He may well have. But he's still acting very much the troll, deliberately misinterpreting what I posted and putting a spin on it that has nothing to do with what was actually said. This is what I'm referring to. He could be a general for all I care, he's still making an ass of himself in that post. I suppose that there may be some major feelings involved on his part, but if so then it's time to cool down rather than post as he did.
I don't see where he misinterpreted your post (and there's no way to tell if it was deliberate or not, even if he did, so don't go there). Could you point out exactly what you're referring to? Here's what I see in your latest post exchange with him:
Shade: Israel should have been more careful with what they did, esp. considering the hot water of world opinion they're in.
Splinter: We weren't careful? Boarding a ship attempting to run our blockade with soldiers armed with paintball guns isn't careful enough? And why the double-standards, anyway?
Shade: Israel should grow-up and be responsible.
Splinter: What more could we have done in boarding a ship with hostile "peace activists" that would have been more "responsible"? Ask them nicely to stop, with a side of ice-cream?
See, I don't understand how he twisted your words... unless you were referring to something entirely else earlier on in the thread? You say he was putting words in your mouth, yet he quoted you word-for-word, and responded - albeit with a heavy dose of sarcasm - to your statements.
Am I missing something?
Tell me, what would you have seen Israel do once that flotilla set sail?
The thing is, I think the mistake here wasn't using too much force. The mistake was in using far too little. When you drop a relatively small group onto a ship of potential hostiles, you are pretty much asking them to attack you. Feelings take over, they sense that they can win, and mob mentality kicks in. It's the same situation you'd get if you sent a single police car into a riot-prone area of town to arrest a local - People don't give themselves up, rather, they start throwing rocks.
What you need in a situation like this is a show of force. You need to make it clear from the beginning that you're in control and that you're prepared for whatever is going to happen. You need enough people involved that you can be confident of not getting overrun. Feelings will be hurt, people will be bruised, but chances are good that noone will be killed. Waiting until the ship was not deep in international waters would have been a good move too - Even if it isn't legally required in the case of a blockade, I don't see how hitting it that far out could've been operationally necessary, and doing so is just giving the media an excuse to villify Israel. Again.
You know, I personally actually agree with you there. I whole-heartedly embrace all those platitudes (I don't mean that negatively) of "Never pick a fight you can't win", "Hit back first", etc. The problem is, when faced with a boat-full of "
peace activists", the world tends to frown on going in swinging. In retrospect, that would have been justified in this case since those "
peace activists" weren't exactly practicing what they preached. But who knew?

So overwhelming force of arms wouldn't have worked. But it seems that you were talking more about overwhelming force of personnel. You're right that that probably would have improved the situation - again, had we expected the "
peace activists" to be violent. But we were hoping they weren't going to be violent... crazy to expect "
peace activists" to behave peacefully, I know, I know... sorry, the irony of the situation just demands some sarcasm.
So, a multitude of personnel. Logistically, I don't see how that would have been possible (though I'm not an expert). Think about it. You want to get as many people onto a moving boat as rapidly as possible. The boat obviously isn't docked in a harbor, with nice convenient gangways to aid in boarding. So "land" is out - what are the alternatives? Sea and air.
Boarding by sea is quite possible, by loading men onto rubber dinghies, approaching the sides of the ship, tossing up grappling hooks that then get tossed back down, climbing up the rope ladders that aren't there... you see the problem.
So, air. You can't very well parachute loads of people onto a boat with any sort of safety - too many poles, antennae, and other pokey stuff sticking up. Helicopters it is, then. The boat doesn't have a helipad (I presume), so you have to hover over the deck, drop ropes, and let your men rappel down the ropes onto the deck. Now, the
Mavi Marmara is apparently 93m / 305ft long. A
Black Hawk helicopter, the most likely helicopter used for this sort of thing, has a rotor span of 16.36m / 53.6ft. Now, according to
photos, the Mavi Marmara looks to have about
20 meters of deck area appropriate for a helicopter to hover over; the rear deck is covered by that framework of metal poles pointed out in point 2 of that
questionable site posted earlier, making it unsuitable for lowering people by rope, and the front has antennae, a sloped area, and the too-narrow prow. Only one helicopter with a rotor span or 16 meters can fit above a clear space of 20 meters.
Thus, the boarding was going to be slow no matter what, one soldier at a time. I guess they could have used more ropes, like you see in the movies... 4 or something, but it's probably an issue of keeping all 4 ropes over areas that are clear enough for the people to land in... not likely to be possible in real life.
Anyway, all that to say that while I agree that an overwhelming amount of personnel all at once would have been much better, I don't see how they could have done it any other way.
However, some things you do not have a right to do. This includes the continued settlement activity which is illegal by international law (and if I'm not mistaken by Israeli law as well), and is one of the things that is severely hurting you in international relations. And there's no way this can be contrived as being self defense.
The removal of settlements from the Gaza strip was a good move and gained Israel a fair bit of respect here (and I would assume elsewhere as well), but sadly this has been squandered completely by the continued expension of the settlements in the west bank. It would be one thing if it could just be written off as fundamentalists doing their thing, reclaiming the holy land and all, but given your government's inaction in the face of the continued expansions, it is obvious that they are at least unofficially sanctioned by the state. And besides being illegal, that's another major international snafu that loses you major goodwill around the world.
Did you miss my link earlier in the thread, about Israel demolishing Jewish houses that were built illegally, during the 10-month settlement freeze? The "government inaction" you claim exists does not.
In any case, what our leaving the Gaza Strip did was show anyone who cared to look what exactly the Palestinians do when they have their freedom: democratically elect an internationally-recognized terrorist organization to government, and commence an unheard-of barrage of rockets on Israeli towns and cities. So until they can get their act together, renounce terrorism, and prove that when they're allowed to govern themselves they don't resort to violence, I don't see how anyone with half a brain could expect Israel to give them the time of day, let alone a more strategically-located position from whence to launch attacks against us.
What's hurting us in international relations is the hypocritical double-standard being applied. Yes, Israel is a democratic, moral, civil country and should be held to the standards of any other such country. If the Palestinians want their own similar country, they need to prove that state terrorism will not be their elected way forward.
Basically, it tells the world that Israel is not prepared to compromise, is not prepared to hold themselves to the same standards the want to hold others. Are palestinians allowed to build armed and walled enclaves in Israel? I thought not. And that's why your government needs to grow up and start showing that they're responsible people. They need to realize that when your claim to fame is being the only democracy in the area, the only place where rule of law is universally applied, you damn well have to actually live up to that. You can't ignore major transgressions to please the religious fanatics. If you expect the palestinians to police their own, then apply the same to yourself. Do that, and I expect Israel will find the international community far more accomodating - Well, within limits anyway, I wouldn't hold out for Iran 
Uprooting Jewish families from Jewish towns in the Gaza Strip didn't tell the world that we were prepared to compromise?

Israel polices it's own far better than the Palestinians do, I don't even understand how you can begin to think that we don't... where do all the suicide bombings, all the indiscriminate rockets come from? More importantly, what are their targets? I've said in years past that although abhorrent in general, if their targets were military, I'd understand it. But their targets are civilians who happen to be eating at the wrong cafe, riding the wrong public bus, or sitting in the wrong classroom at the wrong time. When Israel retaliates against rocket fire, it targets those responsible for said rocket fire, and does everything possible to minimize or eliminate innocent civilian deaths - drops leaflets warning civvies away, for example (not that that ever made sense to me - can't terrorists read just as well as civvies?).
Anyway, I'll close with this - perhaps it will get through people's skulls better than video footage:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOGG_osOoVg