@Scotty:
1. So you agree that retaliation is not always defense. Good. Forgive me if I am mistaken, but I believe this is the first time you have said that "intent" and "perception" had anything to do with it.
2. I deliberately chose to divorce myself from the specifics of the Israel vs Hamas conflict when phrasing these questions. I am aware of Hamas' repugnant and blatantly obvious ploy to gain international support; it is repugnant and blatantly obvious. It is also not relevant to the actual disagreement between us... unless the problem is that you have been arguing in abstract terms while thinking in Israel vs Hamas terms? Whatever, I'm not going to go back and read every thing you've written to check whether you used abstract or specific terms.
Is there a reason you have refused to comment on my thought experiment?
The reason I created that thought experiment was not (solely) to back you into a corner and force you to admit that your beliefs have absurd, detestable ramifications. Rather, it is sometimes useful to ask what the difference is between two obviously very different things, because it helps us articulate what that difference is.
So, I ask again: why do you think it is unreasonable to substitute ("your friends, family, and loved ones", "teams chosen by a coin toss") in place of ("people", "nations")?
@Lorric: My original objection was to the 194:1 civilian casualty rate, based primarily on the assumption that if Israel had not counterattacked, the total civilian casualties would be drastically lower than 195. So far I'm the only one (afaik) who has speculated about what the civilian casualties would've been like had Israel not counterattacked. My estimate was "0:1", but that was based on my "rate or volume of fire" hypothesis, which I will no longer repeat in a manner that might be interpreted as definite fact.