Change is good as long as you don't lose morals and traditions.
We didn't lose anything, we simply evolved.
But I also feel the man shouldn't do that either. But it seems that in western culture, the women are the ones controlling men (like many of the men do to women in these other countries but reversed)
In many cases in China, and especially in Hong Kong and Shanghai, the women really do rule the roost. They can give even the most feminist of western women a run for their money.
and not using the man
A common problem with western men is quite often after the girl gets her green card she will divorce him and run away to that country. Potential green cards are not the only reason many asian girls prefer western men, another factor is social status (which would in effect be using them), and another is to escape cultural oppression.
When I said about the orient being cleaner, I mean part of their culture is often times taking 2 or 3 showers a day and keeping the house clean, but here it isn't so clean when it comes to that (like the cowboy lifestyle for example isn't clean and many still act like that here at least and litter a lot and can't even put effort into walking to the trash can).
I once know a kid from a kind of poor family who would only bathe once a month because his parents (uneducated "city farmers", basically they live in the city but act like farmers) wanted to save money on water.
it isn't as submissive as it used to be and many women (the traditional ones who follow the traditions, especially the older generation) treat the husband better in oriental countries because they want to, not because they have to.
They do it because they were conditioned from birth to be submissive to their husbands. They do it because they know nothing else. Their culture is amazingly sexist, so it's not surprising that on the UN gender equality survey both korea and japan are towards the bottom.
The expectation is something like this: Woman graduates school, woman gets a job. Woman finds man and marries him, immediately quitting her job to stay at home. Man works obscene hours and seldom sees his own wife except when he goes home to sleep. Woman stays at home to look after kid, never going to work again. Man can do anything he wants to her, and often will cheat on her. Woman leads a long lonely life, existing only to serve her children and husband. Even today that is the typical situation even today, so it is no surprise that many girls simply avoid marriage altogether (or marry a foreigner), resulting a total birthrate crash. Compare this with nordic countries where the men are expected to help take care of the children, the birthrates there are sustainable. Their backwards culture and their unwillingness to change are literally killing them.
I have known and talked to many people from that area of the world helping them in English
I actually live in that part of the world.
Also, Japan is quite well off.
It is rich, for now. But their economy is quite rotten, resulting in the "lost decade" and general sluggishness.
An old, but informative article about it,
Another one analyzing the affects of bad management and "zombie firms", and there are many others out there. It probably won't lose it's wealth, but it certainly isn't getting any richer. Combine that with enormous debt loads, both public and private, that make the current american fiscal irresponsibility look good.
None of the above things bode well for the future of Japan.
Their technology exceeds us in many ways and they are well educated and enjoy studying a lot. Most of the video games you buy come from there and they normally have electronics that the rest of the world never get their hands on until 2 years later. I also watched the travel channel about them having toys that have tech at least 2 years ahead of everyone else
It is true they are technologically advanced, I will give them credit for that, but how much longer can they maintain their lead? China is closing fast in this regard, and while it will take a couple more decades, sooner or later they will be equal.
sometimes they overwork to the brink of going crazy.
A relative of one of my friends works in Japan, typically they work long hours but get surprisingly little done. Why the long hours? Overtime pay of course. Plus it is expected that they workers go home after the manager (who actually does need to work long hours) goes home, resulting in long work days. It often does not matter how good their performance actually is, since in tough times the companies' layoff scheme is based on seniority, not performance. Results? Typically major inefficiencies.
