so what happened in the end? I read the first three or so pages but don't have time to read all of it.
I actually am in a problematic ebay situation at the moment too, but it is not nearly as bad as that. I won some Lego set about three weeks ago and emailed the seller for payment instructions and so on but have not received any reply from him. After a week I sent another email, but still no reply; at this point I'm considering sending a third one. I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt here since he has the best 1000+ feedback percentage I have seen; hopefully it is something temporary (computer problem, etc.) and the guy isn't just a jerk.