Yes, because beating up a kid does entitle you to his lunch.
Wrong analogy. Defending yourself and beating up the whole gang of bullies that want to break your face for no other reason than you are you, however, does entitle you to tell them to stay the **** away from you lest you have to defend yourself again.
I recall this little debate in another thread. Contrary to popular belief, there are some people in this world that hate and will kill you for no other reason than because their you are
different than them. Jews have learned this the hard way for centuries, and the present situation in Israel is largely the result of a historical problem - many Arabs do not believe Jews have a place in the "Holy Lands" and therefore would be more than happy to wipe Israel off the map. They've been saying that since it was first formed in 1948, and I wonder why so many people like yourself seem to forget that.
The conflict in general is not about settlements, or borders, or Palestinian rights. It's about Israel's right to exist, and a large Arab population that doesn't historically believe that. It's only because Israel has successfully defended itself in four hot-wars that they've come to accept that Israel is not going to be destroyed by force of arms. That is the biggest elephant in the room when it comes to peace negotiations - the fact that many of the neighboring Arab states and large numbers (but probably not a majority) of Palestinians have no interest in seeing an agreement with security guarantees for Israel, because they fundamentally do not believe it has a right to
be secure.
I don't support human rights violations, I don't like the settlements Israel keeps putting up in the West Bank, and I don't like the fact that Israel isn't a truly equal society with truly equal democracy... BUT, until the other side of this conflict comes to terms with Israel's right to existence, security, and peace for its citizenry, I will always support the Israeli position over that of the Palestinians. The election of Hamas, whose policy platform is that Israel does not have the right to exist, just goes to show how far we have to go before we can get a peaceful resolution.