One of my favorite things to do when playing Mech3 online was to turn down challenges. My reason? IT'S A GAME!!!!!! I play for enjoyment, which means i don't play with people i don't like. The Challenges made in tournament or league were one thing, but the flat out grudge matches were just stupid.
The one time i did accept the challenge I stipulated that a witness be in there as well. as soon as we launched i told my oponent to have fun, i was going out for pizza, and left. When i returned, the room was still talking about how foolish he looked in there calling me names thinking i was still there.
but really, no matter who would have won, what would it have proven? That one of us was better at a game? I'm sorry but that's little comfort compared to actually training in an art so that you may better defend your family if needs be. Maybe i have a smidge of Hotshot attitude in RL, maybe I am just confident because of what i train to do. All I know is, i may get beaten in a game, but God help the man who tries to hurt my children.