Well people certainly aren't wired up to operate on Enlightenment principles, but I don't think that what we are seeing is anything to get depressed about. Feminism is basically an outgrowth of Enlightenment memes. Enlightenment memes are really fit because they appeal to a broad base and they generally lean towards prosperity if people actually follow through on them, but that doesn't mean that they magically convince people to adopt them on their own merits. People have to force them down their children's' throats just like any other "values" indoctrination because it's ultimately good for everybody.
Look, this is going to sound sarcastic and I must stress it doesn't come from that place, but you make me say it:
I am not a child and I won't have anything forced down my throat. If anything, these are the children trying to force **** down their elders' throats, all the while making it all too apparent they are just incredibly new to this thing called life and are still in the early stages of learning how to be proper human beings. It doesn't stop them from being such a-holes in the mean while though.
In this particular case, you say that the current wave of feminists takes a violent posture towards the system. Smash the Patriarchy! But is anyone actually advocating violence? Is their goal to subjugate men? Are they trying to stifle freedom of speech with their trigger warnings and privilege checks? No, they're trying to realize a more enlightened world where women aren't treated like **** by men who have convinced themselves that the Enlightenment is on their side and that feminists are just a bunch of hysterical *****es who don't know how good they've got it.
Violence is all too visible for all that aren't with their eyes closed. The bullying is everywhere, it's obviously not physical. It's reputational. If you don't toe the party line, if you fail to consider all these new rituals invented by some bloggers with PTSD from twitter interactions then you will be tarnished, demonized, called out, etc. Donglegate was not atypical, it was merely more newsworthy.
What you fail to understand is that the fact that I am deeply critical of all this phenomena, I fully understand and know all these ideas came from good intentions. The "Check your privilege" has good intentions within it. However, they do operate in anti-meritocratic, anti-hierarchical terms, which is amazing in principle and almost always terrible when in action. It becomes bullying by identity politics: I am a woman, so you must shut up and listen to me. No, I musn't because I am a black woman,
you shut up. Terms like "mansplaining" and "whitesplaining" become clichés of shutting down any disagreement to the party line. Funnily enough, consistency is not at all a good thing. If a woman is saying things that are running counter to the party line, she will be shut down by
men without any risk of charges of "mansplaining". At that point, if a woman is saying that her experience is not the oppressed feminists are claiming it is, she becomes a "woman myoginist" or a "shill girl", is bullied and harrassed. Scholars who dare present evidence that boys are being left out in education get shout down and harrassed in lectures until it becomes impossible to discuss anything.
This is the mindset that if not tamed, if these people aren't shook a bit and told "hey you're being assholes, cut it out", it becomes totalitarian.
Some gentle feminists will do exactly what you approve of and appeal directly to enlightenment ideals with carefully researched powerpoint presentations. Some idiot feminists will go on all-out emotionally manipulative power trips and make asses of themselves. Then there are those in the middle who will lightly touch nerves and just really bother men in a way that invites in depth discussion from some, revealing misogynistic tirades from others, and a whole lot more attention from everybody than the issue would have received otherwise. I think those are the people that can really speak effectively, people operating in those gaps between how our minds actually work and how we like to think they work.
I know you are trying to paint a kind of Gaussian curve with the purpose of saying that I'm focusing in the rubbish part of it. I think that's untrue. Where is this middle ground filled with great contributions? Manveer is the exception, not the gaussian middle. The middle is the noise within the internet, the shouting down, the Sarkeesian supporters who are daily commenting her tweets about the latest hate mail she got, the 10 reporters in game magazines who declared gamers to be dead in a single day, etc.
I'm not saying I think Sarkeesian is some uniquely talented master manipulator or anything. I think everyone does this and it's just a natural part of human communication and social evolution. My point is that I don't think it's particularly fair to criticize feminists for taking short cuts that everyone else also exploits. That's my Enlightened opinion and I'm sticking to it even in the face of overwhelming empirical evidence to the contrary.
I agree with all of what you are saying, with one simple exception, which is the shape of the gaussian curve of this whole situation. The forms of both gaussian perceptions determine both your optimism and my pessimism.