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Off-Topic Discussion => General Discussion => Topic started by: Fury on August 04, 2008, 01:34:20 am
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In a theoretical situation where you've just moved to a new town/city and you have no friends, family or other relatives there. Where and how you would start building social relationships with new people when you have no-one to introduce you to anyone? I expect lots of people to just go to make rounds in local bars/pubs, but where people who don't drink would go to? What would be your preferences?
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when i figure that out il probibly have friends. been here 3 or 4 years and still know fewer people than can be counted on one hand.
in a short period of time i will (probibly) move to an even smaller town.
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It's a good question and one that my fiancee and I have been thinking a lot about, as we think we'll probably leave New York City in the next couple of years once we're ready to start a family. We do have friends/family in other parts of the country, but we aren't necessarily tied to moving to one of those spots. I guess the first place to start is your job, but beyond that, you may have to make an effort - see if there are local clubs that cater to your interests, whether it's outdoor activities, book clubs (probably more for women, don't know many that are for guys), sports fandom, gaming, etc. etc. If you have kids, you'll probably be able to increase your social circle by befriending your kids' friends' parents.
I think one just needs to make him or herself open and approachable (easier for some than others) - introduce yourself to your neighbors, attend any and all public events nearby that you hear about and try to strike up conversations and then hope you get lucky and meet people who are open enough in return to form new friendships.
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Um, I'll just ask around for directions. :blah:
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You could still go to the pub, just say you're a recovering alcoholic.
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I typically ask about any local glory holes. Fast track to lasting friendships.
In the interest of redeeming this post: I'll be in pretty much that situation about a year from now when I'm in grad school. What I'm hoping is that my fellow students won't suck, and that will at least be a jumping off point.
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making freinds is always a hit and miss situation , if you are a non drinker then pubs are still a possibility and clubs as well, just means that at somepoint you will have to talk to drunk ppl.....
have a look in the locallibraries for clubs or societies that interest you....
put an add in the local paper
but realistically your going to have to take the risk and talk to ppl ,
if there arent any clubs that interest you maybe create one.......
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when im in a bar to "make friends" i usually get really drunk and ejected before talking to anyone. granted i was better at it in phoenix but still, none of the friends i made there were lasting.
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I typically ask about any local glory holes.
What I'm hoping is that my fellow students won't suck
Ford Prefect - a man who just loves to give.
:lol:
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That's so wrong. :lol:
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Who gave him that strange title? What does it mean anyway?
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i moved to Jerusalem 5 years ago and i knew no one. shortly after i started work on my small flat space people noticed me and asked about. i quickly got a job where i met my wife and a few trusting people i know and some i would keep at arms length. i met a lot more people when one of these city events happen, just going around talking to many of them. however i wouldnt set foot in a bar even if its my last salvation to be rescued after a savage knife attack outside. smoking kills and not a matter of difference and excessive drinking turns normal people into nasty drunks and can create wife beaters, child abusers, animal offenders and create violence again other people.
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I've never been in a bar, and I don't think I want to go to one just yet.
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Ford Prefect - a man who just loves to give.
:lol:
Hey, I know when to make the necessary sacrifices to make a friendship work.
Who gave him that strange title? What does it mean anyway?
It means I have a small penis. It's hilarious and ironic because it's totally not true at all in any way. That's why everyone laughs. I mean, it's the only reason I can think of. Shut the **** up!
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I'm not laughing. I thought it was a bespectacled version of :D
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In a theoretical situation where you've just moved to a new town/city and you have no friends, family or other relatives there. Where and how you would start building social relationships with new people when you have no-one to introduce you to anyone? I expect lots of people to just go to make rounds in local bars/pubs, but where people who don't drink would go to? What would be your preferences?
Neighbors and work aren't bad places to start.
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Neighbors and work aren't bad places to start.
I second that. :yes: