I suck at making friends. The first friend I have made all semester, is a guy in my physics class. He seems cool on the surface... until he added me on facebook.
His ideology is such that we can probably never comfortably be friends.
Does anyone else suck this hard?
This isn't about you sucking at all or the problem being on your end. This person you tried to make friends with chose not be to your friend. Simple as that. People do this to me all the time too, but more on that in a second.
Well, yeah. I tend to blurt out things, many of which are terribly offensive to people who don't share my ideals. Therefore, people with very different ideals are not good people for me to try to befriend. And I accidentally did this. So. I suck.
So i'm sure you realize that the vast populace of the world are stupid, if this wasn't the biggest showing of it to you then idk what is.
You tend to blurt out things, i do too, it's not a bad thing at all. You're either semi or fully bluntly honest. Either is not bad because it shows you don't have too much of a problem with honesty, you don't hold back, you speak your mind, and this counts at many times when people need to hear it.
Where this plays into people not wanting to be your friend because of different ideals is because
THE OTHER PERSON IS AN IDIOT! It's their own lack of intelligence that makes them think that they can't be friends with someone of opposing ideals.
Also this bluntness of yours plays into another fact that is definitely true of myself, and maybe for you too. Nobody likes the stuff you say ever. Nobody likes the things i tell them, but that's the simple fact of yet again
THE OTHER PERSON IS AN IDIOT!The example behind this is that i have many friends that changed into acquaintances because they kept coming up to me asking for advice on stuff (of course i figure they were never my friend in the first place). Or they ask me something else, or i tell them how think a situation is for them or something like that. One of my friends turned retarded acquaintance asked me for some advice on their drinking problem since they've come to ammends that they are an alcoholic. I told her she should probably stop drinking. She just went ape **** immediately claiming how she has a right to drink and me constantly telling her that she doesn't because she's under 21. Why do people react like this? Quite simply because of the fact that they didn't like hearing what you had to say (this also means further idiotism on there part for not being able to analyze their lives).
Today in society we have people thinking that the things they like to hear is good for them, while the things they don't like to hear is bad for them (this is of course idiot logic, and of course is followed by those who can't self help). So the girl with the drinking problem follows this idiot logic, and thus made her unreceptive to an extreme for exploring elaborations on the answer i gave her. People don't like to push through their heads the idea that the things they like to hear isn't always good for them, and the things they don't like to hear isn't always bad for them.
Giving advice is just an example of things a person says that others never like to hear despite it is what they asked for. Of course there's other situations where someone could simply ask for an opposing view point on something, opinion, etc. that yields the same result.
I wouldn't change yourself iamzack, i feel that'd be a big lowering of stature for you. You'll get friends that appreciate you later. In the mean time you know that you can in fact be friends with people of opposing view points, you can handle the hard honest blunt truth from others (in fact it's probably what you desire to hear from others, people comforting others with a lie to sidestep an issue entirely is not cool). For now conclude that your campus has a general sucky audience for finding friends, but don't stop looking of course, everyone eventually finds something or has at least learned a lot along the way.
"Do you have any plans for Easter?"
"All manner of ungodly things."
*lack of laughter*
*awkward silence*
This isn't hard to get. Easter is a time of godliness when jesus came back from the dead. "All manner of ungodly things" happening on easter is funny because of the obvious contrast to easter itself. Meanwhile the person that heard your punt of humor has gone overboard and is probably thinking you're a pagan, practice witchcraft, or their too devout/zealotous of a christian to realize that even god has a sense of humor (it doesn't matter if they got offended or not they took it the wrong way because the humor wasn't obvious enough for them...woohoo for people who don't think about jokes, jokes are more than just in one ear out the other humor). Idk if this was meant to be a punt at humor with the easter contrast, but yeah obviously in one ear and out the other for the idiot who heard it
What else is there to talk about? Weather? Sports?
Ugh, I'd rather not talk to people if we're not going to talk about something worthwhile.
I'm the same way. It's also my opinion that talking about the weather and the sports is a really ****ty half ass attempt at trying to break the ice with people. Is it so hard for people to try to break the ice with someone by talking about what either you or the other person likes to do or something else?
Don't change, and at least the physics guy gave it to you hard up straight answer style (maybe not in person, but a true answer nonetheless). Just keep being you, do what you want to do by listening to your conscience, and be a good person.
