[achtung]

Well bob, if you want to feel depressed, that's fine by me. 

[Flipside]

My fiance of four years was seeing another man for a year before she bothered to tell me. I then went for 5 years without a partner because I couldn't trust anyone.

**** Happens. Regretting it or is just a recipe for continued ****.

Some people aren't designed for continued relations with 'Forbidden Fruit', I'm one of those people, I don't regret that fact, though I used to.

Look at it this way, would you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who screwed you around like that? It's not exactly an auspicious start on her part, no matter what excuses she attempts to use to justify it.

[Bobboau]

Oh my god! My eyes! My eyes are burning!

and with my absence of sentence structure or punctuation, I shall make you all suffer as I have!!!
sorry I wasn't even planning on making a long post, I just got on a tyraid and then next thing I know I'm 15 minutes late for class.

no, you see, I wasn't depressed before I made this a priority, right now, I'm trying to put myself back were I was, trying to purge the ideas that I'll have any sort of loving relation ship forget about it, stop trying, and just focus back on trying to get threw school and code. that will be my life, and I will enjoy it, like I used to. I don't want to feel depressed, that's why I'm giving up, sense all I do is fail, THAT depresses me, so I'm getting away from it.

[Flipside]

Your life comes first anyway Bobb. Always.

[Bobboau]

[in response to your first post]
and I'm not going to lie to myself, I knew at the time she was perfect, I knew from the first time I talked to her, I'm not going to sour grape the situation, one of the things I was attracted to was how kind she was, I honestly don't think she did any of that on purpose, I just wasn't any ware near as important to her as she was to me.
please don't put me in a position were I have to defend her, I'd rather not remember.

BTW this sort of thing has happened about four times, gets worse each time, I don't think I could survive it next time.

[Flipside]

Fair enough, I'm not here to re-open old wounds.

[Wild Fragaria]

I'm sorry to hear that, Bob.

[aldo_14]

Bob, I don't want to open old wounds either, but bear in mind hope isn't meaning you have to go looking, it's just to be open in case somone else finds you  

People sometimes find love in the strangest, oddest ways, after all - sometimes in places they least expect or least hope to find it.  I'm not saying you can't hurt or that you should expect to find someone, just that life can still surprise us in good as well as bad ways.  Hope is just a reminder that, even though we can hurt terribly, we should never lose the capacity for happiness.

At least, that's my psychology .  Sometimes it's easier to look back at a tunnel when you've gone out the other side, after all, than when you're deep inside.  The important thing is that there's always an other side, even to the darkest tunnel.

[Bobboau]

well if some girl falls into my lap, I'll be more than happy to let her sit there, but I'm not going to expect it, and I'm not going to try and make it happen.

[Turey]

well if some girl falls into my lap, I'll be more than happy to let her sit there,

I know this is a very serious conversation, but 

[Taristin]

This thread reminds me of my sad. Thanks.

[IceFire]

[in response to your first post]
and I'm not going to lie to myself, I knew at the time she was perfect, I knew from the first time I talked to her, I'm not going to sour grape the situation, one of the things I was attracted to was how kind she was, I honestly don't think she did any of that on purpose, I just wasn't any ware near as important to her as she was to me.
please don't put me in a position were I have to defend her, I'd rather not remember.

BTW this sort of thing has happened about four times, gets worse each time, I don't think I could survive it next time.

I did read that whole thing despite lack of paragraphs and sentences   I do sympathize.  Semi-similar thing happened to me.  I gave up eventually.  Actually I think it happened twice.  That was enough.  Makes you want to scream.

Let me just say that while you are putting yourself back together.  Try and keep some of that stuff away from work related stuff...although I'm sure SCP will suffer without your very brilliant coding talents I learned from personal experience that a full retreat isn't entirely desirable either.  At least it wasn't for me...I dove into my school work...but it leaves you feeling empty and bitter on the inside. 

[IceFire]

I don't know you in person but you sound like a very sweet and special person, Icy.  It just a matter of time.   You're still young and don't just give up hope that easily

Thanks!  I do appreciate it!

[Nuke]

nukes theory of love:

burn them!!!!! burn them! burn them! burn them! burn them!

[Bobboau]

"although I'm sure SCP will suffer"

it already has, if you look I haven't hardly done anything in the last two years, there are a number of factors leading up to this, but this was a major one, the whole situation left me not wanting to do anything but sleep and watch TV and snack.

[Knight Templar]

You're asking here? 

Givens aside, advise him to try alcohol, the great unifier. Best case scenario, he can find a girl, get her drunk, and take advantage of her. Worst case, he can have a good time home alone... watching BSG reruns...

[IceFire]

"although I'm sure SCP will suffer"

it already has, if you look I haven't hardly done anything in the last two years, there are a number of factors leading up to this, but this was a major one, the whole situation left me not wanting to do anything but sleep and watch TV and snack.

Somehow manage to get your friends to kick your ass and get you going out somewhere.  To a movie, to a pub, to a bar, to a coffee shop...whatever your scene is.  It helps.  It doesn't cure...but I've found it to be at least good at making things a tiny bit better.  I resisted but my friends kicked my ass...I needed it.  Still do.

[Goober5000]

My fiance of four years was seeing another man for a year before she bothered to tell me.

er... you were engaged for four years without getting married?

Call me tactless, but maybe she got impatient.

[Turey]

My fiance of four years was seeing another man for a year before she bothered to tell me.

er... you were engaged for four years without getting married?

Call me tactless, but maybe she got impatient.

BURN!!!!!!!!!!!! [/just-kidding]

Seriously, you got farther than most of us... I didn't get past first kiss when my only ex-girlfriend broke up with me.

[Kosh]

May we ask why?