@iamzack or iamjack or whatever: Then please stop whining about my acting like a bigot. I'd rather not waste my time on you. You started it this time. Like Flipside said, let it go. I'm not responding to any other comeback you have.
I did sort of warn you this sort of thing would happen. If you don't want the public ridicule, get off the public forum. Granted, Zack is a troll, and a delightfully inept one at that (it lacks the sheer unmitigated offensiveness of an0n when he tries, for example, and there's no subtlety to it either), but still. The issue's there.
@NGTM-1R: I used to lack confidence thanks to being made fun of a lot in high school and knowing I had a condition and other things, and always told myself I was cursed and not good enough for anyone. But then as I got older and smarter and improved myself, I realized it was not a curse but a gift. So I now sometimes appear to have too much confidence and if people don't like me, I just think to myself that I'm too good for them and I keep my confidence in myself up and I think and say that they may be luckier than me when it comes to having a love, kids, a big family, and lots of friends, and not many bad experiences, but at least I have more intelligence overall, strength in body and mind overall, and health than they do.
Dead ringer. Something like this tended to drift through my mind during high school, mainly because no one in their right mind at the point in time would mess with me after I came very close to killing someone in middle school. It wasn't until junior year I realized it was probably bull**** (probably not coincidental my grades and social interactions improved around then) and until senior year I outright realized that being able to become a sociopath as though a switch is flipped is Not A Good Thing.
While that's not the issue you have, you have reacted the same way and rationalized you've made strength out of weakness. I hate to break it to you, but from where I'm sitting there's no evidence of that. You've compounded the problem by having the bad grace to assume it's made you better than others out loud, which I didn't do. I did, on occasion, show some scorn for others...but they were others like me. When there was the school shooting in this area, I observed aloud that this kid had it no worse then I did, and I'm hardly bat**** insane enough to go shoot up the building (that caused some interesting reactions). But I was never so self-absorbedly blind as to assume it made me better than
everyone.
Confidence is vital to improve one's self, as well as motivation, effort, and commitment. Those are the 4 things I came up with when it coes to improving one's self. Sometimes I think that if people have too many people in their life, it makes them too weak to handle loneliness or do things on their own (which is probably true in most cases), and they are taking a big chance of getting hurt if they open their heart too much and are too trusting and naive.
Samuel Eliot Morison once observed "One learns more from defeat then from victory." As long as you think this is making you win, you're not learning from it. That you aren't learning from it is evidenced by your wandering, rambling posting style. We are social animals. No human is meant to be alone. We aren't equipped for it.
However, I do have a humble side. For example, I don't like to be the center of attention, especially on birthdays, and I will admit that I always have things to learn in life and I do not know it all. I also don't like to speak in front of crowds in person or do speeches in person. I'm shy and scared when it comes to that. I also don't want to be a leader or be popular. That is my humble side.
Also, even if my social skills are not perfect, the more intelligence someone has, the less they need other people's help and therefore social skills aren't as necessary when it comes to survival. I just try to do as much as I can without help, even if offered help. I want to learn and get more experience is why.
There is no way better to convince people you are
not humble then to claim that you are. While amusingly I too find birthdays something a waste (at least online; one of my goals one year was to ensure nobody I didn't know personally knew I was having a birthday, but Mobius ruined it
), that doesn't prove you're humble. It proves you're not confidant being the center of attention. Much the same can be said about your aversion to leadership, popularity, and public speaking. Calling that humble is bull****, that's pure being frightened. You're trying to paint yourself as confident and refuting yourself at the same time.
No man is an island. No man ever will be. You will always need your social skills, and you in particular will need to improve them. (Also your communication skills, rather seriously. Way off the point again.)
