Fixing that problem is going to require going far deeper into the male psyche than simply telling them it is 'wrong', it's hard-coded into us genetically and I can understand why men feel it is a threat to their masculinity as easily as I can see what is wrong perpetuating the meme that women exist to be rescued by men. It's lizard-brain stuff, and it's going to take a heck of a lot of work to untangle it properly.
Even if it's not true that you're overreacting in thinking male anxiety towards women is hardcoded based upon the transient problems we're facing now, the moment we mastered language the lizard brain stuff didn't matter to us as much. Culture is by its very nature not just based upon our genetic heritage. The same genes can produce wildly different social organizations and hierarchies, thought patterns, gender and age roles. We've already violated whatever how we were "programmed" to behave a billion times. Why stop now? What's so special about gender inequality?
The whole
point about Lizard Brain stuff is that it doesn't involve talking, or even much thinking, they are largely automatic responses that are beyond our control. We don't violate that base programming, we simply alter society to approach it in a different way. The simple fact that in thousands of years of development it is only relatively recently that most (though
far from all) of the world has come to terms with the concept of Feminism and what it is attempting to achieve.
Remember, a vast chunk of the world still doesn't even let women vote or participate in society on an equal basis, and still places them very much in a subservient role in relationships. That's why there WILL be a response to people pointing out these problems that equates with feeling challenged, overcoming the problem requires a little more than shouting at them until they change, that much has been made more than obvious in the several threads on the subject.
Edit, oh, and you are correct it
is not true that I'm 'over-reacting' purely because I said something that you don't agree with, which is kind of my point, automatic defensiveness of our perceptions is built into all of us, not just the 'bad guys'. Every time you read a comment you don't agree with and think 'I'll start this reply with an attack on the posters motives or ability to understand the problem', you're listening to the Lizard Brain.