Fair enough. You see things from the British side, I see things from the Republic side. Obviously I don't support republican violence; that, like unionist paramilitaries, is only going to keep the two communities at each others throats for generations. Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be anyone here from N.I. to say whether we're close so all we've got are opinions.
Obviously you feel an afilliation with fellow British citizens but how can you, at least in this instance, take the side of people who are attacking your own defense forces? People who have threatened in the past to take up arms against the British nation if the majority will of their nation (i.e. N.I.) is followed (and I freely admit its not the majority yet) for independence or reunification? And who currently seem to be doing so?
Lets face it; the creation of the country itself is an aboration. In 1923/4 county boundries for Down and Fermanagh were changed before the hand over to the free state to exclude catholic area's, thus making them Protestant majorities and a part of the new country. It shouldn't even exist!
And while I'll never agree with terrorism targetting civilian targets, it can be argued that without the horrific 70's campaign there wouldn't have been nearly so much effort put into forging the current peace process. Probably

less barriers to demolish now because of it though.
Basically, from what I see there just seems to be an attitude or desire form a definate portion of the Protestant community that they want things to stay as they are, or as they were a few decades ago when they were an undisputed superior class, no matter that it made Catholics very much second class citizens.
But in fairness Vyper; if it's really you view to just roll in the tank divisions as a solution then I can't expect you to even consider any of that.