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Title: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Charismatic on April 05, 2010, 08:29:54 pm
I am doing a English paper and would like to know your opinions.

What does Happiness mean to you?
What is the key to Happiness\How do you obtain it?
Can true Happiness be obtained without sorrow?


This is a serious discussion only, please.

Lastly,
I reserve the right to quote or use the answers given in my paper. If you wish to possibly be properly cited, put your full name in your post. Ill try to properly cite you either way if I use your post.


That said, Discuss!
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Deka1184 on April 05, 2010, 08:40:57 pm
I am doing a English paper and would like to know your opinions.

What does Happiness mean to you?
What is the key to Happiness\How do you obtain it?
Can true Happiness be obtained without sorrow?


This is a serious discussion only, please.

Lastly,
I reserve the right to quote or use the answers given in my paper. If you wish to possibly be properly cited, put your full name in your post. Ill try to properly cite you either way if I use your post.


That said, Discuss!

Happiness to me is.... doing something you love, w/ someone you love, in an environment you love.... and being totally in the moment. I don't believe happiness can be permanent because everyone dies, rather, it is those instantaneous points where you feel you could go on forever doing exactly what you are doing that make life worth while.

The key to happiness is realizing and accepting that everything must come to an end and choosing to live in the above mentioned moments, when you have them, and not anxiously longing after them when they are gone, but cherishing them, and looking forward to the wonderful surprises of the future.

True happiness, I believe, cannot be obtained without sorrow. Sorrow as a prelude to happiness intensifies happiness so much.... because everything is relative. Its not perfection that is beautiful, but the contrast of perfection with surroundings of imperfection.

didn't put much thought into it so don't rip on me too harshly, hope that helps.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: iamzack on April 05, 2010, 08:43:35 pm
1. being the cause of other people's happiness

2. uhm.. i'm thinking

3. being entirely without sadness is probably only possible if you're dead, but if you're dead you can't be happy either. so.. no?
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: NGTM-1R on April 05, 2010, 08:49:15 pm
Acceptance.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: General Battuta on April 05, 2010, 09:02:44 pm
Scientifically, long-term happiness is apparently mostly drawn from relations with other individuals.

'Flow cognition', or deep immersion in challenging but not frustrating tasks, is also a major source.

Money is not a major element.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Liberator on April 05, 2010, 10:05:06 pm
Happiness is a life filled with a job you like and are good at, a mate that wants you for you and not for what you can give them, children to raise and provide you with a sense of immortality, and the ability to obtain all these things without being a braggart about them or ungrateful to have them.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Charismatic on April 05, 2010, 11:53:52 pm
Thanks for the comments sofar guys, their great. Keep them coming HLP!

Acceptance.
Acceptance of or to or from what? What kind?
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: NGTM-1R on April 05, 2010, 11:55:29 pm
Acceptance of or to or from what? What kind?

The question is more properly what can you not accept and still be happy?

And the answer to that is "not much".
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Deka1184 on April 06, 2010, 12:07:09 am
Hmm, accepting something, making peace with it. As long as you accept everything you can never be taken down.

Go with the flow.

Eastern thought.  :)
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Colonol Dekker on April 06, 2010, 12:30:47 am
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Question: What is the Key to Happiness

 
 
Peace of mind and good health. A sense of fulfillment.
 
You'd need to define happiness though, not a general definition. A personal/individual definition. My above answers max not cut the mustard for everyone.
 
To that end I'd say mutual undertanding and tolerance plays no small part.
 
 
It's James Dobbs-Reynolds by the way.
 
Of LONDON. ;)
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: MP-Ryan on April 06, 2010, 12:46:15 am
Scientifically, long-term happiness is apparently mostly drawn from relations with other individuals.

Yup.  There was a paper published on this that examined lottery winners not that long ago.  Conclusion:  loving long-term relationships make people far happier than comfortable lives.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: watsisname on April 06, 2010, 12:48:16 am
Happiness is temporary.  The pursuit of happiness is eternal.  Sex, drugs, and alcohol make a great quick fix though lol

But seriously, I think the key to happiness is finding some activity you love, and becoming truly good at it.  Maybe it's a sport, maybe it's a job, or maybe it's something very personal/private and isn't even beneficial to the world at large.  Whatever it is, it should be something you really care about. :)
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: swashmebuckle on April 06, 2010, 02:27:45 am
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylQMhYqSntk

'nuff said
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Mars on April 06, 2010, 02:29:27 am
Happiness can only happen when you let go of the muddled idea of what SHOULD be and embrace the idea of the best things could possibly be.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Thaeris on April 06, 2010, 11:21:33 am
...Eugh...

The fundamental construct of true happiness is immaterial - the elements and conventions of this worldly plane are of no concern.

Thus said, what is needed to be happy? What is required is that which does not have need of direct interaction with the physical - freedom of thought and mind. However, there also must be established order in such a system as to deny the presence of chaotic degredation. Such a state will result in its own self-destruction.

Therefore, to be happy, people ought to be free. However, in the contrast and balance of this presumption, order of a sort must be established so as to deny chaos and the self-destructive nature of man to disrupt peace.

It must also be noted that with freedom of thought and mind, there must exist in the individual the capacity to test and reason about said thoughts - "testing them with fire," if you will - so as to maintain order within the mind. To be free is to bear a burden and a responsibility; to be happy is to be free. A pure state of happiness is thus linked to a code of honor - a righteous burden in the soul.

...Meh. That's all I feel up to throwing out there on a philosophical rant. If this interests anyone, I'll continue then.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: General Battuta on April 06, 2010, 11:29:33 am
That's just philosophical. We can test what makes people happy empirically.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: bobbtmann on April 06, 2010, 11:44:27 am
You can't pursue happiness by doing stuff, since being happy is a state of mind. Acceptance of the conditions surrounding your life, and not pursuing something is where you find happiness.

I mean, really, if you're always looking for happiness, then you obviously haven't found it yet. And the only way to find it is to realize: "Hey, I found it! Now I don't need to pursue happiness more" So really, you're not happy until you've accepted what you've got. And acceptance is also a state of mind.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: MR_T3D on April 06, 2010, 11:55:39 am
happiness is living without worry, and if you have enough money to not worry about affording what you need in life, then that money has bought you happiness
Acceptance.
and this.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Mongoose on April 06, 2010, 01:20:03 pm
That's just philosophical. We can test what makes people happy empirically.
I think you both need to yank your heads out of your textbooks and go do something fun. :p
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: iamzack on April 06, 2010, 01:24:29 pm
Scientifically, long-term happiness is apparently mostly drawn from relations with other individuals.

So I got the answer right?
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Thaeris on April 06, 2010, 02:27:24 pm
That's just philosophical. We can test what makes people happy empirically.
I think you both need to yank your heads out of your textbooks and go do something fun. :p
/me agrees with Mongoose.

 :lol:
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: iamzack on April 06, 2010, 02:40:25 pm
Learning what makes people tick isn't fun? O.o
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Thaeris on April 06, 2010, 02:49:19 pm
It is fun!

However, these arguments really tend to spiral downward pretty quick.

Mongoose also has a point in abstract about happiness as well - keeping things light does one well in many instances.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Machaka on April 06, 2010, 03:35:06 pm
Happiness is staying in Flow to such a degree that you can feel proud of yourself afterward:

(http://www.acontentlife.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/flowandskills.gif)

Struggle is the only critical precursor of happiness, and powerful happiness lives on in the heart forever.

Loved ones and aesthetics and soulful expression do not bring happiness- they bring joy- which is rarer and more powerful but always temporary.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Scotty on April 06, 2010, 03:37:40 pm
I really like that chart.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: General Battuta on April 06, 2010, 03:39:38 pm
That's just philosophical. We can test what makes people happy empirically.
I think you both need to yank your heads out of your textbooks and go do something fun. :p
/me agrees with Mongoose.

 :lol:

NO

SRS

Loved ones and aesthetic beauty and soulful expression do not bring happiness- they bring joy- which is rarer and more powerful but always temporary.

Flow actually generally produces a temporary state of fulfillment, but human relationships and a sense of 'meaning' (which can be produced by a job that involves a lot of flow) can lead to long-term happiness.

In short, good theory, but not quite in line with the evidence we have right now.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Machaka on April 06, 2010, 03:58:49 pm

Flow actually generally produces a temporary state of fulfillment, but human relationships and a sense of 'meaning' (which can be produced by a job that involves a lot of flow) can lead to long-term happiness.

In short, good theory, but not quite in line with the evidence we have right now.

You're probably right.  When I was a kid, I thought that ants must be the happiest creatures on earth, but I could never reconcile that idea with the liberal Western culture I was living in.  I dropped it in favor of this self-absorbed Faustian mode, so now I'm free to pursue whatever I like whenever I like, but in the end it can feel pretty hollow.

The other extreme must not be much better.  Is there another way to reconcile these?  Or is it just an impossible balance- the whole 'eternal pursuit'?
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: S-99 on April 06, 2010, 04:01:23 pm
Acceptance.
We accept the village serial killer today. He has his own ways and that they make him (crazily) happy. We all need to do our part and accept the serial killer for who he is and no longer harbor prejudice.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Turambar on April 06, 2010, 04:42:45 pm
To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentations of their women
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Scotty on April 06, 2010, 04:46:39 pm
That is good!  That is good.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: General Battuta on April 06, 2010, 04:49:24 pm
To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentations of their women

this
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Mongoose on April 06, 2010, 04:53:45 pm
Learning what makes people tick isn't fun? O.o
I prefer to take them at face value and ignore the squishy parts. :p

But seriously, at least from my viewpoint, trying to quantify "happiness" is like looking for the forest through the trees.  Most of us know that we're happy when we're happy, so just stick to what produces that feeling in you, and you're pretty much set.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: General Battuta on April 06, 2010, 04:59:56 pm
Actually, our research seems to suggest that people have very little idea what makes them happy and are pretty bad at sticking with it.

Silly people.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: S-99 on April 06, 2010, 05:51:46 pm
To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentations of their women

this
yes
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Mongoose on April 06, 2010, 05:58:10 pm
Actually, our research seems to suggest that people have very little idea what makes them happy and are pretty bad at sticking with it.

Silly people.
Funny, because when I'm sitting on my ass playing a good video game or watching a good anime series, I'm fairly certain that I'm happy, and I generally happily continue engaging in said activity.

Though I guess it could all be self-delusion. :p
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: General Battuta on April 06, 2010, 06:04:31 pm
Instantaneous happiness =! sustained happiness.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Mongoose on April 06, 2010, 06:24:34 pm
But which is the OP talking about in the first place?  And can't the first easily lead to the second?  I know that, for instance, my becoming an anime fan has led me to become good friends with a group of people I would have never met otherwise, which fits at least my own criteria for "sustained happiness."

Look, I know looking at a topic like this in that sort of analytical light works for you, and that's fine...but frankly, it does not and never will work for me, and I suspect for many people in general.  I'm honestly not trying to be rude by being dismissive.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: NGTM-1R on April 06, 2010, 06:27:34 pm
We accept the village serial killer today. He has his own ways and that they make him (crazily) happy. We all need to do our part and accept the serial killer for who he is and no longer harbor prejudice.

Your flippant stupidity does you no credit sir. :P
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: General Battuta on April 06, 2010, 06:38:25 pm
But which is the OP talking about in the first place?  And can't the first easily lead to the second?  I know that, for instance, my becoming an anime fan has led me to become good friends with a group of people I would have never met otherwise, which fits at least my own criteria for "sustained happiness."

Look, I know looking at a topic like this in that sort of analytical light works for you, and that's fine...but frankly, it does not and never will work for me, and I suspect for many people in general.  I'm honestly not trying to be rude by being dismissive.

You're arguing a different point than I am. I'm making claims about a population, which do not contradict your claims about an individual (you.)

So there's no conflict here.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Mongoose on April 06, 2010, 06:53:21 pm
All right, fair enough.  I don't really want to get involved in yet another lengthy GenDisc discussion myself. :p
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Bobboau on April 07, 2010, 01:01:11 am
happiness is having a forum full of other people write your English paper for you.
Title: Re: Question: What is the Key to Happiness
Post by: Kosh on April 07, 2010, 01:18:54 am
I am doing a English paper and would like to know your opinions.

What does Happiness mean to you?
What is the key to Happiness\How do you obtain it?
Can true Happiness be obtained without sorrow?


This is a serious discussion only, please.

Lastly,
I reserve the right to quote or use the answers given in my paper. If you wish to possibly be properly cited, put your full name in your post. Ill try to properly cite you either way if I use your post.


That said, Discuss!


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