mean 'Honest' as in 'providing an alternative point of view'. Kinda like the President keeps the Congress "honest" with his veto, and Congress keeps the President "honest" by being able to override his veto if necessary. Notice, that I'm not saying that either one is "honest" in the sense that they are "truthful and free from prevarication and falsehood".

Sorry for the confusion.
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Post by: Flipside on March 12, 2004, 01:28:45 pm
My symbol of my love and devotion for my partner is my love and devotion for my partner, it's easy to carry, and if Sharon goes out alone, theres no chance of her being attacked for it ;)
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Post by: J3Vr6 on March 12, 2004, 01:32:15 pm
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Originally posted by mikhael

You kids these days. Close to thirty? Speak up when you GET to thirty.


Bah, I pee on you.  If we're going to get into a "I'm older than you so I know more about the world and ways of man" I am not only going to pee but poop too, and I had corn last night.

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Posted by Mikhael:
You're right: the engagement ring IS a symbol of commitment, but its not a symbol of unity. Its a commitment to take the NEXT step and get the wedding ring, the symbol of the union of your two lives. Union... unity... see how it works?...


It seems we have a different belief in that regard (note, someones belief doesn't necessarily have to be the mainstream). I refer to what I wrote last time on what I believe in:

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Originally posted by me:
If you think the engagement ring isn't also a symbol of your unity, then we got a different belief in that. I don't know about you guys, but I don't just give any girl an engagement ring. To me, you give a girl an engagement ring, and it's your commitment to her that you want her for the rest of your life. A wedding ring, to me, is just that it's official.


So it's kosher.  I respect and understand what you're saying, no need to explain how union and unity works.  Engagement, for me, is as important as marriage to me.  If you've commited to marry, then you should have had that commitment since the moment you've been engaged (or you wouldn't have proposed in the first place, no?)  I just feel differently about it than you do.  All is right in the world again, even if we have different views.

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Posted by Mikhael:
...the whole diamond engagement ring is the secular creation of a consortium to push diamond sales. It has absolutely no symbolic value and certainly no religious basis. [/B]



That's certainly true.  But that won't stop me from buying one when I propose.  Dabeers has been cornering the market on diamonds, it's practically a monopoly.  Until test tube diamonds become more mainstream, prices for those diamonds won't drop.  Will I be happy by what I pay?  Depends on how much I overpaid or not.  A diamond ring has to also be seen as an investment (at least that will help stomach some of the Mylanta).   Will I spend 2 months salary?  HELL NO, that would be as much as a downpayment on a house.  That's just them trying to guilt you into spending more.


EDIT:  I forgot to close a quote, d'oh me.
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Post by: karajorma on March 12, 2004, 02:16:48 pm
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Originally posted by Liberator
It's not the rock or the ring, it's what it represents.

The ring represents the unendingness of your love for each other.  

The diamond represents the strength and permanence of the bond that you enter into with the girl.


If all that is 100% how come they don't buy us something?

When the diamond trade started this whole scheme up in the 20's it was one thing but now women work too. Where's the symbol of love for us men?

BTW. When did a engagement ring become 2 months salary? I thought it was only one months worth?
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Post by: Liberator on March 12, 2004, 02:24:31 pm
Men have, socially anyway, always been considered the providers.  A Wife can depend on their Husband for all financial matters and not be chastised.  Husbands who depend on their Wives for support are considered to be bastards of one sort or another.

Last I looked, and this was a while ago, a diamond ring could be had at a local jewelry store for $200-300.  These days, for a man considering marriage and all that comes with it, that shouldn't be a month's salary.
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Post by: Shrike on March 12, 2004, 02:25:07 pm
Why does it have to cost a set amount?

And Kaz, if you didn't like De Beers, why didn't you get a Canadian diamond?
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Post by: Kazan on March 12, 2004, 02:29:58 pm
i honestly don't know who the supplier was - but the diamond industry is all one big cartel
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Post by: J3Vr6 on March 12, 2004, 02:31:09 pm
Yeah it's the OPEC of jewelry.
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Post by: Shrike on March 12, 2004, 04:22:21 pm
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Originally posted by Kazan
i honestly don't know who the supplier was - but the diamond industry is all one big cartel
Shows what you know.  You realize the Canadian diamond firms have a very good chance of breaking the de beers monopoly wide open, right?
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Post by: Kazan on March 12, 2004, 04:26:09 pm
Actually the Lab diamond firms have the best chance :D
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Post by: Kazan on March 12, 2004, 04:51:23 pm
i figured i probably should respond to this


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Originally posted by Liberator
Kaz are you suspious of everybodies motives?



maybe your problem is that you _don't_

You should always consider possible motives when trying to figure out another persons actions, thoughts, etc.
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Post by: Odyssey on March 12, 2004, 05:06:47 pm
[color=cc9900]You should always consider possible motives, on that point I agree. However, how you act on those considerations requires more careful thought depending on the situation - it doesn't always involve jumping down someone's throat, inviting though it may seem.[/color]
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Post by: karajorma on March 12, 2004, 05:10:28 pm
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Originally posted by Liberator
Men have, socially anyway, always been considered the providers.  A Wife can depend on their Husband for all financial matters and not be chastised.  Husbands who depend on their Wives for support are considered to be bastards of one sort or another.


I'm not talking about support. I'm talking about a gift to show that you love your fiance. Why should only men have to do that?

 Men should demand a big screen TV as an engagement gift. It would be symbolic of the fact that we're settling down and spending most nights at home instead of out partying with the lads ;)
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Post by: Odyssey on March 12, 2004, 05:12:43 pm
[color=cc9900]An engagement gift that destroys marriages? Interesting idea, to be sure ^_^[/color]
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Post by: mikhael on March 12, 2004, 05:13:38 pm
My wife wanted to give me an engagement ring, but I vetoed it. She also wanted me to have a bachelor's party, but I vetoed that too.

As for exactly why women generally don't give men engagement rings and the like: it boils down to the general disregard society has for post-mating males. But that's another conversation.
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Post by: Setekh on March 12, 2004, 05:16:17 pm
Well, I hardly know what to say. Hope you have a happy life, Kazan.
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Post by: Knight Templar on March 12, 2004, 08:54:20 pm
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Originally posted by mikhael
My wife wanted to give me an engagement ring, but I vetoed it. She also wanted me to have a bachelor's party, but I vetoed that too.

As for exactly why women generally don't give men engagement rings and the like: it boils down to the general disregard society has for post-mating males. But that's another conversation.


Makes me wonder what else you "vetoed"...
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Post by: Shrike on March 12, 2004, 09:37:27 pm
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Originally posted by Kazan
Actually the Lab diamond firms have the best chance :D
Except lab diamonds aren't authentic, and authenticity will always have a place.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: an0n on March 12, 2004, 09:39:28 pm
Ah, the goth-ness asserts itself.

Just accept that everyone and everything is fake and move on, Shrikey. I know it's hard but......err.........Carry on.
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Post by: Kazan on March 12, 2004, 11:07:37 pm
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Originally posted by Shrike
Except lab diamonds aren't authentic, and authenticity will always have a place.


define "aren't authentic" because they're the exact same crystal matrix, and are typically flawless
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Post by: Thorn on March 12, 2004, 11:10:36 pm
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Originally posted by Kazan


define "aren't authentic" because they're the exact same crystal matrix, and are typically flawless

These ones didnt take a few million years to make...
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Post by: Kazan on March 12, 2004, 11:11:51 pm
actually naturally occuring ones don't take a million years to make.. they don't take that long to crystalize


you two just mean they're not "authentically fakely-scare"
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Post by: Thorn on March 12, 2004, 11:19:07 pm
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Originally posted by Kazan
actually naturally occuring ones don't take a million years to make.. they don't take that long to crystalize


you two just mean they're not "authentically fakely-scare"

Actually I couldt care either way, I was just guessing at what he meant...
I'm not into the ring thing. If I want to tell a girl I love her and want to spend the rest of my life, I'll bloody say it.
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Post by: Liberator on March 12, 2004, 11:56:08 pm
Don't mind Kaz, he hates almost everybody and just isn't man enough to admit it.

Scratch that, he hates people who make their living scheistering(sp?) people and everybody who's not a bible burning atheist.

I still wish him happiness in his new, married life.  

I think 20 is too young and so does just about everybody else with any expertise on the subject.  Hell, at 20 I wasn't sure what was going to be happening 5 days away, much less needing to plan for children, private school if you prefer, college after that, and God know what else.

Despite this, Kazan, with all the sincerity I can muster, I hope you and your Chosen have a wonderful life the likes of which you can't even imagine yet.
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Post by: Shrike on March 13, 2004, 12:02:46 am
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Originally posted by Kazan
you two just mean they're not "authentically fakely-scare"
Diamonds don't exactly grow on trees either.  While they almost certainly cost more than they're really worth, gem-quality diamonds are still rare.  It's only relatively recently with discoveries in Canada and Siberia that any significant new diamond fields have been found in the last while.  They take some rather specific geologic formations, ones that are not all that common.

Plus artificial diamonds have the stigma of being artificial.  Yes, you can tell them apart.  Artificial diamonds can be too perfect.

As for not authentic, what's the point of buying diamond jewelry if it's not authentic out of the ground?  Aren't you getting it because you want something expensive?  Like I said, if it was me I'd get something totally different.  There's a lot of more attractive gemstones out there, ones that don't look like a chunk of extra-sparkly glass.
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Post by: Liberator on March 13, 2004, 12:23:08 am
Like amethysts, emeralds, topazes and, mmmm, saphires.
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Post by: übermetroid on March 13, 2004, 01:01:13 am
This is cool.  I am shopping for an Ring.  Anybody have any good sites to look at?  Up north or fake is ok by me.
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Post by: mikhael on March 13, 2004, 01:18:27 am
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Originally posted by Liberator
Don't mind Kaz, he hates almost everybody and just isn't man enough to admit it.

Scratch that, he hates people who make their living scheistering(sp?) people and everybody who's not a bible burning atheist.

I don't think Kaz hates me, and I've never burned a Bible in my life. And I'm certainly no atheist. ;)

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I think 20 is too young and so does just about everybody else with any expertise on the subject.  Hell, at 20 I wasn't sure what was going to be happening 5 days away, much less needing to plan for children, private school if you prefer, college after that, and God know what else.

:lol: At 18yo, I'd already met the woman I fell in love with, and had decided to marry her. At 20, it was set in stone. I may not have known what I was going to do five days from that moment, but I did know that I was going to marry her one day. It took another five years before I actually DID marry her, mind you.

20yo is too young for SOME people, but by no means all or even most.
Title: So i bought a diamond ring yesterday
Post by: Kazan on March 13, 2004, 08:47:09 am
Liberator can you become any less mature
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Post by: Liberator on March 13, 2004, 12:27:52 pm
probably not, I freely admit I have the mentality of a 12yo.  That's probably why I don't understand why "Adults" have to make things so difficult.  Especially in matters of Law or Politics.
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Post by: Stryke 9 on March 13, 2004, 12:30:45 pm
The simple way being...?
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Post by: Flipside on March 13, 2004, 12:42:34 pm
Difficult?? We are the ones who want to live and let live, you're the one trying to place constraints on who can do what, and we are the ones being difficult?

That's rich ;)
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Post by: Thorn on March 13, 2004, 01:09:17 pm
Hooray for hypocrisy! :rolleyes:
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Post by: Liberator on March 13, 2004, 01:30:07 pm
And you(the Left/liberals/Socialists/Commies/Hedonists/ect.) want to force Society(which I beleive is still moral in it's make up) toward your Ideal.  So much for live and let live, huh?

The difference is I want certain parts of society to stay the same(i.e. moral, ethical and maybe even honorable behavior on the part of Public Servants and people in general.).

BTW, if you want to attack me start a new thread.  This one is to congratulate Kazan on his upcoming marriage.
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Post by: Stryke 9 on March 13, 2004, 01:43:40 pm
Suppose you're right. This is Kazan's thread, we'll let Kazan have dibs on ripping into your deranged ass.
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Post by: Flipside on March 13, 2004, 01:51:49 pm
You're right Stryke, though I'm going to have to bite my fingers after that last comment there... Think I'll just leave Liberator to find out the hard way, since he seems to think that saying 'Do what you feel makes you complete, and don't do it if you don't want to' is more a matter of 'Force' that 'You can't do that because I'm sexually insecure and because I have a screwed idea that Morals are equivalent to getting my own way because I am perfect and live a perfect life and am so incredibly close to a deity that I have the right to judge absolutely everyone else on the planet.'.
If you want to choose to live the life you lead, then good luck to you and I wish you happiness, but don't tell anyone else how to live their life, or who to love, because, quite frankly, it's absolutely none of your busniess.

Anyway, sorry Kaz, I'm getting angry again.
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Post by: Stryke 9 on March 13, 2004, 02:00:20 pm
Me, too, but there'll no doubt be plenty more opportunities.
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Post by: Thorn on March 13, 2004, 02:07:41 pm
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Originally posted by Liberator
And you(the Left/liberals/Socialists/Commies/Hedonists/ect.) want to force Society(which I beleive is still moral in it's make up) toward your Ideal.  So much for live and let live, huh?

Way to label people without knowing a damn thing about their beleifs.
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Post by: Kazan on March 13, 2004, 02:13:21 pm
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Originally posted by Liberator
freely admit I have the mentality of a 12yo.  
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Post by: Zarax on March 13, 2004, 02:20:46 pm
Oh well, it seems i'm late... Congratulations Kazan, get a long and happy life with your wife.
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Post by: J3Vr6 on March 15, 2004, 08:34:44 am
Wow, u guys get busy during the weekend...
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Post by: Odyssey on March 15, 2004, 11:30:43 am
[color=cc9900]Yeah, sure I do, but not here... ;7

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