Yup, 'They' is your folks, sorry, sort of had half the conversation in my head there

Exactly, with your comments regarding your brothers, you wouldn't expect your younger brothers to start telling you what to do, but you would fully expect your brothers to take your word on what is dangerous etc. That, in a way, makes you the Alpha of your siblings

Our 'special trick' is storytelling, it's what lifted us up above other apes (Id'ers and creationists had better stop reading here, I'm not going to get into a debate about that). First using cave paintings etc, we found a way of transferring information from one generation to the next, not just genetics, for example, there are cave paintings in Mexico that 'teach' that a good way to kill Bison is to use a long stick with a sharp point, I wonder how many lives were saved because youngsters learnt this trick
before they'd ever encountered a Bison? We can conceptualise prey and hunting without having to risk our lives, most animals learn through play, but we could actually transmit ideas to future generations, thus saving us learning them over and over. It's only just becoming apparent that Chimps and other apes are beginning to use similar techniques, though they are a long way from cave paintings.
Because we can establish a foundation of an idea and then build upon it in the next generation, our society changes preternaturally fast compared to other creatures, wolves, for example, will follow the plan of the leader, for better or worse, they wouldn't revere a wolf that had a better 'idea', he would simply be seen as a threat to the Alpha, whereas we all admire Einstein, Newton and Galileo (the last being an incredibly good example of someone who went against the 'Alpha' to present a new concept). I think that's why, in human society, the Alpha Male and Female is so much harder to define.