I admit it...I do care for those dumb AI controlled wingmen

It sucks to see them vaporized because they just stay put while a capital ship blows up in their faces. It would be nice if they were smart enough to escape the blast radius or at least try.
The second thing kinda adds to the first: Have your wingmen hold their position at the current position of the player. So it's kinda like "Form on my Wing", but at one point rather than following the player. This would help in scenarios where the blast radius of capital ships have been altered and you want your wingmen to keep a safe distance. It could also help to command your wingmen to stay in certain strategic positions in space...so you can create formations or blockades, etc.