I'm an old fan (saw it back in 'teh golden age of fansubs' in '97).
Yes, Shinji can be petty pathetic; and very hard to put up with...
...but I think he's still better than 99% of the action/comic/super heroes out there.
He's just a kid, who has his balls kicked all the time.
WARNING - SPOILERS - WARNING
1. Hey, maybe I can gain my father's love this way! - Gendo doesn't (...is too afraid to?) give ****. Bugger.
2. Hey, I'm living with a beautiful chick! Misato is an alcoholic still obsessed with a father complex + disgusted over her infatuation with her boyfriend. On top of this, she's a slob, and can't stop joking/lolling for a moment. Bugger.
3. Hey, my fellow pilot is a very shapely chick! She has the personality of a slab of brick, with the sensitivity to boot. Later on when I finally make a connection I find out, that she's some weird clone of my mother and can be replaced with another clone any time. Bugger.
4. Hey, I live with another cute chick! Only, she's an egomaniac, and can't stop belittling and taunting me. Our romance consisted of her frenching me while holding my nose. Sex was me jerking off on her comatose body. Bugger.
5. Hey, I had a nice mother, she must have loved me! She did, and as good mother was willingly absorbes into a biomechanical monstrosity, so when I'm inside it and getting my guts meta-physically (which hurts all the same!!) ripped out, she can go ape**** crazzy and go berserk and give me enough live-horror-show experience (with dripping blood, guts and 'al) to last me a lifetime. Bugger.
6. Hey, I've found my purpose. I can protect mankind! No, as it turns out I only do this to seek the attention and approval of others. I can't do **** right. Oh, and I've just gone to 'la-la land to find this out. (Ep 13) Bugger.
7. Hey! ....repeatedly! This time, I was in there for a whole month. Go me. (Ep 14-15) Bugger.
8. Hey! I've just found a guy who really understands me, and can connect with (am I gay?). What?! He's an angel! ...and HE asks me to kill him?!? Bugger!