[adwight]

I am the most confused guy in the world right now, seriously.  I am seeing this girl right now and we had a very good and long talk about us and everything else.  I asked the question, 'what do you think of me?', and she spilled her guts to me.  She told me that she loved me and wanted to be with me forever.  I really thought that she is the one. I told her how I felt and i really thought it was true.  Yesterday she told me that this guy kissed her k?  She talks to me and tells me that she is so sorry and didn't mean for it to happen and all that other bull****.  I thought nothing of it, maybe something happened?  He didn't know that I was going with this girl so I could live with it  Then he comes and wants to hang out with her, and you think she would say no right?  Wrong, she goes with him and only god knows what happens.  Guys, I am confused.  This sounds pathetic, but I really don't know how to handle this situation.  Boy you should have seen me when she left.  I completely wasted everything around me, and I thought I handled it well.  I really feel like going and kicking that guys ass.  But I don't know.  My opinion is that girls are the most confusing things on this earth, and that I'll never figure them out.  I don't know what I'm going to do.  If she did anything with him, she's gone like a rock I believe.  Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

Now, what are your thoughts on the matter?

[an0n]

I advocate violence. But then I always do.

My opinion is that she's jerking you around. **** her (figuratively). Kick the guys ass on general principle, even if you're no longer pissed.

Normally I'd have better advice, but you've caught me in a very predatory mood. So - violence.

[Nix]

Dude, Girls are overrated.  *activates flame-retardation skin*

If she's going out with this one guy and kissing him and everything, and she comes back to you and says that she didnt mean for it to happen, and she goes out with him AGAIN, well doesn't that tell you something about her?

Seriously, one of two things needs to happen right here and now.  Either Step up to the guy and "inform" him of the situation, however you see fit, wether you talk to him, or knock him out over it.  I honestly have seen this happen way too many times, and all I can say is that girls like these are more trouble than they're worth.  The other thing is to get rid of her - save the stress.

Ask yourself, if she says she wants to be with you yet keeps going out with this guy who kisses her and such, ask yourself if you are honestly willing to put up with this kind of wishy-washy behavior.  Is it honestly worth her goofing around with other people, when you're honestly working hard to be faithful to her?  If she's not going to be faithful, and go around with other guys, and NOT with YOU, where she should be in the first place, why should you put forth the energy and stress to save something that she ovbiously doesnt value. 

BTW, You're in Utah?  So am I.  Trust me when I say that I've seen girls act like this around here.  Wether you're from the north or the south, they're typically the same.  Ahh.. if I were to move back to Nevada.....  mm...

[adwight]

I think that I am going to drop her.  I'll find out after I have a nice long talk with her.  Where are you at in Utah, going to college or anything?

[an0n]

If this goes the way I hope it goes, this will be the funniest thing ever.....

[Nix]

Good call.  *Millertime*
Yah, in the south, not the deep south party college, but the other south college, and no, it's not Snow.

[WMCoolmon]

Now, what are your thoughts on the matter?

I've never understood why it's the other person, and not the cheater, who gets the bad rap.

*votes move on*

[phatosealpha]

If they are still young enough to be called girls without them punching you, they are pure chaos, plain and simple.

[redmenace]

Back stabing, disloyal, money grubbing, manipulative, and fleeting.

[Prophet]

Dont ever mention the word "love" unless you have been involved (hanging out/together) with someone at least for 8 months. After that you may start thinking about love. And if your still together after a year, it might actually be love.
Those who belive in love at first sight, or just broadcast after a month of dating that the love you... Be careful with them. That usually ends up wiht nothing but heartache. Really rushing things lead you nowhere.

Another point. If you are in a relationship that you are unsure of, or slightly uncomfortable, then figure it out fast! Might be just better to go seperate ways, and try to remain friends. If you prolonge it and you are not comfortable in it, you're just making things worse.

So in other words: Never be in a relationship where either of you is unsure, or too sure about it.

[Scuddie]

Women think with 'feelings' instead of logic.  They are also self-riteous *****es who can not, under any circumstance, be wrong.  The average chick has more materialistic and superficial traits than any man you will ever see.  They crave money, dominance, and shoes.  To hang around a female would only serve to drag you down.  They aren't worth my time, and I assume not worth your time either.  As an0n vouches for violence, I vouch for celebacy and true expression of the much-deserved hatred of the female creature.

Yeah, I hold a grudge.  Sue me.

[Janos]

Women think with 'feelings' instead of logic.  They are also self-riteous *****es who can not, under any circumstance, be wrong.  The average chick has more materialistic and superficial traits than any man you will ever see.  They crave money, dominance, and shoes.  To hang around a female would only serve to drag you down.  They aren't worth my time, and I assume not worth your time either.  As an0n vouches for violence, I vouch for celebacy and true expression of the much-deserved hatred of the female creature.

Yeah, I hold a grudge.  Sue me.

you propably should get laid

[Descenterace]

Don't expect a first relationship to work out.
Or the second, third, fourth, etc...

So I'm a pessimist. Sue me.

[Fineus]

The question of girls suffers from situational dependency.

That is to say - depending on the situation - they can be the best or the worst thing in the world.

[yubyub]

If you had posted this message about a month ago, before my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me (ironically enough for one of my bestfriends (an0n would be proud of the ass-kicking I gave him 3 days ago) who had helped me choose an engagement ring), I would have defended girls.  However, right now I'm all for just using them.  In the end, when you finally commit your heart to them, they hurt you.  Just use them as pleasure-toys, that's my new opinion! 

[Edward Bradshaw]

I am the most confused guy in the world right now, seriously.  I am seeing this girl right now and we had a very good and long talk about us and everything else.  I asked the question, 'what do you think of me?', and she spilled her guts to me.  She told me that she loved me and wanted to be with me forever.   .

How old is she? She sounds young. If she's younger than 26, dont believe her if she says stuff like this. Do that, you cant be disapointed.

Ed

[BlackDove]

Sounds like the ***** is in heat.

Steer clear of that.

[Charismatic]

Sounds like the ***** is in heat.

Amen to that. Girls suck. You love them and they hert you. They, as said, can be the best and worst thing for you. Tho im heading into a relationship with one that i probably shouldent do.. meh il try for it. Well shes likeing this other guy more then you. Leave her. Get out while u have ur emotions intact.

KICK HIS ASS --I VOTE VIOLENCE!

[Solatar]

My motto is..actions speak louder than words.

My girlfriend says she cares about me, ok, fair enough, I guess I kinda believed it. But when things like her ex (who's known her since they were like...3) getting cussed out by her because he badmouthed me behind my back occur, you start to trust.

Seems like she has the words, but not the actions. The actions can exist without the words, but the other way around doesn't work.

EDIT: I've also been in this EXACT situation before too. Get the hell out. I got out...had a chance to start liking my current girlfriend, who likes me exclusively.

[copiae]

Women think with 'feelings' instead of logic.  They are also self-riteous *****es who can not, under any circumstance, be wrong.  The average chick has more materialistic and superficial traits than any man you will ever see.  They crave money, dominance, and shoes.  To hang around a female would only serve to drag you down.  They aren't worth my time, and I assume not worth your time either.  As an0n vouches for violence, I vouch for celebacy and true expression of the much-deserved hatred of the female creature.

Yeah, I hold a grudge.  Sue me.

You know, i never really understood women. If you've just met a girl, the more you are mean to them, the more you make fun of them, the more they come to you.  If, on the other hand, you go the other route and compliment them anything but indirectly, watch them run. They are, as a lot, extremely selfconscious and believe in wishy-washy things like astrology and palm reading. But don't think that men are any better... we are just as bad as women, if not worse, except in different areas.


Your friend sounds like she is confused. She likes you, and enjoys the time she spends with you, but this new guy that she is seeing is probably loads of fun to be around and she doesnt want to give that up. *Shrug* Either leave her, or forbid her from ever seeing that guy again (but be prepared to leave if she ignores you). Then again, what would i know... in these matters, i am a fool.