[Turey]

May we ask why?

Part of it was the horrible experience at junior prom (she's the typical good girl, so when the cops pulled her outside to take a Breathalyzer test because a parent thought she was "walking funny", she got really upset. We had to go home after that.), part of it was me acting (non-sexually) without thinking several times, which is typical for me, and why I don't expect to get a girl again.

[Kosh]

Ouch.


Personally I just don't have time for girls anymore. There is a girl I wouldn't mind chasing, but now I just have no time......

[Bobboau]

Somehow manage to get your friends to kick your ass and get you going out somewhere.  To a movie, to a pub, to a bar, to a coffee shop...whatever your scene is.  It helps.  It doesn't cure...but I've found it to be at least good at making things a tiny bit better.  I resisted but my friends kicked my ass...I needed it.  Still do.

it would help if my only friend wasn't living in California at the moment.
interesting thing that, she's a girl I tried dating after the one I ranted about collapsed, we can hang out together but there's nothing other than that, inspite of the fact shes a freking nymphomaniac.
I suppose she is the closest thing I've ever had to a girlfriend, but we have little in common and can only stand to be in each other's presence for about three days in a week without killing each other.
if I could follow your advice she'd probably end up trying to hook me up with a guy, most likely her fiance.

[Wild Fragaria]

Ouch.


Personally I just don't have time for girls anymore. There is a girl I wouldn't mind chasing, but now I just have no time......

Hmmmm... why are you so busy lately?

[Windrunner]

When i read this thread its good to know that there are people that has been through the same **** like i have. My experience in love has learned me this: A person has to go through the dissapointment, hartbreak and lonliness just find a shred of hapiness in this world. Some people learn from their misstakes and  they get stronger other people choose the second path, to feel sorry for them selfs. Its all a question of choice.

[Wild Fragaria]

Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships.  I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner.  By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?

[Flipside]

My fiance of four years was seeing another man for a year before she bothered to tell me.

er... you were engaged for four years without getting married?

Call me tactless, but maybe she got impatient.

You're Tactless

Seriously though, the reason why was because we couldn't afford to get a place together, she must have gone through about 5 jobs in those 4 years and was sacked from 2 of them. To be honest, she'd been running me round in circles for a long time, I was just too blinded by my own 'addiction' to her to see just how much of an idiot she was making of me and those close to me. This is a common mistake in both genders. There's a lot more to the story, but as an example, I had to have major surgery on my jaw, and when she saw how bruised my face was, and the fact that my teeth had to be wired together for 6 weeks, she decided she didn't want to see me again until I'd healed. It still infuriates me that I was stupid enough to accept at the time, but you live and learn.

In hindsight, I don't regret us breaking up one bit, lesson learnt, and I came out of it with something far better

[Wild Fragaria]

Ghee... if I was in her shoes, I don't think I could leave you for a second after your surgery.  You poor thing.  Anyhow, I am happy that you're with someone miles better *hug*  Stay happy

[Flipside]

Thank you

I think we all go through life making idiots of ourselves in one way or another, in reality, the abiity to succeed isn't about not making mistakes, it's about learning from them, whether it be in love, work or anything else.

Beating yourself over the head with your own percieved failures is a perfectly natural, but ultimately pointless exercise (Though having a Catholic upbringing didn't help).

Or, to quote Everclear, 'They cannot hurt you unless you let them'

[aldo_14]

Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships.  I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner.  By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?

Love is, after all, about needing someone that other person to be with you to truly feel complete

Well, not just complete, but more alive than you've ever felt before. :d

[Windrunner]

Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships.  I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner.  By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?

everything is going well, i am going to spend the new years eve with her

[Wild Fragaria]

Aw... Sweet!!   Hope you guys have fun. 

[aldo_14]

Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships.  I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner.  By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?

everything is going well, i am going to spend the new years eve with her

Cool

I'm spending the holiday season (2 weeks of it, anyways - not nearly long enough) with my opposite half as well  

It's, er, a substantially longer distance relationship than 250km, but distance matters little when it's the right girl

[Sandwich]

Pardon me - you all know I'm not a Bible-thumper or anything - but this seemed appropriate:

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

        - 1 Corinthians 13

[Wild Fragaria]

Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships.  I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner.  By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?

everything is going well, i am going to spend the new years eve with her

Cool

I'm spending the holiday season (2 weeks of it, anyways - not nearly long enough) with my opposite half as well  

It's, er, a substantially longer distance relationship than 250km, but distance matters little when it's the right girl

Aw...  Sweeter (+ cute) 

[aldo_14]

Aw...  Sweeter (+ cute) 

Well, she's (more than) worth it

[Wild Fragaria]

Pardon me - you all know I'm not a Bible-thumper or anything - but this seemed appropriate:

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

        - 1 Corinthians 13

That sounds like a lot of love, but very sweet   I guess some of us here did find love after all

[Sandwich]

Uhm. It's a chapter in the Bible...

[Wild Fragaria]

Interesting, but I don't read the bible

[NGTM-1R]

Interesting, but I don't read the bible

You really ought to.

I say this, incidentally, because you really can't swing a two-by-four without running into a Biblical reference, so it's worthwhile to know your schiznit before it smacks you upside the head.

Jumping back a ways...Bob, you see, I have the exact opposite problem. I think. If I just act, everything works. If I start thinking I get trapped in a loop and can make no decisions, thereby resulting in irretrivable screwup at some point.