If I pricked you, but I also gave you a bajillion dollars, a house, a car and pretty much everything else you wanted in your life...would you call me evil and a bastard cause I pricked you?
Think of it this way - all of the misery and troubles of life could be like a mere prick compared to what awaits us.
Ah, thank you. You've demonstrated it perfectly.
God is immoral. Evil, in fact. Because eternal punishment of any nature, any form, is both immoral and evil. There is no return from the lake of fire. You burn, or do whatever it is you do, for eternity.
This is about as wrong as wrong gets. No matter what you've done, no crime merits eternal punishment. Death is an end and a denial of your remaining life; you are stuck that way eternally, but you were never going to be eternal anyways, so it's not an eternal punishment. The Roman concept of damnatio memoriae, to remove someone from history, to erase the record of their existence, is about as close to eternal punishment as we are capable of enacting, and it is woefully inadequate at its job (we can name quite a few people who underwent damnatio memoriae). No punishment, even the most severe we can devise, is anywhere near comparable.
And we have grave misgivings about our own most severe punishments. God's transition directly to out of bounds.
There is only one minor flaw in that line of thinking.
There is no gray area with God.
You are either sinful or not.
He has stated over and over that the punishment for sin is death(eternity in hell).
Humans have gray because we are transient temporal beings in this world, we HAVE to have gray because otherwise we'd kill each other over the smallest of offenses. Our world couldn't exist is we didn't have gray.
As an all-powerful being, God can't have gray, with that kind of power, any ambiguity is disastrous. It would cause the universe to cease to function.
As personal and loving as God is, he is simultaneously as impersonal as a force of nature.
As to the argument that says, "If God is so loving and kind, why did he allow X to happen?"
God has a plan for everything, every event has a purpose.
Why did my house burn down? So that you could move into this new house that's twice the size of the old one.
Why did my wife die? So that you could meet someone new and have children that will enrich the world that wouldn't have happened because your deceased wife was infertile, or so that you can save someone else marriage by reminding them how much they love each other and how little the day to day worries mean.
I'm not saying every disaster has some deep metaphysical meaning. A Tsunami is a disaster of biblical proportions. A tornado the same way. It's just that you can't say, God did X or Y and that is immoral and makes him a creep, unworthy of worship. Let's say your father carried on with another woman or embezzled money from the company he works at. Would you stop loving him any less? He's still your father and worthy of your respect. It's the same with God, he's our Creator, that alone makes him worthy of worship, even if we don't see eye to eye with him all the time.