Of course forums, wiki, etc don't use same database. It's not relevant, the databases are still located on same server and use same mysqld process to access them. If there were connection issues, they would be seen on the wiki as well as Game Warden. Since there haven't been any reports to that end, it clearly isn't a server issue at the very least.
There hasn't been any problems with the forums accessing the database either. Not a single error email have been sent to notify about problems connecting to the database. There aren't any such errors logged into the forum error log either. Which means exactly one thing, there aren't any database problems as far as the forum software is concerned.
Which makes sense since otherwise we'd have a lot of people complaining, yet we have none except for one. I don't even know what's the deal in Dilmah's case since he hasn't posted anything since last Monday. For all we know that was one time issue Dilmah faced along with everyone else and is separate issue from what Sesq is having.
Unfortunately I don't have a solution or suggestions for the problem. It is quite curious he's getting database error messages, but everything seems to indicate it's a matter of connections simply timing out. It is actually consistent with above description of the problem, slow loading of pages.
If I had to guess, I'd say that everything points to a networking problem between Sesq and the server. That or some really obscure bug in the forum software, assuming that he really can browse the wiki and GW while forums aren't loading at all. However, it sounds like he didn't try GW at all and only sometimes tried the wiki. The only relevant question here is whether the wiki and GW works while the forums aren't loading. Browsing them while the forums are working is equally irrelevant.
If the answer to those is a no, then it's clearly networking issue and nothing we can do about it. If the answer to that is yes, then is is most likely forum software bug, again nothing we can do about unless there is a code fix somewhere in the official SMF forums. In the latter case someone would have to report it to the SMF devs, someone other than me.