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Off-Topic Discussion => General Discussion => Topic started by: Liberator on January 24, 2005, 12:41:35 am
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Okay, since I'm in a **** me kinda mood, I'm curious, how many of the rest of you have found someone...anyone...at this point I don't really care if you marry 'em, but if you're having sex you better be planning to.
*nuts...could some mod throw a second married option up there for those that are married but don't have children?
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Long time gf, pretty serious...who knows....:p
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Ask me tomorrow. :p
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:(
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I had a girlfriend. It's not a pretty story, don't ask.
As for right now...well, there is someone, but it's...well, it's not fitting into your categories, because we haven't done anything that falls into the definition of "date". Mainly we happen to end up in the same place at the same time freakishly often.
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Been with my girlfriend for a bit over a year now, still a happy relationship. Er, we're only 16 at this point so marriage isn't quite an option yet.
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Where's the "Almost Married" option? :lol:
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my girlfriend kinda disapeared, so im not sure if were still together or not. i havent seen her sence mid december so i dont know. i had a chance to sleep with somone else but i turned her down.
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I've been sleeping with my hands for the past 19 years.
Other than that...:doubt:
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no boyfriend, lotsa guy friends... it's weird, i think i have more close guy friends than close girl friends. *shrugs*
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I don't have a boyfriend, even though I have good looks and character (IMO ;)). I know a couple of cute lads here and there, but I would propably only get my ass kicked if I told them about my orientation/preference. :sigh:
But, I'm still young, and one day, I'm going to have a whole harem of boys! ;7
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Dating. Two months now.. And we have already talked about engagement :p ..Oh, BTW, I'm under her heel :lol: But I don't complain.. I like being under her ;7
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Girlfriend? Nah, I cherrish my freedom too much for that.
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:( Carl is alone
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Kal is in Unversity, sampling the finest that it has to offer in academic, sporting and.. uh.. extracurricular activities.
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vyper is about to leave University, having done the above.
vyper needs a new bird ....
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Everyone stop talking in the 3rd person! Only Carl can do that!
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Wall, I celebrated my 8th year with Sharon last week. Still Happy :D
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Happy anniversary, Flipside. :)
It's going to be the two Eternal Dragons for me, I believe. :D
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Pfaaaaah, judging from your looks and your personality, I believe you don't put much effort into it, right? :p
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Bah! Classes were cancelled today! Blasted snow!
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Actually, if theres one thing I love above all others about Sharon, it's her philosophy that me being hunched over the computer all evening, shooting aliens or posting on the forums is better than me being out all evening getting drunk etc ;)
It's just as well, as I'm far too obsessive about my computer stuff ;)
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I gotta love my girlfriend.. When we had met few times, she told me that she plays games. I thought she meant solitaire, tetris or perhaps even Sims. But when I found out the last game she played was Doom 3, I fell in love :D She's the first girl I know that plays FPS games. (i won't play with her. i'll die if i lose to a girl)
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Due to my being a wee bit too much anti-social, and wayyyyyy to honest with girl, I don't see myself getting a girlfriend soon. I mean, last time a friend of mine asked me how she looked, I kinda told her she looked like a whore. And I wasn't even trying to be vicious !! But when a girl asks this while wearing a skirt, long leather boots, and tight clothing, sorry, but I really can't say anything else :p
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You forgot the 'seeing someone else but still besotted with your ex' option. :(
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been trying like hell to get a date with this real nice girl I met in a statistics and (realy got to know her beond her name) a calculus class for a bit more than a year.
she's smart real nice and extreemly smart, oh, and single, perfict by my standards. she's also an Albanian imegrant and she seems to not want a boyfrend for some reason ("I'm just not redy") :doubt:
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I have a paranormal gift. I only get interested in girls who aren't available, although I don't know that when I meet them first.
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Originally posted by Genryu
Due to my being a wee bit too much anti-social, and wayyyyyy to honest with girl, I don't see myself getting a girlfriend soon. I mean, last time a friend of mine asked me how she looked, I kinda told her she looked like a whore. And I wasn't even trying to be vicious !! But when a girl asks this while wearing a skirt, long leather boots, and tight clothing, sorry, but I really can't say anything else :p
You could have said that she looked sexy, too.
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Lib, you forgot "Never Really Tried to get a date" vote :lol:, but more then likley it would be the last one. But, i'm only 16, so I have time.
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Could have, but since she has a boyfriend and was going to live for a month in my 18m² appartement, I wasn't going to open THAT can of worms. Plus, it's true that she's hot. Imagine an asian babe, 50kg for 1,60m, and huge flotation device :D
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Hmm, well, then, was better to raise your shoulders, ala, hem, me, that way you voice a non dangerous opinion that means "think what you want" :p
And don't get me started on hot asian chicks, will you :p
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My bird has big knockers. I've mentioned this before, but I feel it's important that we're all aware of the fact.
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How do you think he does it?
I don't know
What makes him so good?
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Originally posted by Col. Fishguts
I have a paranormal gift. I only get interested in girls who aren't available, although I don't know that when I meet them first.
That happened to me about a month ago. I hate that.
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Married , going on 4 years.
Been together 10+
I recommend pre-marital sex ;)
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Originally posted by Thorn
That happened to me about a month ago. I hate that.
It happened to me like 5 times in a row now, and I'm getting closer to the point where I'm gonna say "Screw them all, I'm turning to the gay side now :ha: ! just-want-to-be-friends-THAT!"
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Married , going on 4 years.
Been together 10+
I recommend pre-marital sex ;)
Well, 6+ years w/o it would be a living hell imho.
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Originally posted by diamondgeezer
My bird has big knockers. I've mentioned this before, but I feel it's important that we're all aware of the fact.
and we're all so proud of you :p
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at 16, relationships aint what im lookin for.
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(http://server2.uploadit.org/files/nukebomb-meandb.jpg)
damn i miss her, i never had to **** with my hair when she was around. maybe she will come back to me :(
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I have no girlfriend, mostly because I lack ambition and I'm a bit too cynical about high school relationships, so I chose option 6.
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Married with nine kids.
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Originally posted by Col. Fishguts
I have a paranormal gift. I only get interested in girls who aren't available, although I don't know that when I meet them first.
Ditto. Haven't figured a solution yet...
I had two scenarios like that in 2004, a a truckload more in the previous years (something like 6 or 7). Can't figure it out. University is almost up...
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Looks like I'm the only engaged.
BTW Nuke you look like a pretty big guy. Kinda scary pic there. :nod:
Here is me and My baby. :D
(http://img189.exs.cx/img189/2742/newimage4oe.jpg)
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congrats you lucky dog!
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It's the uniform isn't it? Chicks dig the uniform?
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Originally posted by vyper
It's the uniform isn't it? Chicks dig the uniform?
Indeed. That's about the only reason why I regret not having served in the army, as my gf has a soft spot for uniforms.
But, it worked for three years nonetheless. ;) But marriage or children? Won't happen in a while.
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Heh, tell me about it, the amount of interest my RAF Greens attracted, even though they were only overalls. I didn't have the heart to tell them I was ground crew ;)
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Originally posted by Thrilla
Looks like I'm the only engaged.
BTW Nuke you look like a pretty big guy. Kinda scary pic there. :nod:
Here is me and My baby. :D
i assure you i am quite large. im 6'4" 250lbs. im big in other places too but i wont go there.
nice gal Thrilla :D you take care of that one.
i had tried to join the marines but i couldnt pas the psych evaluation
- pre-marital sex indeed :D
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That's weird, here, girls hate anything that has an uniform, they don't like the military, they don't like the cops. Well, they don't like authority.
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Sharon thinks Fire Engines are a nice red colour, that, she assures me, is why she always stares at them when they go past :nervous:
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Originally posted by Nico
That's weird, here, girls hate anything that has an uniform, they don't like the military, they don't like the cops. Well, they don't like authority.
hippie chicks are good in bed
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Yeah they pass out easi.... er...
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When I had a uniform (Royal Air Force) it was pretty good, but ironically I pulled my ex while in my off duty mode of biker jacket, jeans etc.
I just looked at all the options in the poll, and 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6 have all applied to me at some point. So I guess the the only thing you can be certain of is change...;)
At the moment, I'm as good as married, and been that way for longer than I care to remember...
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[color=66ff00]To all you people who voted option 7:
Look around you, there's a world of 'ugly people' out there who have partners and are very happy. You simply have to have confidence in yourself, wash every so often and have some respect for yourself i.e. don't settle for the first skank (hate that word but can't think of a better one atm) you see.
The main thing is to get out there and talk to girls, doesn't matter about what, just talk to them. Talk to them like equals, not some goddess like being otherwise you get taken for needy and that's a turnoff.
Also you'll never be happy in a relationship unless your happy with yourself first, why are some people so convinced that meeting someone will make them 'complete', 'happy' or some other nonsense? Nobody wants to be around someone who's an emotional wreck except really needy people who are emotional wrecks themselves, not the basis of a good relationship. Also, never aim too high on the looks scale unless you are very secure in yourself, it's an inbuilt human trait that you try to get as much out of life as possible but you will have a very happy relationship with a girl that looks 'ordinary' compared to a relationship with a stunner who makes you feel insecure because every guy is looking at her.
I didn't get my first proper date until I was 24 and it didn't go that great but it's all a learning experience and I'm getting better at it. Consider this, and it's a fact not a suggestion: You'll feel twice as bad having never walked up to the girl and asked her out as you would if you do and get rejected. I refuse to live out life regretting every 'chance I missed' and you should too.
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Truer words have never been spoken. Sure, rejection sucks, but it doesn't suck as much as seeing another guy ask her out first.
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Yup, and you never know you can get lucky. I sure did. Look at me! I'm an ugly ass bastard, but she seems to think other wise. :rolleyes:
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Indeed, and it's bizarre how often I've heard that after months of procrastinating, a guy finally asks someone out, only to discover she's been expecting him to ask for ages. Happened to me, too - knew my girlfriend two years before we started dating, and half of that time she'd been waiting for me to ask. If that's the case and you procrastinate long enough, they might get the wrong idea and think you're not interested.
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Last option...
I lack in the appearance department (at least for the local standards) and i've got the worst just-friends syndrome in the whole universe :p
I got plenty of female friends but decent dates are as rare as chicken theet ;)
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Originally posted by Ransom Arceihn
Indeed, and it's bizarre how often I've heard that after months of procrastinating, a guy finally asks someone out, only to discover she's been expecting him to ask for ages. Happened to me, too - knew my girlfriend two years before we started dating, and half of that time she'd been waiting for me to ask. If that's the case and you procrastinate long enough, they might get the wrong idea and think you're not interested.
Yeah, well, they're asking for equalty of sexes and stuff, that should be extended to that too: I have no problem with the gal asking first, why do they? :p
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Because now the supposed "weak" gender wants to be the privileged one :p
Kidding of course, i think we're still not there...
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Alternatively go for the "pump n' dump" strategy.
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i think il ask that gal out whos always smiling at me at work. i really miss my brittney but if she doesnt want to help the relationship i havent much choice but to leave her. brittney at least taught me i could attract better looking people. it seems i have several traits that are very desirable to the opposite sex.
as Maeglamor said aiming too high can be a prodblem but all things work both ways, aiming too low can be just as bad. everyone thinks that looks are important. indeed when i met brittney it was her looks that prompted me to give her my number. however i was amazed at how intelegent and creative she was. seemed she possessed all those traits that i deemed desirable. looks might prompt you to initiate communication but they are of little use once the relationship gets going.
another thing ive learned is to avoid people with too many preconceptions about the oposite sex. certain people have had such bad luck with relationships that they have fabricated a load of bull**** that they keep in their minds at all times and fail to accept the possibibity that everything they know could be wrong. theese people are on the path of a self fufilling prophecy of failure. they expect failure of the relationship and therefore it happens.
then there are those who havent a clue what they want and those who know what they want but havent a clue as to how to get it. i know this girl who wants a boyfriend but she continues sex-only relationships with a few of her male friends. shes refused a couple date offers but has asked me to sleep with her on more than one occasion. my goal has always been a long term relationship. its a bad habbit to form **** buddy relationships is this case.
the biggest piece of advice i can offer is just wing it and see what happens.
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I have no problem with the gal asking first, why do they?
My ex-wife asked me via her brother - It was strange, I was just sitting in the pub minding my own business and this guy comes over and says "Do you want to meet my sister?" And about 3 months later I married her...
Of course it didn't last, but it was a pretty good 4 years....
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All I said was you have pretty blue eyes, and she has stuck with me ever since.
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Originally posted by Maeglamor
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Also you'll never be happy in a relationship unless your happy with yourself first, why are some people so convinced that meeting someone will make them 'complete', 'happy' or some other nonsense? Maybe because we realize on some level that we are missing something? Nobody wants to be around someone who's an emotional wreck except really needy people who are emotional wrecks themselves, not the basis of a good relationship.So much for my chances then... Also, never aim too high on the looks scale unless you are very secure in yourself, it's an inbuilt human trait that you try to get as much out of life as possible but you will have a very happy relationship with a girl that looks 'ordinary' compared to a relationship with a stunner who makes you feel insecure because every guy is looking at her.
I didn't get my first proper date until I was 24 and it didn't go that great but it's all a learning experience and I'm getting better at it. Consider this, and it's a fact not a suggestion: You'll feel twice as bad having never walked up to the girl and asked her out as you would if you do and get rejected.I am not equipped to deal with that kind of rejection(not to mention I'd probably puke all over her). I can can handle professional rejections of all kind, hell it's easy I don't gotta do nothing, but personal rejection requires that I put a part of myself into the formula that I may not get back and my psyche is fractured enough at it is. I refuse to live out life regretting every 'chance I missed' and you should too.
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Originally posted by Clave
My ex-wife asked me via her brother
Yeah, I've been asked too already, but you gotta admit, that's rare, too rare.
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How old are you Liberator? Just wondering.
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According to his profile, just short of 27.
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*is in the same boat as Ai No koriida*
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Originally posted by Grey Wolf 2009
just short of 27.
I have resigned myself to being alone, expend no more of your life energies considering me.
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Originally posted by Liberator
I have resigned myself to being alone, expend no more of your life energies considering me.
I wouldnt worry about it too much anyway. Half the girls I've ended up with were when I wasn't even looking. Sometimes it just happens. And it can happen to anyone, so don't beat yourself up if it doesn't happen right away. I don't care who you are, it can and will happen.
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Exactly :nod:
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Originally posted by Thorn
I wouldnt worry about it too much anyway. Half the girls I've ended up with were when I wasn't even looking. Sometimes it just happens. And it can happen to anyone, so don't beat yourself up if it doesn't happen right away. I don't care who you are, it can and will happen.
I wonder, I know more than one people who died single, and have never been with anybody, as far as I know :p
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That's a bit sad...
I believe in duality... Meaning that two people are better off than one. It's a good thing for many reasons, but just coming home to someone at the end of the day is good enough...:)
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Originally posted by Thorn
I wouldnt worry about it too much anyway. Half the girls I've ended up with were when I wasn't even looking. Sometimes it just happens. And it can happen to anyone, so don't beat yourself up if it doesn't happen right away. I don't care who you are, it can and will happen.
It has never and will never just happen to me. I'm slow, I can't dance, I'm not a good conversationalist, I am a modest student on my best day...you guys don't get it, I fail at everything.
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...now... that's just plain wrong. You should see some of the absoulte trash that I've seen married. If they, the absolute scum of the universe can get someone,, so can you. Some day, either out of pity, or out of genuine interest, someone will eventually take an interest in you.
But what you do then, is what will matter.
Hell, if I've been asked out as many times as I have (by both sexes, which I thought was amazing) then so can you. Although, I doubt you'd like guys hitting on you. :p
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We've been throught that though, I'd probably deck him...
It also doesn't change the fact that in my 26 and 3/4 years alive, I have never actually suceeded at anything other than stuff that didn't have a time limit or require much in the way of talent or skill...
I am in every imaginable sense of the word a failure. I can see no situation where I would be able to suceed in a relationship, so I choose not to try to prevent the other from being hurt in some way.
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Lib, dude, no one is as bad as you describe, OK? No one. So, seeing as how you fit in to the "not no one" category, I think you may be overexagerating a tiny bit.
There are literally tens of millions of people who would kill to be where you are. Minor social problems are nothing to really worry about, unless you're the type of person who likes worrying for its own sake, in which case be my guest.
Guess what? The world isn't filled with supermodels ad rockstars. Its full of normal people like you or me, and unless crocodiles bit off your face or something, there's nothing stopping your from getting (girl)friends and whatnot, excpet your own inhibitions. If you think you suck, its a self-fullfiling prohpecy.
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Nobody for me... :(
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Originally posted by Liberator
It also doesn't change the fact that in my 26 and 3/4 years alive, I have never actually suceeded at anything other than stuff that didn't have a time limit or require much in the way of talent or skill...
There's no time limit on finding love, Lib. It could happen tonight, it could happen when you're 45... just wait it out.
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Originally posted by Liberator
It has never and will never just happen to me. I'm slow, I can't dance, I'm not a good conversationalist, I am a modest student on my best day...you guys don't get it, I fail at everything.
kinda sounds like me a few months ago...that was before i had 24-30yr old women hittin on me, and for some reason i get the distinct feeling they know me somehow.
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...and you are how old?
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That's just it, it's not that I have ever turned anyone down or been turned down.
I've never even been asked...not even looked at. I am a 6'3", 295lb empty space...
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I'm single and I don't give a ****. I spend most of my time with girls anyway.
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(based on what Rictor mentioned)
Well, you have a roof over your head right? You probably arent hungry very often are you? Your life isnt threatened on a daily basis is it? You probably have a car right? Your healthy too I persume, no cancer or genetic diseases?
Count your blessings. Some people would DO ANYTHING to get what you have or to be how you are. Be thankful that you are who you are. The trick is to get happy with ones self.
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Originally posted by Liberator
I'm slow, I can't dance, I'm not a good conversationalist, I am a modest student on my best day...you guys don't get it, I fail at everything.
I know that guy! It's me! :sigh:
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I can't even tell when someone is interested...I'm so dense...I could walk through a room full of women who think I'm the next best this to Brad Pitt and not realize it...my only reaction would be anxiety over being in a crowded room...
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Thing is Lib, that's not strictly true, else you would not be here, typing these words.
The thing is, the statement 'Theres someone for everyone' is not true. There are thousands of people for everyone. There are, without doubt, 20 girls within 50 miles who would happily be in a relationship with you if :-
1) They knew you.
2) You lost some of that self-loathing.
The first thing you have to do is shake that conviction that you aren't 'worth' a girlfriend. that you are too geeky or different. I mean, you're in the middle of a Forum for a 5 year-old game worrying about being a geek. Yet many of us are in relationships etc, because we know that in our own little ways we are geeks, everyone is.
Women will detect an emotional martyr a mile off and avoid them, before you can find someone to believe in, you must learn to believe in yourself.
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Originally posted by Flipside
Women will detect an emotional martyr a mile off and avoid them...
Hence why I will always be alone in every sense of the word...
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damn, libs a real wuss
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I give up...:sigh:
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Lib.
If you're a geek, you gotta find a geeky girl too. Happened to me. I'm with my very first gf, who loves me. And before her, I though there's nobody that even likes me. But now, I think there are and have been girls that liked me. You gotta belive in yourself :)
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See even people on the internet can't stand me after a while...
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I never said I can't stand you, I said I give up trying to convince you to stop hating yourself.
These threads, where you ask others about their lives, so you can complain about your own have got to stop, though.
There are people better off than you, yes. But there are people alot worse off than you, too. Your problems are nothing in the grand scheme of things.
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I don't think that nobody meant that they can't stand you..
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1. The best way to not get a girlfriend is to look for one.
2. Talk to every girl as a potential friend, don't get all nervous because they look good, simply tell them they look good, wheres the damage in saying that? If they become friends you may meet someone through them, or your friendship may grow, but it always needs to start off as a friendship. Guys who get all fidgety and insecure will put a girl off.
3. Remember, women like helplessness in kittens and puppies, in men, it bores them.
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I want to apologize...I've acting rather boorish lately and treating you all like crap...like faceless AIs whose only purpose is to keep me from going mad...I'm sorry...:(
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This thread is full of funny.
Seriously, if you're going to come in here to a forum for a five year old game full of 1997 male geeks, moan about your girl situation, turn down all advice and compliments to the otherwise, and ***** some more about how pathetic and miserable you are, women are really the least of your worries.
Take some advice and try it, or go buy some professional advice. Staying here and constantly reminding us of your self-created pit of sorrow without heeding a word we say is annoying to say the least and a waste of everyones' time to put it bluntly. Unless some part of you likes the way you are, then shut up and start trying to change. Otherwise, you're crying to the only group of people you consider friends about how you have none. Frankly, if you're not going to listen, then I don't really care what happens to you.
And crying in self-pity is deffinitely one of the easiest ways to get any girl to become uninterested.
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all you can get here is our bullsh!t, go see a pro and you can get some really expensive bull**** and maybey some pills (ones that would make your d!ck go limp anyway) from a guy with alot of wallpaper. you may utilize the bullsh!t provided to you through your religion. or you may fabricate your own bullsh!t. i find little use for bullsh!t, though i seem to fabricate alot of it. the best knoledge is that which you aquire on your own. you seem to be out for pity, not advice. you may get a little, but soon people will realise they are wasting there time, and then you wil really be alone. shutup, get up and go fight the battle on the front lines. you dont need any bullsh!t
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Originally posted by Rictor
...and you are how old?
19 :) maybe they want some young meat or somethin...
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older gals can be fun too :D
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the 30yr women was pretty...Not beautiful but pretty... man i need to get a new cell phone that takes pics.
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Where´s the "my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me, and-i´m-still-recovering-from-the-shock" option?
Well, at least i got even with the SOB who took her from me...
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Originally posted by Nuke
you seem to be out for pity, not advice. you may get a little, but soon people will realise they are wasting there time, and then you wil really be alone. shutup, get up and go fight the battle on the front lines. you dont need any bullsh!t
I'll take all the advice I can get. Doesn't mean I have to like it or am psychologically capable of following it...
But that's not the purpose of this post.
I have been an Attention Whore, Drama King and a whiny little prick in general for the last couple of days and I wish to apologize. You guys do not deserve that kind of treatment. I'm sorry.
I'm going to shut up now, before I stick my size 12s down my throat again.
*admins/mods please lock any thread that I start to get like this in again or at least ban me from posting in it.
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Originally posted by Liberator
I'm going to shut up now, before I stick my size 12s down my throat again.
that sounded kinda gay, maybe youd be happyer with a dude
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Originally posted by Nuke
that sounded kinda gay, maybe youd be happyer with a dude
He's referring to his shoes you dolt.
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how do you know hes not expressing his subconcious desires, a freuidian slip, you simpleton :D
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You overread, as usual, I was referring to my feet, as in "stick my foot in my mouth". Why can't you take an apology and let it be?
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Guys, i think Lib needs a shock therapy.
Let's find a Gunny Sergeant and let him loose over Lib.
It'll take a few months byt after that he'll get out anew.
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No, one of us would be dead at the end methinks...
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on a request from Lib. thread closed....
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[color=66ff00]Nuke, KT, Zarax: I'm sure you've found some specific reason to make the dumb comments against Lib and there's no doubt that he's been a pain on occassion but what drove you to be twats this time?
You guys are being a special kind of asshole.
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What do you expect? They're not going to get any attention from their ability to make good conversation in the real world. Perhaps insulting someone from the safety of anonymity helps their cronic acne to receed or something.
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*posts just to continue the pattern of adminy-posting-after-lockage* :D