So why the hell do you think an atheists ideal of marriage isn't about true love then?
I was talking about ideal Christian marriage and not saying such thing is restricted to Christians, in fact Atheists should if you ask me. It is just not an Atheist ideal, but strictly because Atheism is really far and wide and the area to cope is much wider, and so far there is no official 'Book of Atheism' or something like that. Hell, even if it is not Atheist ideal, that doesn't meant it is impossible. This is just one thing Christians believe as a 'common grace', in other words, you don't have to be a Christian to enjoy it.
The whole point of atheism \ agnosticism is to not subscribe to a doctrine that tels you how to live and think, allowing you to make these decisions from an individual perspective.
They can marry for any reason, whether it be because they love the person, it advances their career, or it's just a logical thing to do at the time.
Many other people who subscribe to the Christan doctrine have married for at least two of the 3 reasons I listed above.
Frankly, I don't understand why atheists get so much hate, with the rampant hypocrisy within the churches. Church girls be performing fellatio in the bathrooms and the pastor is using the tithes to roll up with a Lexus truck on 22" chrome, so... This whole 'Christian's marry for love and family' and 'don't have sex before marriage' thing don't apply half the time,
Technically speaking, all sorts of people are in the church, and to be honest you people, no church in the world is really that good no matter what facade they manage to put in front to people outside. Even real believers have used their own church for personal ambitions (not just marriage). I understand that such happenings are already more than an open secret to everyone and it will be hypocrisy of the church if they attempt to cover it up (which, sad to say, some churches do). Well of course if the church is already THAT good and absolutely sinless, then they don't need redemption, and the death of Jesus means nothing for them don't you think, and anything that is built from lies instead of truth will fall sooner or later.
That is why I say it is the ideal, or in other words, the absolute highest standard that they should aim for, or the image of perfection. In reality people have their own reasons for getting married, hidden or otherwise and considering no humans are perfect. However, in John Calvin's words, believers should be in continuous process of sanctification, bringing them closer and closer to that ideals. The same goes with marriage, no matter where they start, they should stay faithful (Pun intended, but both meanings of the word applies here) and allow themselves to be guided to the right path.
Of course ideally people have sex after getting married, but with the media promoting the opposite, you have to admit, many people got carried away, even those inside the church. Not that I justify them, but just to show some of the reality that happened. One reason I personally think that Catholic priests should be allowed to get married, there is nothing in the bible saying that priests aren't allowed to get married.
People being self righteous and all? It happens all the time. And I believe the target is not just Atheists, but rather anyone that isn't them. In reality, the more you know about the truth, you should know more and more how imperfect and sinful you are, instead of how righteous you are. Going knight templar will only make it worse, if only they learn that....(facepalm)
