Yes, victims should accommodate other people's sick sense of humour borne of their ignorance of what the other person endured, that's a great way to approach the world...
God this forum makes me sick sometimes...
Please don't say that. There is nothing sick about enjoying these kinds of jokes.
To me, it truly is innocent fun the way I look at it, and it's not about rape. Calling this joke innocent may come as a great surprise to some people, but it really is to me.
Even if I understand there is a potential for someone to be emotionally disturbed by the joke, it doesn't change my sense of humour on the matter at all, or make me sick for enjoying it.
I just wanted to chime in and voice my agreement with what the other staff members have said in here. We want this to be a place where everyone is welcome, and a few of you REALLY need to take some lessons in social etiquette if you think that those jokes are considered appropriate for a general audience. There are plenty of ****holes all over the Internet where such things are acceptable (like the aforementioned reddit!), so if you're that determined to post them, I highly suggest you do so there.
This post was very interesting to me. I also know it would take the right kind of person to speak these words to get me to really consider them, which in itself is quite interesting. And thankfully Mongoose, you are that kind of person. You've always been a very friendly person in my opinion around here, and I've always found my interactions with you pleasant and enjoyable. So when you say something like a few of us really need lessons in social skills, it makes me think you're really serious about this, where someone else, I might instead see it as an expression of smug superiority and contempt.
The thing is, life teaches us social skills, and my life would teach me this is nothing. Rape-style language is everywhere. It's in the open, it's not something hidden in dark corners, it's in the open, and it's normal. A common phrase I hear for instance is "so I should just bend over and take it?" or some other variation, like "He just bent over and took it." "They think I'll just bend over and take it." It's not exactly a rape saying, but a common saying I hear is "All mouth and no trousers."
Funnily enough I watched a Youtube video yesterday, and a rape joke was told in it. Video has nothing to do with rape jokes, it just came out in casual conversation in the middle of the video.