[MR_T3D]

College soon! You'll be okay.

Bloody this.
I was (albeit to a lesser extent) in a similar situation to you, Sig, when I was in Highschool, but when I went to University, everything changed, I just went out and made friends with and partied with everyone in residence, and things turned out pretty great.

[StarSlayer]

Learn martial arts. Not to fight mind you, just to exude competence and self-confidence. Not to mention getting better friends in the process.

Mens sana in corpore sano,

Doesn't necessarily need to be martial arts but taking part in a organized contact sport or activity does loads for burning stress and building confidence.  It will also give you an additional avenue for make friends, who will have similar interests to you and will rely on you as a team member.

[Tyrian]

Don't deal in rumors, understand the logic that plenty of times the devil forces you to be their dance partner, ignoration only works for little kids (in the adult world...you're still there to be made fun of, and they don't care if you act like they exist or not), and take care of your problems directly and clearly with the source. I believe in turning the other cheek and being a kind person and rarely getting angry just as much as the next person, but you also got to take care of things yourself.

I support this.  I'm going to kindly tell him to **** off one last time before I take action.

For our own peace of mind, what kind of action are you considering?  Normally I don't pry into how people handle their problems, but that sounds...ominous...  I'm concerned.

[sigtau]

I was thinking something along the lines of slowly but surely humiliating him exactly like he has humiliated me until he cracks.  He's given me enough ammunition (information) to do so.

[Kopachris]

I used to be like you, but somewhere along the way, I changed, and now people don't bother me anymore.  Confidence was a big part of the change--by simply making my self more confident that I was superior to the ones doing the picking (in a way, that also made me more contemptuous, not necessarily a good thing), I found it easier to assume a leadership position in social groups.  Even though I took those leadership roles, so that people looked up to me more, I maintained an air of mystery about me by remaining separate from the others in the group while still being part of the group.  I talked seldom, except to make a witty remark or share some fascinating tidbit of information that made them go "how do you know that?!"

So, some advice: Be confident about yourself, and separate yourself from the other group members.  Remain associated with them (or another group), but put yourself "behind the curtain," so to speak.  If the pickers try to humiliate you again, cross your arms, look them in the eye, don't smile, and raise your eyebrow.  Then smile and walk away.

Alternatively, just become more passive-aggressive.

Disclaimer: this worked for me.  As I'm not entirely sure about your situation (only you are), it might not actually work for you.  But, hey, something's better than nothing.

[sigtau]

Alright, I'll spill, see if it changes anyone's stance.

I'm currently in a relationship with a girl 2 years younger than me (I am currently aged 16, and I don't want to hear your bull**** about the (age/2)+7 formula), and this guy seems to think it's funny to publicly make pedophile jokes about me in the open.

Sounds silly to be angry over, but it tends to get to you when you're referred to as the friendly neighborhood pedobear by a number of people.

[Mars]

Alright, I'll spill, see if it changes anyone's stance.

I'm currently in a relationship with a girl 2 years younger than me (I am currently aged 16, and I don't want to hear your bull**** about the (age/2)+7 formula), and this guy seems to think it's funny to publicly make pedophile jokes about me in the open.

Sounds silly to be angry over, but it tends to get to you when you're referred to as the friendly neighborhood pedobear by a number of people.

I'm sorry, that's hilarious

Naw, that's acceptable in general.

[BloodEagle]

Alright, I'll spill, see if it changes anyone's stance.

I'm currently in a relationship with a girl 2 years younger than me (I am currently aged 16, and I don't want to hear your bull**** about the (age/2)+7 formula), and this guy seems to think it's funny to publicly make pedophile jokes about me in the open.

Sounds silly to be angry over, but it tends to get to you when you're referred to as the friendly neighborhood pedobear by a number of people.

I'm sorry, that's hilarious

Naw, that's acceptable in general.

I don't find it funny in the slightest.  Especially considering the wave of Hell you can catch merely for being accused (in seriousness) of that.

[Enzo03]

College soon! You'll be okay.

Bloody this.
I was (albeit to a lesser extent) in a similar situation to you, Sig, when I was in Highschool, but when I went to University, everything changed, I just went out and made friends with and partied with everyone in residence, and things turned out pretty great.

What a load of crap.  I do damn near exactly this, and come the end of my first semester, I begin to sense that something regarding the new "friends" I made is a bit... off.  I come back after a stressful winter "break", I hang out with them on the first day back, share some laughs, some stories about our breaks, show off our Christmas presents, the like.  They were gonna go out and have fun and party and stuff.  They ask me if I'm gonna join em and I simply say "Sure!".
Then: "No you're not!", in a 'get the **** out' tone of voice.
I couldn't even muster a response, one can only take in so much ****.  18 ****ing years, from grade school to high school and now here.  I simply left.

I left, and went to my room and had an awful epiphany: They never invited me to go party with them, they hardly ever ask how I'm doing, they never asked if I wanted to even do as much as go eat at the dining hall with them.  Why does everyone else get to have these privileges?  Why is it when they go partying, that there is always one car seat short of allowing me to join in on the fun?  Why do my best efforts to start anew might as well end up in the trash?  What the **** of all things could I have possibly done to make every new attempt at some friends a worthless gamble?
I was told the same thing Battuta said, that college would "fix it all" (of course it's not going to be some all-in-one magic wonder place with beno cracker dispensers where everyone will be my fwiend!) by allowing me to start anew from the crap I put up with in that juvenile ****hole we call Public School.  Well look what happened.
I'm growing sick of people in general now.  All of them.
A vacation sounds nice

and yet...

[Flipside]

At any point in history, the percentage of people willing to be tolerant, accepting and open-minded has always been like a tiny little diamond in a mountain of worthless slag. I honestly don't see that changing any time soon. It's a harsh fact, but I feel it to be a lasting one. Problem is, from my perspective, is that we are 200,000 years of Humanity trying to over-ride several million years of Primate.

[SypheDMar]

If none of your friends stick up for you when there's a problem within the group, they're not the right group of friends.

[Androgeos Exeunt]

At any point in history, the percentage of people willing to be tolerant, accepting and open-minded has always been like a tiny little diamond in a mountain of worthless slag. I honestly don't see that changing any time soon. It's a harsh fact, but I feel it to be a lasting one. Problem is, from my perspective, is that we are 200,000 years of Humanity trying to over-ride several million years of Primate.

Somehow, I feel that your estimate of 200 000 years of humanity is, at best, a massive overstatement.

[Flipside]

Well, it's the estimated date of emergence of what we would define as 'humans'. I suppose strictly speaking, it's probably only a tenth of that in which we've been forming something that could be defined as 'civilisation', so yes, it's probably an over-estimate.

[karajorma]

I say go back to the getting naked pics of him now. Get him arrested for it.

[Dilmah G]

Alright, I'll spill, see if it changes anyone's stance.

I'm currently in a relationship with a girl 2 years younger than me (I am currently aged 16, and I don't want to hear your bull**** about the (age/2)+7 formula), and this guy seems to think it's funny to publicly make pedophile jokes about me in the open.

Sounds silly to be angry over, but it tends to get to you when you're referred to as the friendly neighborhood pedobear by a number of people.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh, this makes more sense.

I think your plan of action previously, humiliating him a little bit, should do the trick. Just make a good call in front of your friends group about, well, whatever and he might get the message. (might seem like a dick move, but if he's a hopeless virgin, you may as well rip the **** out of him now of all times, or at least once to ward him off).

Kara's idea is a good one, but as some of the BP crowd know, this can end badly.

[Pred the Penguin]

Often jerks, assholes, bullies have problems of their own. It's your choice whether or not to find out what they are.

Learn martial arts. Not to fight mind you, just to exude competence and self-confidence. Not to mention getting better friends in the process.

Mens sana in corpore sano,

Doesn't necessarily need to be martial arts but taking part in a organized contact sport or activity does loads for burning stress and building confidence.  It will also give you an additional avenue for make friends, who will have similar interests to you and will rely on you as a team member.

Team sports work for me. If you can find something you're really interested in, it can help blow off the steam.

PS. I don't drink much alcohol so no problem from that.

[Nuke]

At any point in history, the percentage of people willing to be tolerant, accepting and open-minded has always been like a tiny little diamond in a mountain of worthless slag. I honestly don't see that changing any time soon. It's a harsh fact, but I feel it to be a lasting one. Problem is, from my perspective, is that we are 200,000 years of Humanity trying to over-ride several million years of Primate.

the issue is compounded by the fact that people end up walling themselves off into smaller and smaller groups. open mindedness and tolerance only goes as far as human patience. its a matter of how much crap you are willing to take before you start forming strong opinions about certain groups of people.

[S-99]

There's no way to say this without it being a wall of text. I am the best person to talk to about this based on your similar issue compared to mine.

This guy has a 4.2 GPA, a 21 ACT score and an SAT score ranging close to the 2000s.

I don't consider his conduct toward you as being smart.

Remember that not only do we have to tackle his ego, but the collective defense of the rest of the group in his favor.

I wouldn't worry about the other people. Just that one person taken care of can fix the situation. If not, then just keep focusing on one person at a time.

More power to you.  Unfortunately, I am in a divorced family with few close friends and little resources to help me out in this situation.  I simply can't afford to just cut myself off from the world for a four month span.

It was 4 months of me trying to ignore other people and hanging out with my 3 friends still going to the same school. I wouldn't really call it cutting myself off from the rest of the world.

I support this.  I'm going to kindly tell him to **** off one last time before I take action.

Further elaboration on trying to ignore people in the adult world. They'll still ridicule you...whatever, but the big thing here is that they can still make your life a living hell and they'll go for it.

I was thinking something along the lines of slowly but surely humiliating him exactly like he has humiliated me until he cracks.  He's given me enough ammunition (information) to do so.

Take care of the situation so well that you only needed to do it once. Save yourself some time, you're having much more stress and anguish than somebody your age should have. This is the kind of stress and anguish that takes years to get over.

Alright, I'll spill, see if it changes anyone's stance.

I'm currently in a relationship with a girl 2 years younger than me (I am currently aged 16, and I don't want to hear your bull**** about the (age/2)+7 formula), and this guy seems to think it's funny to publicly make pedophile jokes about me in the open.

Sounds silly to be angry over, but it tends to get to you when you're referred to as the friendly neighborhood pedobear by a number of people.

Not silly to be angry over in the slightest. In fact this is a very very big thing. The same thing more or less happened to me when i was a senior in highschool, but my situation was rather extreme. My last year they turned the school into a full all in one school for kindergarten, elementary, junior high, and high school. It was a small school too with an average graduating class of 50 a year in a small town. I did see everybody in that school every day, it couldn't be avoided, it was just the way and size of the school that made it like this. This usually lead to everyone being chill and getting along, until el extremo situation needs to happen.

Some 12 year old girl saw me going to class at the beginning of the year and developed an infatuation with me (someone i didn't even know). I also turned 18. It was all just down hill from there. She got my number by talking to my friends and even called me 5 times every day after school. That was a lot of hangups and having my mom say i wasn't there. The girl wanted a relationship, said that her mother said she could go out with older guys. I said no, not interested, and that i hardly believe that her mother told her that. So she started spreading rumors about me having sex with her. She kept this up all my last year of high school. I had to deal with her every day during lunch along with her friends.

Everyone in the school heard these rumors and i just didn't know what to do. Other highschoolers were asking me how the statutory rape was, and calling me a cradle robber daily. Everyone turned their backs on me except for like 3 or 5 of my friends who stuck around me. These people were real human beings and were my friends. The school staff didn't help at all, they did nothing but help rub in what everyone was saying and hearing about me. School staff did nothing but help make my life a living hell too. The school staff can burn in hell. I had no one to confide in or help me aside from my parents helping deflect phone calls and my few real friends.

I tried just seeing if it would blow over for a couple of months. It didn't work. I was scared to be seen walking down the halls with my friends. I lost 10 pounds because of stress. Soon other people decided to further ridicule me by blaming me for other stuff i didn't do such as me breaking into peoples lockers and taking what i felt invited to. I did my best to keep up with normal routine and not change it because i didn't do anything wrong. Then it got even worse when some students started mentioning a court case, and i was just going WTF?!?! Nothing came of that thank god, someone just had found a great way to rattle my chain though by saying it.

I eventually said **** it, and just didn't care. That was when i started humiliating the bollocks out of others bothering me. And they left me alone. But, this only took care of the issues people were blaming for on top of the whole girl spreading rumors thing. The girl eventually found out my other friends numbers and was calling them and spreading rumors about them of the same manner as she was doing to me. School staff further denounced me telling me to hang out with friends my own age when i did make some new friends that were younger than me. Most of my friends are younger than me and are way cooler than the douches who were my age that i went to class with. But, like i said, i started to care less and less what people were thinking. My friends are my friends, and i care about them greatly.

After i got done taking care of the other problems people were trying to start with me. That left me with finally taking care of the real problem near the end of the school year. My friends started making fun of her, telling her to leave me alone, etc. Soon everyone started to forget near the end of the school year.

I graduated, and that girl still called my house for another six months. I was unusually nice to that girl because i believed she had it in herself to be a better person. She actually did become a great matured adult as i found out last in summer of 2009; 6 years after i graduated and told me that she was sorry. I still talk to her today. It took about 5 years for me to recover emotionally as i was unsure of for a long time if i had to watch my back. After my last year of highschool, they disintegrated the junior high from the all in one school and put them back in their normal building. As many of the cool friends who were junior high students i made near the end of my last year, it was not a smart school administrative decision on behalf of the school board. I also found out it could have been worse as i'd also found out there were a lot more junior high girls that had a crush on me. I have no idea if any of them were helping to cause me trouble. I mean ****, you just don't integrate junior high and high school.

Young people don't think about the consequences of their actions when it involves other people. There are the few that do like me back me back then, and sigtau today. Everyone hears that you shouldn't dance with the devil, but almost nobody thinks about when the devil forces you as a dancing partner whether you like it or not (my situation was started by somebody i didn't even know pulling strings that forced my involvement since the situation was about me). It's also impossible to avoid people, i don't even try to avoid people; avoiding people never got anything done anyway.

These are serious false accusations sigtau is facing. This person with the 4.2 gpa thinking he's just poking some fun at him really is stupid (i mean whoopdiedoo, he knows how to study, but he sure doesn't know how to use what he learned). Tell that person to **** off. Try not to let it get bigger than it already is. This is the kind of stuff that will damage you and take years to get over what other people did to you.

EDIT: And it may not matter how nice you are to that person telling them to stop like i was everyday since i got called 5 times a day. They probably wont stop, and certainly doing nothing in this situation would have done nothing. At the end of the day it is nice to close those doors to people thinking they can just go up to you for no reason and make fun.

[Ypoknons]

This guy has a 4.2 GPA, a 21 ACT score and an SAT score ranging close to the 2000s.

I gotta say, I met plenty o' of 'smart' people in college, law school and in the profession, and some of them are real hard to deal with.

[Scotty]

A 21 ACT score was almost dead set average in my class. (ended up being like 21.2 or something)