Well, the problem is in part that people listen to those who shout the loudest, so being loud and obnoxious gets you noticed, that's how half the talking heads on both sides of the divide work.
I just think it's a pity that a few are ruining it for the many, there are sections of American society out there which, rather than seeing their opposites as political and idealogical enemies, are preferring to see them as physical enemies who are 'taking over our country', which, at least to me, reads as 'we've completely lost track of the plot with regards to Democracy'.