deathspeed, your beliefs are very close to my own on tolerance and interacting with people. And MP-Ryan, I've said it before and I'll say it again, you are the poster I respect the most when it comes to Gen Disc. An example to us all in how to conduct yourself imo. And Luis, please take this as the friendly advice it’s meant as, I know why you are angry. I know all too well what you are feeling. But please try to calm down, for while I agree with just about everything you are saying, it is damaging the effectiveness of your arguments. And you are right. Your anger is justified. And while I love the passion, the anger is getting in your own way. Please try to calm down and re-read your posts once you are calm and try to imagine how they could come across in current form, and then imagine how they would look if you strip the angry words out. Also, you don’t need to come at this topic right away. Take some time if you need it to cool down before you post.
Some people seem to be getting caught up with the problem of thinking we have to tolerate the extreme. I don't think anyone is referring to the extreme in this. For some people around here they will do whatever it takes to win and destroy the credibility of the other side. If that means coming at someone sideways and attempting a character assassination and twisting everything they say into the worst possible interpretation and applying the most sinister motives they can think of to that person, so be it. They make the discussions so hostile. You would think we were making history turn before us on here with the cut-throat way some people behave here in our discussions. Anything seems to go as long as you're right it seems for them. And of course, they always think they're right. For who is going to argue points that they don't think are right?
Now, I and I think others will look at this behaviour and be confused. Confused because it’s not going to solve anything. Because it’s not going to win that person over. Putting someone on the defensive and making them attach negative associations to interactions with you is about the worst way to go about winning someone’s heart and mind. But I don’t think it’s about that single person, though there are certainly very real negative feelings towards that person, it’s certainly not impersonal with regard to that person. It’s about spreading whatever it is they’re getting behind, and using the tactics of the politician to do that. What I mean by that is when you see opposing politicians meet or go on campaign, they’ll often go after the other person’s character. Why bother meeting them in a fair debate on each subject when you can simply invalidate all the arguments they make by planting in the minds of the people the notion that that person is a moron, a bigot, a racist, or whatever the flavour of the month happens to be. It’s a cheap and nasty shortcut. Someone like Anita Sarkeesian operates in much the same way. She shuts down all opportunities for the opposition to engage with her, and uses the trolls as a vehicle to paint everyone who opposes her as the same as those trolls. And some people like that because they don’t care how the view is promoted and pushed, only that it is. Whatever works. Whatever gets the job done. The path of least resistance rather than the right path. Why bother with anything else, when you can just cut the legs out from under the opposition immediately by associating them with those trolls and making the resistance melt away because people won’t even step up for fear of being branded a hatemonger, a troll, a misogynist? Bring this association into the minds of people, that the only possible opposition to Anita Sarkeesian is from trolls and misogynists. From a dying gaming culture of misogynistic, sexist, hateful people who are in the process of going the way of the dinosaur. Here on the forum, I think it’s about promoting your views simply by making it so you are the only one expressing said views, and exploiting the power of peer pressure. Setting up an us or them dynamic, they always seem to go for the us and them dynamic, and make the other side to the one they’re standing on look as unattractive and difficult to stand on as possible. Discredit, demonise and destroy the opposition or simply make life difficult enough for them that they melt away. But not everyone is going to do that. And when these people meet with resistance that refuses to conform or be broken down by these insidious tactics, they get angry. They get really angry.
Tolerance doesn't mean you have to respect someone. It doesn't mean you have to like them. It doesn't mean you have to stay silent and allow them to spread their views unchallenged. You're never going to like everyone in a place like this. That doesn't mean you should try and remove them from it by making life difficult for them, harassing them, or trying to get rid of them. There are two people on this forum who I will not name who I strongly dislike, which has nothing to do with hostile action against me. I just ignore these two people completely. Oh, I read their posts. But I don't talk to them. If they're not doing anyone here any harm, then they have a right to be here and be unmolested. I truly believe that. Their mere presence here does not bother me. This place is big enough for the three of us and then some. If you choose to interact with someone, you should treat them with respect. And I don't mean anything special here, nothing more than the basic respect you'd give a stranger is needed. If you can't do that for whatever reason, and they're not doing any harm, leave them alone. And harm doesn’t include expressing opinions you don’t like, if it’s done in a respectful way. I know of at least one person here who does not like me, but doesn’t try to do me any harm. And I respect them for that. The feeling of dislike is not mutual.
It's possible to vehemently oppose someone's view while not being out to harm them. It’s possible to be passionate about what you believe in without that passion turning into hate and negativity. It's possible to dissect someone's arguments while being nice and friendly at the same time, or at the very least, impersonal. It’s possible to enter a discussion with an open mind even if it involves viewpoints and ideologies that you despise. You can have two people who completely and very strongly disagree with each other and still have them hold a civil and open minded discussion with each other with mutual respect. If even enemies in war can sometimes respect each other, I’m sure we can too. As well as the fact this place is not primarily for discussion. The off topic forums are called that for a reason. We all have something in common. And personally, I find it helpful to remember that fact.