Calm down man. No one ever mentioned anything about all Americans being a certain way, I don't know where you're getting this from. I personally believe that the vast majority of Americans, and indeed people in general, this that what the airline did is stupid and that such stringent moral codes should not be forced on the public. This has nothing to do with the American people, and certainly not with you or your family, it has to do with an ignorant and ultra-conservative government, as well as the a highly restrictive and conservative polcies enacted by certain businesses.
I now that the actions of the American government do not always speak for its citizens. Thats the case pretty much anywhere.
edit: To clarify, I used the term "American values" (in quotes on purpose, because it is not accepted as fact) in my previous post because for certain people, specifically those supportive of such invasive measures, "American values" is synonymous with "Christian values", "family values", "traditional values" and so forth. It was not meant as a generalization against all Americans, I would have thought that is obvious.