[lostllama]

If things don't improve despite you having tried to cope, and you're still unhappy, don't feel ashamed if you have to drop out (not that I'm implying that you're going to do that). Some people leave uni and they decide to return later when they feel more at ease.

Hang in there man. All the best with it.

[Bob-san]

I'm in a similar but opposite situation. I moved >1000 miles away to escape the family. I'm still a bit of the lone wolf, but my solution is go to the dining hall at random times. I live on campus, by the way. If I go to the dining hall at different times, I can meet up with different people or find some cool people to hang out with. It works easier at the beginning of years, but it works fine too mid-term. Remember a ****load of people are also alone.

Or try a different uni.

[Mobius]

Let's say that I'm under psychological pressure, too. I didn't want to go to University so early(well, I was tempted to forget about it completely) but I'm trying to do everything now because I don't want to feel like a parasite. I know this may seem strange but that's the truth.

[lostllama]

Let's say that I'm under psychological pressure, too. I didn't want to go to University so early(well, I was tempted to forget about it completely) but I'm trying to do everything now because I don't want to feel like a parasite. I know this may seem strange but that's the truth.

I understand what you mean.  I sometimes think I wasn't ready for uni at 18 but the alternatives didn't appeal much. Like you I wanted to study primarily, but uni is (said to be, at least) about having the best time of your life, etc. I've come away from the experience really wishing I had made more of it.

In short, whatever you do, don't end up like me - try and go with the flow and you'll adapt, and go far.

[Mobius]

I know, but...I haven't found anything cool in University life so far...

[Bob-san]

I know, but...I haven't found anything cool in University life so far...

What about transferring? Live on campus for at least a term. One of the big things that appeals to me is the fact that I'm free. It hasn't changed who I am, but the biggest thing is it's made me more social.

[Solatar]

I currently live on campus. It's a great way to meet people. Eventually I'd like to try to get my own studio apartment, but I can't imagine doing that BEFORE living on campus for a year or two to meet people. Besides; I can sleep a lot longer because my classes are only a 5 minute walk away.

[CP5670]

I currently live on campus. It's a great way to meet people. Eventually I'd like to try to get my own studio apartment, but I can't imagine doing that BEFORE living on campus for a year or two to meet people.

When I first came here, a lot of people had strongly advised me to stay in the (crappy) graduate dorms for the same reason. In hindsight, I'm increasingly glad I didn't listen to them.

[Mobius]

I don't want to live near the campus because the situation would be even worse(speaking of interaction with other people). I need a 10-15 minutes walk to arrive to the Uni from my flat.

What I don't like is the presence of time wasters. I've noticed many of them...they live far from their families, they get money from them and study rarely. Furthermore, they do stuff like causing problems to the others...I don't want to interact with this kind of people...

[blackhole]

What I don't like is the presence of time wasters. I've noticed many of them...they live far from their families, they get money from them and study rarely. Furthermore, they do stuff like causing problems to the others...I don't want to interact with this kind of people...

Welcome to 90% of the human race.

[Mobius]

As I said, I'm now trying to use the bus...every day...I'm changing my habits so that they can fit well with my new life.

Apparently, my father dislikes the fact that I'm returning back home every day...the flat is expensive and duh, I don't know what to say(other than "I'll go there when needed")...

Welcome to 90% of the human race.

I think that percentage isn't reliable...I'd say 75%...there also are people who're between "time waster" and "normal student"...they're quite dangerous as well...

[Bob-san]

As I said, I'm now trying to use the bus...every day...I'm changing my habits so that they can fit well with my new life.

Apparently, my father dislikes the fact that I'm returning back home every day...the flat is expensive and duh, I don't know what to say(other than "I'll go there when needed")...

Welcome to 90% of the human race.

I think that percentage isn't reliable...I'd say 75%...there also are people who're between "time waster" and "normal student"...they're quite dangerous as well...

Which explains why most of the workforce is managed by theory X. Anyways--ignore them. Tell them to grow up or go back to high school.

[Mobius]

I'd like to know how to convince my father that spending 190€ per month for a room in a flat I'm not using is...well..."acceptable"...

I know the greater good is attending the Uni and succeeding at it, but how do you deal with such a big amount of "vaporized" money? It makes me feel like crap...

[Bob-san]

I'd like to know how to convince my father that spending 190€ per month for a room in a flat I'm not using is...well..."acceptable"...

I know the greater good is attending the Uni and succeeding at it, but how do you deal with such a big amount of "vaporized" money? It makes me feel like crap...

Difficult spot, really. Your side signed a lease for 9 months--meaning use it or lose it. Not much to say really or how to justify it really. I'd say try to get someone else to move in and transfer the contract.

[Mobius]

That may work, but please note that I may need it in the future. Lab activities are all in the afternoon and attending them is a must(I risk to be rejected at Physics simply because I missed 2 lab activities when the scheduled ones were 3).

The point is that I will rarely spend nights in that flat because of lab activities and/or eventual afternoon-time lessons, thus preventing me from transfering the contract. It's a very bad situation indeed.

[S-99]

It took me a couple of years to find some room mate i could move in with at an apartment at the bottom of the hill of the uni i'm at. I didn't like the dorms. Be very choosy and strict about the kind of people who you may get to choose to live with next.

[BengalTiger]

I'd like to know how to convince my father that spending 190€ per month for a room in a flat I'm not using is...well..."acceptable"...

I know the greater good is attending the Uni and succeeding at it, but how do you deal with such a big amount of "vaporized" money? It makes me feel like crap...

Buy. A. Car!

My gas guzzler costs me less than that per month... WAAY less.

[Mobius]

It took me a couple of years to find some room mate i could move in with at an apartment at the bottom of the hill of the uni i'm at. I didn't like the dorms. Be very choosy and strict about the kind of people who you may get to choose to live with next.

How do I choose the people I want to stay with? I sign a contract for a place in a flat, someone signs the same contract and... I need to stay with that guy.

When I signed the contract there was only 1 guy. When I moved to the flat after a couple of weeks I found 2 more guys...I wasn't informed about it.

Buy. A. Car!

My gas guzzler costs me less than that per month... WAAY less.

I got the driving license in 9/11 (of this year) and I don't have enough experience to use a 80 kms long highway. I don't have a car, yet...it'll take a long while for me to get one.

[BengalTiger]

In that case- keep drive wherever and whenever you get the chance, best if with someone with a DL who could give advice untill you feel comfortable behind the wheel.

Then work your @$$ off 12 hours a day 6 days a week all summer,

then buy your dream car.

Then enjoy freedom.

But before that happens, life will suck 

[Jeff Vader]

keep drive wherever and whenever you get the chance, best if with someone with a DL who could give advice untill you feel comfortable behind the wheel.

Then work your @$$ off 12 hours a day 6 days a week all summer,

then buy your dream car.

Then enjoy freedom.

Quicker path:
- Keep driving until you feel comfortable behind the wheel.
- Buy a Lada (there are bound to be people who'd sell their Lada for 50€. Even 20.)
- ???
- Profit!

Srsly, though. Driving won't get easier unless you drive. Repeatedly. In different conditions. I was sorta scared of driving on highways, partially due to the fact that I do not have depth perception. But I forcefully practiced it and it is no longer a big deal. Of course, it would be ideal if you could first gain driving experience on your free time, instead of during transitions between the university and your residence.