So, it’s time now for me to talk about the “Manic Pixie Dream Girl” trope. What a mouthful that is!
So the first argument presented is that the character has no life of her own. Well, it’s a movie. It’s about the impact she has on the life of the male protagonist. Of course she’s got a life, we just don’t see it, movies are under a strict time limit. She had a life before she met him, and she’ll have a life when her work is done, whether that involves the male or not. She says it’s not to pursue her own happiness. Well those women look pretty to me. Helping people genuinely makes some people happy. Others might see it as a challenge or a pet project. Or maybe they just think the man is hot. They’re doing it because they choose to, and getting fulfilment from it. Nobody makes them do it, and they can walk away at any time.
I haven’t seen any of the movies that she uses, they look like romance movies to me, and that is a genre that doesn’t interest me. So I can’t really study them in depth. But the first one I like the look of Kirsten Dunst’s character. That looks like a good feel good movie to me. If I was going to watch one, that would be the one I’d pick. But you’d think this would be a good thing for a feminist, the male character is weak and the female is strong and lends the male her strength.
Now the part which really gets to me is where she shows her contempt for people, men I should say, who cite their female partner as a big contributor to their success. Why is this a bad thing? The saying “behind every good man there is a good woman” carries a lot of weight. And I’m sure it can work both ways, I’m absolutely sure we’ll see same sex couples and women citing their male partner as a big help to them in the same way in the future, and I’m sure such examples can already be dug up. Nobody made these women live their lives with these men. And rather than be being shoved into the background, I’m sure they have just as much passion as the man with whatever big project it is he’s working on, and genuinely do make a large contribution to it’s fruition, which deserves acknowledgement. Think of it this way, if you were the one who helped someone do something great, wouldn’t you really feel you had done something worthwhile with your life? If I was the man behind a great woman and I knew I had helped her on to that greatness, I’d feel tremendously fulfilled. Or even if I was just a friend who had done that, with a man or a woman, it doesn’t have to be a partner. Anita just doesn’t get it. These women chose that life and were happy. They joined their man to live their life with him, and contributed to his efforts because they chose to and wanted to see his work come to fruition. Whether that contribution was active participation or simply moral support, it is a strong and worthy contribution. Any great man with a statue of him somewhere should have another statue of that female muse right next to him, because without her it wouldn’t have been possible.
While she says these stories make her want to puke, I love these stories. People who came together in life and made a great team and were truly happy. What more could you want in life than to be fulfilled and happy? Women who want to be musicians and writers and artists can be musicians, writers and artists. No one forces them do anything. Or they can choose to share their life with a man who is one of these things and help him on to greatness and share in his accomplishments. She is not being stunted, she is flourishing. How many of you have helped someone who is struggling or enhanced someone’s efforts with something of your own free will? It felt good, didn’t it? Nobody made you do it. You did it because you wanted to do it.
Anita is doing a gross disservice to both men and women with this line of reasoning. She is practically saying the men stunted the women and the women’s lives were wasted. When the opposite is true, they both enhanced each other and the World around them. And so I am greatly offended by Anita’s reasoning here. She needs to open up her mind and realise not everyone, men and women, want to step into the spotlight. They can be perfectly happy backstage and quite capable of being full and complete human beings there.