To all that this may help: I have discovered that the problems I have been having is not due to openal but a problem with either the video card or system memory. I am leaning toward the video card end as it is an ATI 9800 pro that I have already sent back once with problems and none of the other programs that I use on this machine use the 3D feature on the card (it is my work machine ssssh don't tell anyone). As I stated before my home machine has a similar setup and I have no problem with running FS2_open. Well to be honest I am having some problem with FS2_open freezing up during play both in FS2_open and HL2, but I think that is a heat issue and I will be checking the fan's and power supply to confirm this.
Thanks for all your reply's and comments. You are a great help to all.