[Bobboau]

like I said, single girls do not exist. she has a guy already.
girls are like quarks, they exist in and of themselves in theory, but you can not find one by it's self.

[Black Wolf]

like I said, single girls do not exist. she has a guy already.
girls are like quarks, they exist in and of themselves in theory, but you can not find one by it's self.

For halfway decent girls, you're spot on. I'm definitely remembering that'n.




Of course, if I ever tell it outside the physics department, I'll probably never get a girl again. Oh well. I think there's... maybe a girl in the physics department...

[aldo_14]

I'm just curious about how hard is it to date a girl these days?  There's a guy at work who's been looking for a girlfriend in the last 6 years and still have no success of finding one.  He goes on a date every chance he gets and whines about girls are always playing hard to get.  Is it true?

I think that this is one of those questions that can best be answered with another question:

WHY ARE YOU NOT DATING HIM?

Once you've answered that question, there's a good (not 100%, granted) chance that you've got the answer to your question.

I would hazard to guess that perhaps he is a dick.

Or, she is otherwise engaged.

Or both.

[WMCoolmon]

If he was truly a dick, this thread would either be about how there's some jackass at work with a crappy girlfriend, or wouldn't exist at all (probably the latter).

One of the basic rules about dating seems to be that the people who seem to most deserve to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, don't. "Ignorance begets confidence", and all that.

Oh, and :footinmouth: on the subject of Fragaria being 'otherwise engaged'.

[aldo_14]

If he was truly a dick, this thread would either be about how there's some jackass at work with a crappy girlfriend, or wouldn't exist at all (probably the latter).

One of the basic rules about dating seems to be that the people who seem to most deserve to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, don't. "Ignorance begets confidence", and all that.

I'm not sure about that one........

[Colonol Dekker]

You're asking here? 

I agree, HLP is for wacky zany talking about crap you do in RL, not an instruction guide, although we can offer witty pithy comments to mislead you if you want

[redmenace]

At the age of 25, I could frankly careless about women. Maybe your friend should stop wining and start worrying about the more important things in life. A girl friend will NOT make him happy unless he is first happy and content with ones self. Other wise he would just such the life out of the relationship, or become involved with a psychotic *****.

But, yes if you go around looking for a gf you are not likly to find one.

[Colonol Dekker]

But, yes if you go around looking for a gf you are not likly to find one.

Thats not true at all....   If you dont look you will NEVER pull, Kazans just got married, take it  as inspiration you canlead a healthy HLP life and still get your nuts in.

[redmenace]

If you go around constantly being preoccupied with something as trivial and misleading as dating, you will not find happyness.

[Colonol Dekker]

Hands up all those that are married, *raises hand* i've been hitched years, Get out and about and be yourself, but contrary to Redmenaces statement, you have to strie for something. You can hope that she'll (whoever she may be) will come up to you, but you have to make it happen too.

[aldo_14]

At the age of 25, I could frankly careless about women. Maybe your friend should stop wining and start worrying about the more important things in life. A girl friend will NOT make him happy unless he is first happy and content with ones self. Other wise he would just such the life out of the relationship, or become involved with a psychotic *****.

But, yes if you go around looking for a gf you are not likly to find one.

I think it's always better to 'stumble' into someone, but if you fall in love with the right person generally it irons out the worries and issues you have with yourself.  The right girl (or boy), after all, is someone that makes you happy just to know you're on the same planet as them.

[Mefustae]

i've been hitched years

Yeah, and we can all see what it's done to you.

[Colonol Dekker]

No thats just job stress and years of drinking too. All i'm saying is life is like a lottery, you gotta be in it to win it.

[Wobble73]

*raises hand* I've been married for 5 years this September gone.... when I met her I wasn't looking for anything but a good night out. I was on holiday for a week and thought I'd just have a laugh the first night there. Thats when I met HER. We met every night that week and when I returned home she rang me and then came to live with me, (leaving her then husband in the process). We have been together for nine years now. I always say you can never find anything when you look for it, stop looking and it will find you!

[Colonol Dekker]

Whoa..... Well sometimes things just work out, but i'm keeping my misses away from you

[perihelion]

*raises hand*  6 and a half years.  We've known each other for nearly 14, though.  We met in highschool, generally annoyed the heck out of each other, and that kind of evolved into a (grudging? no, not really, but reluctant definitely) respect as verbal sparring partners.  We had about the most atypical courtship I've ever heard of.  Depending on whose memory you trust, we either met in a morgue (biology field trip freshman year) or in the middle of a bomb threat at the high school.  Either way, not particularly auspicious beginnings.   

After a few years of sharpening our wits on each other and editting each others papers, we were more or less an item.  I realized afterwards that most of our friends had either: 1) thought we had been an item for over a year, or 2) been rolling their eyes at us and wondering why we weren't going out for significantly more than a year.  (shrug)  Waited until after we'd gotten our undergrads, then we got married.  Best thing that ever happened to me.

Neither of us had been planning on anything.  "Things just happen.  What the hell." 

[Roanoke]

From the title I thought WF was posting a vacancy sign.......

[IceFire]

I'm just curious about how hard is it to date a girl these days?  There's a guy at work who's been looking for a girlfriend in the last 6 years and still have no success of finding one.  He goes on a date every chance he gets and whines about girls are always playing hard to get.  Is it true?

Bloody hard.  Let me tell you.  The last one that I had a go at didn't work out so well.  It takes me a bit to psych myself up and it also means that I usually think that person is really great or at least seems really great from the onset.  We had one date, it went really well, and that was it. Then she stopped talking to anyone and disappeared.  By a strange coincidence another guy I know tried to date her about a year and a half later and it went even worse...she blew up when he even tried to ask for a date.

Now I realize that not all of us guys are not perfect and if we're not your thing...not a problem.  But geeze...try and have some class. I have not found anyone with class for a while.  Not a shred of it.  I keep forcing the blame on myself...and I bet your co-worker there...if he's a genuine guy who is trying to find someone...he's probably doing exactly the same thing.  The nice guys, the guys that the girls say they want...nope...we're out here but we're exactly the last on the list.  When we do try and go for someone we're made to feel like the jerks of the whole thing for even considering them.

Its screwed up but you can't get ahead these days by being the honourable gentleman.  Not even close.  I have one friend who's dating this jerk of a guy and she keeps dumping him and picking him back up again and it never seems to end. She really should find one of those nice guys out there but she's content to live this dramatic and possibly abusive relationship instead.

Sorry...ranting now.

[Flipside]

Reminds me of a friend of mine, who used to ask out just about every woman he met. As he put it 'I've heard "No" so many times that it just doesn't bother me any more'.

Oddly enough, he managed to lead a very active life as far as partners were concerned.

[IceFire]

Ok...not sorry...have to rant more.

I hear constantly about hanging out with your friends, it'll just happen when you least expect it to, don't go looking, sort out other things in your life first. Well...so far it hasn't helped a damn bit.   I do sound bitter and disgruntled and at this point I feel its very justified with that amount of garbage I've had to put up with.