[General Battuta]

Maybe you should answer her calls in case she's trying to apologize.

[MP-Ryan]

Drama, drama, drama... no situation is improved by cutting off the lines of communication.

[iamzack]

Maybe you should answer her calls in case she's trying to apologize.

Yeah, I think he wanted to break up with her anyway, he just didn't want to be the "bad guy."

I hate passive aggressive people. XP

[peterv]

Maybe you should answer her calls in case she's trying to apologize.

I did it tonight. She was not trying to apologize.

Yeah, I think he wanted to break up with her anyway, he just didn't want to be the "bad guy."

I hate passive aggressive people. XP

I hate them too and i said that message is received. 

I think that this hole think has turned to a stupid game about who is going to win. Therefore i have no problem to be the bad guy, but i don't find it interesting.

[High Max]

Also, wait until you mature a bit before dating another girl.

Or he can choose wisely and choose a good girl who will like him for who he is, respect him for his heart and personality, and not have an attitude or a selfish disposition and just wanting to be treated like a queen. Bars aren't really the place to look for a relationship. That is a place where people meet people for animalistic one night stands. He can meet a girl anywhere. It doesn't have to be a bar. Also, one must not get desperate and must not go for just anyone because that is sure to fail. That is my advice.

Also, who says maturity has anything to do with it or it is he who is not mature? This girl could be the one being immature. In this culture, people tend to think that the guy is always the suspect and is at fault and the girl isn't, but that is far from the truth. I don't like it when people think that.

[Inquisitor]

Who knew HLP had so many ladies...

[High Max]

It doesn't, so he is getting most of his answers from men.

[Nuclear1]

I second the pooper sticking idea

[Rian]

Well, ladies or not it seems like my take on this situation would be massively redundant by this point.

I will note, though, that leaving without her and ignoring all her phone calls may have been taken as breakup by default.

[peterv]

Well, ladies or not it seems like my take on this situation would be massively redundant by this point.

I will note, though, that leaving without her and ignoring all her phone calls may have been taken as breakup by default.

Good point. She acted exactly like this. And it seems to me that she wins. As i said this became a stupid game and worst of all it's a trademark for the relation. 

[iamzack]

Also, who says maturity has anything to do with it or it is he who is not mature? This girl could be the one being immature. In this culture, people tend to think that the guy is always the suspect and is at fault and the girl isn't, but that is far from the truth. I don't like it when people think that.

Based on his post, this is what happened:

He and his girlfriend went out. She met somebody she knew from school and talked with him for a long while, ignoring peterv.
Peterv, instead of attempting to join the conversation or attempting to draw her attention back to him, instead sulked for a hours and then left without telling her.
THEN, he decided to pout some more and ignore her phone calls.
After that, he decided to break up with her.

Do you see it yet? He gave limited information, and I'm well aware that that is the case, but it is safer to judge only on what he actually said rather than what maybe could possibly be the case. Based on just his post, the girl was being insensitive and rude. Insensitivity and rudeness are things you talk through. You say "hey, I felt pretty ignored back there, next time could you introduce me and try to invite me into the conversation?" The only reason that would be difficult or impossible is immaturity.

[peterv]

Iamjack, when a friend comes in a bar or whereever the first thing you do is introduce him/her to the other friends. Otherwise you're rude.
However, i think that both women and men like to be "claimed" all the time. And perhaps it's a nice game but not to me, it's boring me. Seems to me that this was the game i didn't play and that's all.
It also proved that this hole relation was nothing special to me or to her.

[High Max]

Iamjack, when a friend comes in a bar or whereever the first thing you do is introduce him/her to the other friends. Otherwise you're rude.

I must say that the lack of politeness, in my experience, seems to be because of the culture here.

@iamzack: I should have read the first post more carefully, but it doesn't necessarily mean he is immature and we all don't know the whole story. If he is immature, she could also be. In my opinon, I feel to go to bars is immature and exposes people to bad situations. However, I will say that I wouldn't ignore phone calls. I don't like when people play the silent game. I know how it feels to be on the receiving end of the silent game that many people play, but it always seemed it was the women who ignored much more than the men.

If I was Pete, I would have immediately told the person what I was feeling the first time when he received the phone call. However, it is possible he was playing the silent game because he felt ignored by her and he wanted her to see what it felt like. Maybe he felt that by doing something similar, it would be more effective than just saying how he felt.

[peterv]

If I was Pete, I would have immediately told the person what I was feeling the first time when he received the phone call. However, it is possible he was playing the silent game because he felt ignored by her and he wanted her to see what it felt like. Maybe he felt that by doing something similar, it would be more effective than just saying how he felt.

I've a much worst character i suppose. I was just very very angry 

[Ford Prefect]

In my opinon, I feel to go to bars is immature and exposes people to bad situations.

I agree; bars are awesome.

[Rodo]

ohh, well the important thing is that you are not sobbing on the corner of your bedroom, you are ready to move on now Peterv?

so dump the girl and walk on ^^

And if you are actually gonna miss her and you are wondering if breaking up with her was a bad choice...I assure you, the less you care, the more they melt.
(only if she still cares about you... yeah right I know... it sucks XD )


This is by far... the best forum I've ever joined... why did I avoided it for so long time is something that keeps me awake at night jojojo.

[peterv]

ohh, well the important thing is that you are not sobbing on the corner of your bedroom, you are ready to move on now Peterv?

so dump the girl and walk on ^^

And if you are actually gonna miss her and you are wondering if breaking up with her was a bad choice...I assure you, the less you care, the more they melt.
(only if she still cares about you... yeah right I know... it sucks XD )

Well yeah, that's the feeling. 

[High Max]

In my opinon, I feel to go to bars is immature and exposes people to bad situations.

I agree; bars are awesome.

You mean you agree that bars are immature and yet you feel they are awesome? I think it is awesome to watch history channel, science channel, and feel healthy I like to watch a show called The Universe. You can watch them on the history channel website too.

[iamzack]

Hey High Max, hint: prejudice is immature.

[Mars]

Ignoring the person you're in a relationship usually means you don't give a **** about them.

My personal experience.

Is there anything to be done? Call her up, or leave a message, and tell her you don't want her. It's not that hard.