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Off-Topic Discussion => General Discussion => Topic started by: Mobius on November 20, 2008, 02:33:55 pm
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Until a few hours ago I was damn angry because of my worrying way to react to University life, basically all the consequences of moving to another city because yours doesn't have an Uni and having to deal with people and habits you don't know/share.
I started over a month ago, when I still didn't have a flat in Rende(80 km from Lamezia Terme, the place where I live). I had to get up at 6-6:15 AM to make it to the bus in time. The bust leaves at 7 AM and the "exciting travel" is one hour and a half long(so that I can partecipate actively to the various lessons, which start at 8:30-8:40).
I have never used buses in such an active way and my habits didn't really like the necessity of getting up at 6:00 AM...the result? An incredible stomach ache that oftentimes forced me to abort, stay at home and get some rest.
Useless to say that I lost MANY lessons...fortunately, however, my old High School and my teachers were good enough to make sure that I could learn the basics(and even more advanced stuff) I will surely need for my upcoming exams.
A few weeks ago I finally got a flat. I liked it, everything was nice...me and my father signed the contract and I progressively started to bring my stuff. When I moved I quickly noticed that I don't like the place...I couldn't last more than 2-3 days there and the experience was indeedly horrible. Today, for example, I decided to get back to Lamezia to feel better("Home Sweet Home!").
My flat mates are pretty idiotic people, too. They bring people and pretend things I don't share. "Everyone has a limit" so I decided to get back and will eventually use the bus every day(it's slowly turning into a habit so my stomach problems are less worrying than they were before).
There's another thing...the contract expects me(well, my father...) to pay monthly for the next 9 months even if I never use the flat. This is bugging me because I feel like a parasite when such things happen.
I know this may be a temporary situation but I'm well aware of the fact that finding a solution won't be easy.
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You'll get used to it, trust me. Try to meet as many people as possible and integrate yourself and you'll see it's not that bad. Hell, most people like it.
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This is why I like having my very own place that is
a) a tad bit less than 6km from Uni and
b) a tad bit over 1km from mama's place.
Well, as the crow flies, anyways.
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Well, I forgot to add something...I'm pretty much a lone wolf and rarely talk with people. I have only a few(but good) friends and we rarely see each other(especially know that we're busy with different Unis). That's why I think it's going to be damn hard to feel fine out there - I know it'll be nearly impossible for me to get a social life in that place.
As I said I could void the problem by using the bus every day and go to the flat only when I have afternoon-time lessons...
I know many other forumites have experienced something like this but there are many "features" of my personality that help creating more problems. I have one question, tough - how do you deal with room/flatmates who bring annoying people? Do you fight to get the calm you deserve?
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Also, I'd really like to say that I chose to study Geology, not to deal with people and habits I don't like. I can't tolerate the fact that my choice has so many bad consequences which could seriously compromise my profit.
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One thing that helps a lot if you're a commuter is to pick classes that are all on the same days. Not only do you save on the travel time, but you don't have to get up early and feel too washed out to do any work the rest of the day. I arranged my classes like this every semester, so I had 4 or 5 days each week where I could spend the entire day doing coursework without interruptions. In some cases, a review or lab section caused trouble with the schedule, but I was generally able to work out something with the TAs to make up whatever I missed on another day.
As for roommates, I can't really comment on that. I lived at home as an undergrad (it was about a 40 minute drive away) and have an apartment to myself now (10 minute drive). Actually, one reason I did that was to avoid precisely this issue. :p
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Seems that Mobius and me share the same interests... :D :yes:
With me it was the same kind of experience, especially in the first few months. Deep down I suppose I'm a loner/shy and it's just a mentality I haven't quite dropped or grown out of yet (....which worries me). I think that "feature" of my personality definitely didn't help the experience (I think some people saw me as anti-social but that wasn't the impression I wanted to give), even though I think I'm quite easy-going towards others. Gradually after a while I made one or two friends, but we aren't really in contact anymore.
Having to get used to others' mannerisms is just the way it goes, no matter what you study. I'm sure there are others like you out there, could you arrange a houseshare/flatshare with like-minded students maybe? Maybe try joining a few clubs etc, see if there's anything that takes your fancy and you might meet others like you.
Hope that helps. :)
Oh and where are you going on your fieldtrips? :D
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It's uni. Don't take it too seriously, enjoy yourself. Believe me you'll wish you were still there once you leave.
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The University time was about the time best in my life so far. Along with army service, but for different reasons, of course. I can now see why some people don't want to graduate in order to keep on going with student life. Though that doesn't mean I would think it is accetable. After all, that studying time was pretty worriless time. Deadline, now? Just do it, and you could always count on that you could actually do it with very tight time schedule. In my current job, this is not the case anymore.
I didn't have much problems with University, or with stupid & annoying roommates (mainly because I didn't have stupid & annoying roommates). Instead, my little brother has exchange students from a certain European country as his roommates, and he seems to have developed an opinion that even Hitler was right on some cases. It seems our lax alcohol culture wreaks havoc among the exchange students.
One of the actually important things is to change your major when you still have a chance (that is, during first and second years) if you find that it is not interesting in the University. Don't think that it will improve after a couple of years. It most likely doesn't.
Mika
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One of the actually important things is to change your major when you still have a chance (that is, during first and second years) if you find that it is not interesting in the University. Don't think that it will improve after a couple of years. It most likely doesn't.
Very true. Changing my major was one of the two best decisions I made in college, (the other being smoking pot). I see so many people just plodding through **** they have no interest in whatsoever, and I know that no matter how much stress I'm under, you couldn't pay me to trade places with them.
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One of the actually important things is to change your major when you still have a chance (that is, during first and second years) if you find that it is not interesting in the University. Don't think that it will improve after a couple of years. It most likely doesn't.
Very true. Changing my major was one of the two best decisions I made in college, (the other being smoking pot). I see so many people just plodding through **** they have no interest in whatsoever, and I know that no matter how much stress I'm under, you couldn't pay me to trade places with them.
Christ, I'm living proof of this. I'm stuck one class short of a major that I grew to loathe, but by the time I did so, it was my third or fourth year, so it was for all intents and purposes far too late to change. Now I have to find some level of motivation to finally get the damn piece of paper...and then be left having no idea what to do with it.
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You'll get used to it, trust me. Try to meet as many people as possible and integrate yourself and you'll see it's not that bad. Hell, most people like it.
It's uni. Don't take it too seriously, enjoy yourself. Believe me you'll wish you were still there once you leave.
Wise words. I took things too seriously and I wish I hadn't. Shrugging off enough of my shyness to get integrated was a struggle, I kind of left it too late though.
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Make the most, srsly... I'm not a graduate but i think i speak for us over 21's when i say Youth is wasted on the young... :yes:
Not a dig at you whippersnappers, just make sure you get a balnce between fun and study. about 60/40 in favour of study should be ok. :nervous:
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This whole flat mate issue bother me too. I'm 26, in full time work and still live with the parents. I really don't fancy living with people who will do my head-in but I don't have the dosh for my own gaffe just yet....
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That's exactly my situation although i did move out some time back, married in fact. The financial situation necessitates cheap living :D
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I study about an hour away from my house, here's my answer for long bus trips or paying to live with a bunch of @$$hats:
(http://img522.imageshack.us/img522/89/image528svn4.jpg)
Now I need some 35-40 minutes to get to the U. It's peacefull, quiet, fast, relaxing, enjoyable and it costs like hell....
The Crown Vic itself was just under $3400, plus a bit over $2k to ship it to Europe (2 years of of working all summer in my case). I converted it to LPG (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liquefied_petroleum_gashttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liquefied_petroleum_gas) to keep myself from getting a heart attack each time I refuel (mostly city driving gives 16-18 liters per 100 km), but I still need to work like 2 months each summer to have enough cash to pay for the monster.
Then there's the easy way- make a few friends and it'll be OK...
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buy a big van kit it out to live in , then you can live by the lake by the uni etc , return to your parents and dissapear for the weekend ,at this point you can choose to share your living space with someone cute sometimes , i have done this for all the courses and training times ive done and it has cost me about 10 times less than renting , yes there are inconveinces , but you learn to work arounfd them but the good thing is when summer vacation comes around , you can go were you want ,
and all the vans and trucks ive had get better mileage than bengal tigers car !!!!!!!!!!! on average between 9 and 12 litres for 100km the only tghing ive had that did less was a bedford mk 500 turbo 4wheel drive army lorry and that was only just worse 19 litres for 100km
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You're going to university for profit?
Classes should never start before 11. I'm an hour or so away by public transport myself. It usually isn't too bad if it doesn't start too early and there aren't massive holes in the timetable. The annoying thing is that maths courses seem to spread out as much as possible over the course of a week and in the past have tended to either start at 9 or finish at 6.
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Classes should never start before 11. I'm an hour or so away by public transport myself.
Ideally, yes, but at most schools it's hard to fit 5 or 6 classes in the day when they start that late, especially on two-day schedules. I would much rather have classes starting from 8:00 or 9:00 instead of having to go five days a week.
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buy a big van kit it out to live in , then you can live by the lake by the uni etc , return to your parents and dissapear for the weekend ,at this point you can choose to share your living space with someone cute sometimes , i have done this for all the courses and training times ive done and it has cost me about 10 times less than renting , yes there are inconveinces , but you learn to work arounfd them but the good thing is when summer vacation comes around , you can go were you want ,
and all the vans and trucks ive had get better mileage than bengal tigers car !!!!!!!!!!! on average between 9 and 12 litres for 100km the only tghing ive had that did less was a bedford mk 500 turbo 4wheel drive army lorry and that was only just worse 19 litres for 100km
Good idea with the van... If you have a bathroom with a shower in it :p
And if I had a highway from home to the University, I'd be getting maybe 12 liters of LPG / 100 km (I made 10.8 l/100km in the US running on gasoline- in mixed, town and highway driving without traffic jams. Also- propane gets sucked out a bit quicker than gas so don't compare the fuel economy directly).
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Thanks for the hints, I know they come from people with a lot of experience on the matter. :) I talked with a cousin of mine who described the situation of her sisters(who took a degree, like most members of my family :nervous) ad her brother(who left University after one year). Afterall, I shouldn't turn my current situation into a tragedy...I should simply do what I like. The main task is to study, not to know new people/towns and/or to get distracted.
And yes, it's true, it's pretty easy to find idiotic room mates who do stuff like pretending too much from you and/or bringing a lot of disgusting friends to your flat. Since fighting isn't a good way to solve the problem and talking may eventually seem too harsh and unappropriate the best thing to do is to adapt...or to be far away from University. :D
I'll try to use the bus daily...there's a friend of mine who hated his new flat and chose to use the bus every day. At the beginning it's difficult, I know, but things become easier. I've experienced it myself.
However, I'm afraid I don't have the possibilty to manage my lessons so that I can end the tough part of the week on thursday(it'd be very nice). At least for the first period it's kind of impossible to do that. I'll obviously do my best to make it happen in the near future... :)
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If things don't improve despite you having tried to cope, and you're still unhappy, don't feel ashamed if you have to drop out (not that I'm implying that you're going to do that). Some people leave uni and they decide to return later when they feel more at ease.
Hang in there man. :) All the best with it. :nod:
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I'm in a similar but opposite situation. I moved >1000 miles away to escape the family. I'm still a bit of the lone wolf, but my solution is go to the dining hall at random times. I live on campus, by the way. If I go to the dining hall at different times, I can meet up with different people or find some cool people to hang out with. It works easier at the beginning of years, but it works fine too mid-term. Remember a ****load of people are also alone.
Or try a different uni. :P
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Let's say that I'm under psychological pressure, too. I didn't want to go to University so early(well, I was tempted to forget about it completely) but I'm trying to do everything now because I don't want to feel like a parasite. I know this may seem strange but that's the truth.
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Let's say that I'm under psychological pressure, too. I didn't want to go to University so early(well, I was tempted to forget about it completely) but I'm trying to do everything now because I don't want to feel like a parasite. I know this may seem strange but that's the truth.
I understand what you mean. I sometimes think I wasn't ready for uni at 18 but the alternatives didn't appeal much. Like you I wanted to study primarily, but uni is (said to be, at least) about having the best time of your life, etc. I've come away from the experience really wishing I had made more of it.
In short, whatever you do, don't end up like me - try and go with the flow and you'll adapt, and go far.
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I know, but...I haven't found anything cool in University life so far... :nervous:
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I know, but...I haven't found anything cool in University life so far... :nervous:
What about transferring? Live on campus for at least a term. One of the big things that appeals to me is the fact that I'm free. It hasn't changed who I am, but the biggest thing is it's made me more social.
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I currently live on campus. It's a great way to meet people. Eventually I'd like to try to get my own studio apartment, but I can't imagine doing that BEFORE living on campus for a year or two to meet people. Besides; I can sleep a lot longer because my classes are only a 5 minute walk away.
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I currently live on campus. It's a great way to meet people. Eventually I'd like to try to get my own studio apartment, but I can't imagine doing that BEFORE living on campus for a year or two to meet people.
When I first came here, a lot of people had strongly advised me to stay in the (crappy) graduate dorms for the same reason. In hindsight, I'm increasingly glad I didn't listen to them. :p
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I don't want to live near the campus because the situation would be even worse(speaking of interaction with other people). I need a 10-15 minutes walk to arrive to the Uni from my flat.
What I don't like is the presence of time wasters. I've noticed many of them...they live far from their families, they get money from them and study rarely. Furthermore, they do stuff like causing problems to the others...I don't want to interact with this kind of people... :mad:
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What I don't like is the presence of time wasters. I've noticed many of them...they live far from their families, they get money from them and study rarely. Furthermore, they do stuff like causing problems to the others...I don't want to interact with this kind of people... :mad:
Welcome to 90% of the human race.
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As I said, I'm now trying to use the bus...every day...I'm changing my habits so that they can fit well with my new life.
Apparently, my father dislikes the fact that I'm returning back home every day...the flat is expensive and duh, I don't know what to say(other than "I'll go there when needed")... :(
Welcome to 90% of the human race.
I think that percentage isn't reliable...I'd say 75%...there also are people who're between "time waster" and "normal student"...they're quite dangerous as well...
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As I said, I'm now trying to use the bus...every day...I'm changing my habits so that they can fit well with my new life.
Apparently, my father dislikes the fact that I'm returning back home every day...the flat is expensive and duh, I don't know what to say(other than "I'll go there when needed")... :(
Welcome to 90% of the human race.
I think that percentage isn't reliable...I'd say 75%...there also are people who're between "time waster" and "normal student"...they're quite dangerous as well...
Which explains why most of the workforce is managed by theory X. Anyways--ignore them. Tell them to grow up or go back to high school.
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I'd like to know how to convince my father that spending 190€ per month for a room in a flat I'm not using is...well..."acceptable"...
I know the greater good is attending the Uni and succeeding at it, but how do you deal with such a big amount of "vaporized" money? It makes me feel like crap...
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I'd like to know how to convince my father that spending 190€ per month for a room in a flat I'm not using is...well..."acceptable"...
I know the greater good is attending the Uni and succeeding at it, but how do you deal with such a big amount of "vaporized" money? It makes me feel like crap...
Difficult spot, really. Your side signed a lease for 9 months--meaning use it or lose it. Not much to say really or how to justify it really. I'd say try to get someone else to move in and transfer the contract.
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That may work, but please note that I may need it in the future. Lab activities are all in the afternoon and attending them is a must(I risk to be rejected at Physics simply because I missed 2 lab activities when the scheduled ones were 3).
The point is that I will rarely spend nights in that flat because of lab activities and/or eventual afternoon-time lessons, thus preventing me from transfering the contract. It's a very bad situation indeed.
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It took me a couple of years to find some room mate i could move in with at an apartment at the bottom of the hill of the uni i'm at. I didn't like the dorms. Be very choosy and strict about the kind of people who you may get to choose to live with next.
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I'd like to know how to convince my father that spending 190€ per month for a room in a flat I'm not using is...well..."acceptable"...
I know the greater good is attending the Uni and succeeding at it, but how do you deal with such a big amount of "vaporized" money? It makes me feel like crap...
Buy. A. Car!
My gas guzzler costs me less than that per month... WAAY less.
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It took me a couple of years to find some room mate i could move in with at an apartment at the bottom of the hill of the uni i'm at. I didn't like the dorms. Be very choosy and strict about the kind of people who you may get to choose to live with next.
How do I choose the people I want to stay with? I sign a contract for a place in a flat, someone signs the same contract and... I need to stay with that guy.
When I signed the contract there was only 1 guy. When I moved to the flat after a couple of weeks I found 2 more guys...I wasn't informed about it. :doubt:
Buy. A. Car!
My gas guzzler costs me less than that per month... WAAY less.
I got the driving license in 9/11 (of this year) and I don't have enough experience to use a 80 kms long highway. I don't have a car, yet...it'll take a long while for me to get one.
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In that case- keep drive wherever and whenever you get the chance, best if with someone with a DL who could give advice untill you feel comfortable behind the wheel.
Then work your @$$ off 12 hours a day 6 days a week all summer,
then buy your dream car.
Then enjoy freedom.
But before that happens, life will suck :p
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keep drive wherever and whenever you get the chance, best if with someone with a DL who could give advice untill you feel comfortable behind the wheel.
Then work your @$$ off 12 hours a day 6 days a week all summer,
then buy your dream car.
Then enjoy freedom.
Quicker path:
- Keep driving until you feel comfortable behind the wheel.
- Buy a Lada (there are bound to be people who'd sell their Lada for 50€. Even 20.)
- ???
- Profit!
Srsly, though. Driving won't get easier unless you drive. Repeatedly. In different conditions. I was sorta scared of driving on highways, partially due to the fact that I do not have depth perception. But I forcefully practiced it and it is no longer a big deal. Of course, it would be ideal if you could first gain driving experience on your free time, instead of during transitions between the university and your residence.
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How do I choose the people I want to stay with? I sign a contract for a place in a flat, someone signs the same contract and... I need to stay with that guy.
When I signed the contract there was only 1 guy. When I moved to the flat after a couple of weeks I found 2 more guys...I wasn't informed about it. :doubt:
You find some people with an apartment that you like and you can move in with. That's what i did.
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It took me a couple of years to find some room mate i could move in with at an apartment at the bottom of the hill of the uni i'm at. I didn't like the dorms. Be very choosy and strict about the kind of people who you may get to choose to live with next.
How do I choose the people I want to stay with? I sign a contract for a place in a flat, someone signs the same contract and... I need to stay with that guy.
When I signed the contract there was only 1 guy. When I moved to the flat after a couple of weeks I found 2 more guys...I wasn't informed about it. :doubt:
I've heard housing leases can be absolutely brutal if you don't know what you're doing when you write one up or sign them. Also, always have a housing lease. And write payments in a trackable way (eg check). All these things will cover your arse if somebody decides to take advantage of you.
If you signed a lease with the understanding that there would only be one other guy in the house and now there are more guys, you could make a good case for a breach of contract, especially if those two other guys aren't paying as much as you are or the amount you needed to pay was misrepresented (eg you only need to pay XXX, and your roomate will pay XXX, but then suddenly these two other guys are both paying XXX as well...so where is that extra money going? And why didn't you ask your roommate why the other half of the payment wasn't being covered, or why his share was so much larger than yours..I just can't see how two extra people would suddenly show up and there would be no change to the rent from when you first signed the contract)
That being said, you should really get some competent advice on housing if you feel like you've been wronged or want to get out of your contract. Hopefully if you find something concrete, he'll back off, but it sounds as though you're just putting yourself and your dad in a bad position.
If nothing else, there must be someplace to study at your school. I have never heard of a university or college that didn't make an effort to keep someplace closed off for students with rowdy roommates who want to study. That is just about the cheapest way to ensure some kind of academic success.
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Pretty much any decent library will have cubicles for studying. Many people do their homework there instead of their dorms. There was apparently one guy here many years ago who lost his funding (failed the qualifying exam too many times) and just lived in the math library after that. :D
It's fairly common for students to spend most of their day at the campus though and essentially only use their dorm as a place to sleep, especially graduate students who have offices. (although I would hate to do that myself)
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If you signed a lease with the understanding that there would only be one other guy in the house and now there are more guys, you could make a good case for a breach of contract, especially if those two other guys aren't paying as much as you are or the amount you needed to pay was misrepresented (eg you only need to pay XXX, and your roomate will pay XXX, but then suddenly these two other guys are both paying XXX as well...so where is that extra money going? And why didn't you ask your roommate why the other half of the payment wasn't being covered, or why his share was so much larger than yours..I just can't see how two extra people would suddenly show up and there would be no change to the rent from when you first signed the contract)
That being said, you should really get some competent advice on housing if you feel like you've been wronged or want to get out of your contract. Hopefully if you find something concrete, he'll back off, but it sounds as though you're just putting yourself and your dad in a bad position.
If nothing else, there must be someplace to study at your school. I have never heard of a university or college that didn't make an effort to keep someplace closed off for students with rowdy roommates who want to study. That is just about the cheapest way to ensure some kind of academic success.
Uhm...interesting post...
There was nothing in the contract that would have made it invalid had other guys come to live in the flat. I signed it because other people were unlikely to come in mid October, that is all.
The first guy, Luigi, pays 250€ per month because he stays in a room with a single bed(the best option).
I'm the second guy, Francesco...I pay 190€ per month because I stay in a big room with two beds(one is _fortunately_ unused).
The other guys, Vincenzo and Giuseppe, stay in a room that is slightly smaller than mine and pay 180€ per month.
What I DON'T NEED is another person in my room. That'd be awful. :ick:
About the places mentioned in the last part of your post - if I take the bus at 2:00 PM I get back home and study there. I virtually have no time to study anywhere near my University.
One more thing - I didn't go to the Uni today. Same thing yesterday. I become worried for basically everything(I'll have two exams in about 25 days, that makes the situation even worse) and this badly affects my health. So meh... :ick:
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I got a good deal with my apartment. First off they're a couple i knew for about 5 years and finally got married last july. Good stuff, i'm happy for them, even happier that i'm living with dependable people. What my room mates did was pretty much put me on the lease too...i wouldn't really say that, that's sort of incorrect...more to say that people who must pay rent are on paperwork more to say while my room mates are signed on the lease (idk which paper i'm on exactly). Anybody else who moves in has to pay their fair share also and get's stuck in paperwork too. The rent gets split up no matter what, and it's on paper that this has to happen. So far we don't live with anybody who's an asshole and it's a very smooth situation.
We all have our own rooms which is really good.
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Quicker path:
- Keep driving until you feel comfortable behind the wheel.
- Buy a Lada (there are bound to be people who'd sell their Lada for 50€. Even 20.)
- ???
- Profit!
A 50 Euro LADA???
What's that thing's crash test rating, handling and braking?
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Quicker path:
- Keep driving until you feel comfortable behind the wheel.
- Buy a Lada (there are bound to be people who'd sell their Lada for 50€. Even 20.)
- ???
- Profit!
A 50 Euro LADA???
What's that thing's crash test rating, handling and braking?
If we concider the old skool Ladas:
1. On a one-on-one crash the other car is likely to be crushed to a small cube, whereas the Lada most likely merely takes damage to one of its headlamps (since the old Ladas were made of steel, unlike modern cars that consist mostly of plastic).
2. They can be handled. More or less.
3. At least it will stop if you hit a wall or run out of petrol.
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3. At least it will stop if you hit a wall...
Maybe a Lada, but Crown Vics found a way:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zeZculJ7LKE
:p
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Alright, I'm back. This experience turned out to be less traumatic than the first ones under all points of view.
I have a new room mate but he appears to be a nice person...he was in another flat with his cousin but his sudden death in october led him to change flat and fill the empty space in my room. I was ":blah:" when he told me the reason behind his move(who wouldn't be?!?)...
I decided to come back...I don't know what to do for thursday and friday...I may either go back to the flat tomorrow and return on friday or use the bus...I'm kind of confused because my father was a bit ":doubt:" when he saw me today...
What did you do with your parents/relatives when they didn't like your choices? I'd really like to know...at the moment I think everyone should be as much independant as possible while dealing with Univeristy...
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Be a man and tell them that it's your life. Not theirs. Then punch them. . .
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Glad to hear things might be looking up Mobius. :D
As for parents... Do you have any ideas why your dad was a bit ":doubt:" towards you?
My parents tell me that if I'm happy, they're happy, but (this might sound odd) I struggle to accept that they really think that, based on past happenings. Leaves me confused. :confused:
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Be a man and tell them that it's your life. Not theirs. Then punch them. . .
There's one big problem, though: even if "build my body"(:D) my father is fairly stronger than me so, well, I would lose any kind of confrontation... :nervous:
As for parents... Do you have any ideas why your dad was a bit ":doubt:" towards you?
Probably because I need to work hard if I want to earn the title of "son"...it happens when you're not a _biological_ son...
Well, I think the primary reason is the fact that spending 190€ per month for a flat I'm using rarely is pretty meh for him. It looks like attending the Uni is meh if I don't stay there to use the flat.
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Well, I think the primary reason is the fact that spending 190€ per month for a flat I'm using rarely is pretty meh for him. It looks like attending the Uni is meh if I don't stay there to use the flat.
Hmm that's probably why. Maybe tell him you'll pay him back big time when you discover a diamond mine? ;)
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I'm taking note of this... :lol:
Have you ever failed an exam, by the way? What do parents think when that happens?
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Have you ever failed an exam, by the way? What do parents think when that happens?
*deep breath*
Yes. :nervous: SAT mathematics, I was about 13 or 14 at the time. It's always been my weakest subject, I think I'm a "late developer" in that field unfortunately. :( I was gutted, but tbh I didn't try to revise hard enough. My dad seemed ok about it though, maybe because I passed all the other ones, and I showed improvement in the later, more important exams.
Didn't fail any uni exams though - I felt like I had to make up for some percieved earlier shortcomings. My parents say I'm my own worst critic.