Okay, I said I wasn't going to post in this thread again, but apparently my earlier statements were not being taken in the manner in which I was thinking when I posted them, so I just want to be absolutely clear here:
I
do not think anybody should be condemned for seeking mental help. Holy ****, wow, that was not my intention at all. In my opinion, "seeking professional help" is exactly the right course of action for not only pedophiles, but anybody who has (or even thinks they
might have; getting an opinion from somebody who doesn't share your brain is always a good idea) any kind of mental illness of any sort.
However, statements like this:
Consider a pedophile who suppresses his urges, either keeping it in his pants or keeping it in his wastebin. Who is he harming?
are in many ways actively harmful. First off, there's the point about enabling which was made earlier. Secondly, statements like this are themselves a form of enabling ("Hey, look, this person on the internet says I can suppress my urges and be totally fine. Whew! I guess it's all right, then!"). Thirdly, suppressing urges
does not work. They
absolutely need to be treated.
(As an aside, when it comes to treatment, aversion therapy really doesn't work. You know what does work? Treating it like an addiction, like being an alcoholic.)
And lastly, I
really need to clear up something brought up on IRC:
<EatThePath> My honest impression from what you've said is that if you had a thought detector you'd at best imprison anyone who had a fleeting sexual thought about a minor.
It is very, very,
very important that we draw a distinction between pedophilia (a sexual attraction to prepubescent minors) and ephebophilia (a sexual attraction to postpubescent minors). Both are illegal (well, ephebophilia is legal "sometimes", as if, for instance, a 20-year-old has consensual sex with a 17-year-old). Actual pedophiles love to conflate to two terms in an attempt to garner sympathy, which results in a lot of people not knowing that there
is a difference, and it's important that we keep that in mind.
With that out of the way, I have
no desire to lock people up for "impure thoughts". Firstly, I never said anything about arresting pedophiles (although apparently some people got that impression; I obviously could have been more clear in that regard); I think they need treatment, not punishment. Secondly, the whole point of my original statement about not caring about the difference is that
we can't read minds; I don't know what you're thinking at any time, so if I know you're a pedophile, it's either because you've told me or you've acted like a pedophile, and since I am not a psychiatrist, you wouldn't be telling me because you want treatment. That is
all that I meant by not caring about the difference.
To make this as crystal-clear as I can:
In the real world, if somebody confessed to me that they were in treatment for being a pedophile, I would
applaud them, because seeking treatment is
exactly what should happen.
If anything about my position is still unclear or seems objectionable in some way, somebody please tell me, because as I believe I just mentioned, I can't read minds.