Also, if the nature of the photon travel is probabilistic (electron might emit the photon to any direction), I find it difficult to explain to myself how does a mirror or a lens work as well as it does. QED might give the explanation for that, the answer should be applicable on photons passing the dual slit too. Guess I need to check QED stuff again from the optics perspective, but that'll be tomorrow.
It's probabilistic but that really only affects things in quantum scale.
Macroscopic optics is all about wavefronts, which are combined effect of insane amounts of photons traveling in a statistically sufficiently similar way. On individual photons, quantum deviations appear, but on large scale, the wavefront formed by the photons appears united, which is why reflections and refractions work in the first place.
In all optics, there is loss of photons from the wavefront, depending on optical qualities of the mediums and reflective surfaces - scattered or non-uniformly reflected photons are not useful in optics, and avoiding them is the key to observing as much of the photons that arrive into the instrument. Statistically, though, we are unlikely to observe the quantum inaccuracies in each individual photon's arrival location. In terms of physically describing what happens is that the delta spike in the photons' probability functions is narrow enough that without very very small scale instruments, we won't notice any difference whether the photon arrives two picometres this direction or that - it'll still hit the same observation instrument with all likelihood: a pixel, or perhaps a cell in your retina.
Or, the expectation value is almost always very close to where the photon will actually end up.
Quantum inaccuracies really only start to become visible when you look at things in a scale that is at least as small as the deBroglie wavelength of the particle. If you're unable to measure things smaller than this, then you'll likely see the particle's behaviour approximate with classical physics - except in situations where it doesn't, such as the double slit interference experiment, which is perhaps the simplest demonstration of wave-particle duality. In this experiment we FORCE the photons to encounter a formation in the scale of their wavelength, and as a result the photons form up in a typical interference pattern.
In refraction and reflection, individual photons don't typically end up in situations where they would go through something like a double slit - although some statistically predictable amount of photons will scatter into statistically more or less predictable directions - predictability of photon scattering angles depending on whether the optical matter is of regular crystalline quality, or something less regular like gas, liquid, particulate suspension or the like. This is used in x-ray crystallography, where the x-ray photons' scattering angles depend on the qualities of the crystal. But I digress.
If you look at a reflection or refraction in quantum terms you'll notice that even if you handle each photon individually, the statistical prediction of how the wavefront will look after reflection or passing through the lens, it'll be largely intact - sufficiently so that we can recognize it as the original image, if projected on a surface. Remember that wavefronts staying intact depends on the quality of surface they are reflected from, and from the quality of the optical border between mediums that they travel through (as well as the transparency of the mediums, how much scattering occurs etc.). Individual photons don't see any difference between different kind of surfaces - say, glass or paper. When photons are reflected from paper, they are diffused into lots of different directions depending on what part of the paper they hit. But when multiple photons are reflected similarly, then their wavefront remains recognizeable, and our optics can work.
After all, photons never interfere with each other - the interference patterns like the one in double slit experiment, or Newton's rings, results from their own wave characteristic interfering with itself, so a wavefront traveling through a medium is safe from collapsing by photons in it interfering each other into oblivion.
Schrödinger equation itself doesn't actually work with photons
It's true that Schrödinger equation isn't ideally suited for photons (you need to jump through some hoops to use it) but in context of the thought experiment, this argument is irrelevant as the photons can be substituted by an electron beam or individual electrons, and the
fundamental result is the same...