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Off-Topic Discussion => General Discussion => Topic started by: Wild Fragaria on November 13, 2006, 11:38:22 am
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I'm just curious about how hard is it to date a girl these days? There's a guy at work who's been looking for a girlfriend in the last 6 years and still have no success of finding one. He goes on a date every chance he gets and whines about girls are always playing hard to get. Is it true?
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You're asking here? :wtf:
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:lol:
Well, it's probably his attitude that isn't helping him, he needs to relax, girls aren't playing hard to get but nothing is less interesting than a man who exudes 'desperate' from every pore ;)
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If he thinks every girl is playing hard to get then it's probably because he annoys them with emphasis on "getting".
You'd have to ask someone else, I've never bothered with dating in the traditional sense.
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a combination of 2 things got me started in the happiest relationship i've been in
ready?
Alcohol and Battlestar Galactica.
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That's frightening.
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In my experience the problem isn't girls playing hard to get, it's finding the time to actually worry about stuff like dating, parties etc. Things are so much easier without work messing things up :p As for that guy, sounds like he just needs to take it easy, if he's trying too hard I bet he's just creeping them out instead of getting them interested.
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a combination of 2 things got me started in the happiest relationship i've been in
ready?
Alcohol and Battlestar Galactica.
That sounds exactly like my happiest relationship. Just... replace "alcohol" with "roofies" and "Battlestar Galactica" with "duct tape".
Those were the days....
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a combination of 2 things got me started in the happiest relationship i've been in
ready?
Alcohol and Battlestar Galactica.
Just one more box of cheapo wine?
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it's easy to meet girls but they usually sign out of messenger when i arrive
goddamnit
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This is great.
Here come the impressions on how to pick up females, from males who don't have the first clue about... many things, but primarily the topic itself.
I'm going out the window. God willing, maybe I'll even die.
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a combination of 2 things got me started in the happiest relationship i've been in
ready?
Alcohol and Battlestar Galactica.
Just one more box of cheapo wine?
wine? hell no
everclear
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So much for the Afterglow....
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This is great.
Here come the impressions on how to pick up females, from males who don't have the first clue about... many things, but primarily the topic itself.
I'm going out the window. God willing, maybe I'll even die.
i have to agree, for all i know/care your all pimple faced geeks who go to stargate conventions :)
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This is great.
Here come the impressions on how to pick up females, from males who don't have the first clue about... many things, but primarily the topic itself.
I'm going out the window. God willing, maybe I'll even die.
Things will change - I’m not saying overnight - but something has to give
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Well, my concepts may be a bit 'old fashioned' by todays standards, being married for 7 years kind of limits your pulling options ;)
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You’re too good looking not to live?
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:lol: Hardly....
However, this would not be relevant if Sharon caught me trying to find out if my chatting-up skills still worked ;)
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Tell your boss that you’ve gone away, down your tools for a holiday?
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When you're married and thirty-five, I strongly doubt that I'd survive.....
Edit : This is a thread about the scary things you see from the corner of your eye ;)
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This is great.
Here come the impressions on how to pick up females, from males who don't have the first clue about... many things, but primarily the topic itself.
I'm going out the window. God willing, maybe I'll even die.
point -> .
your head -> 0
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When you're married and thirty-five, I strongly doubt that I'd survive.....
Edit : This is a thread about the scary things you see from the corner of your eye ;)
If you’re going off to war then I wish you well; but don’t be sore, If I cheer the other team - killing people’s not my scene
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hehe Took me a minute or two to figure out what was going on ;)
I don't want to be vindictive now
I don't want to make you sad
But you broke the rules of this game that we play
Now it's my turn to be bad.
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She’s a Venus in flares and you wanna split hairs!
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That sounds exactly like my happiest relationship. Just... replace "alcohol" with "roofies" and "Battlestar Galactica" with "duct tape".
Those were the days....
Indeed. I too remember my elementary school days with fondness.
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You're asking here? :wtf:
Here? Where? Sorry, taken.
When you're married and thirty-five, I strongly doubt that I'd survive.....
Edit : This is a thread about the scary things you see from the corner of your eye ;)
If you’re going off to war then I wish you well; but don’t be sore, If I cheer the other team - killing people’s not my scene
You like to watch them play, you like to marvel at the random beauty of a simple village girl?
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You like to watch them play, you like to marvel at the random beauty of a simple village girl?
Why should she be the one who’s killed?
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:lol:
Well, it's probably his attitude that isn't helping him, he needs to relax, girls aren't playing hard to get but nothing is less interesting than a man who exudes 'desperate' from every pore ;)
You guessed right. No wonder you're the pro :D He is pretty desperate and sometimes will call a casual coffee meeting a date!! Scares away lots of girls, I think.
If he thinks every girl is playing hard to get then it's probably because he annoys them with emphasis on "getting".
You'd have to ask someone else, I've never bothered with dating in the traditional sense.
He's some what annoying sometimes, talks too much.
You like to watch them play, you like to marvel at the random beauty of a simple village girl?
Why should she be the one who’s killed?
If you find yourself caught in love... if you find yourself caught in love...
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If you find yourself caught in love... if you find yourself caught in love...
Caught in lu-uve?
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Hmmm... seems like you are...
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Hmmm... seems like you are...
I said a little prayer to the man above.
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Indeed. I too remember my elementary school days with fondness.
Tell me about it. They keep such a close eye on you at that age, you always had to work more quickly than you would've liked.
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single women are a myth perpetuated by the government and corporations to keep suicide levels in there worker drones low.
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In high-school I've gone out once or twice... but I never really have enough time to give the girl the time she deserves, and I seem to attract ppl who have massive levels of stress and even less time... so... no... close friends and the Internet take the place of relationships and sex (respectively) in my case, to be blunt.
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I'm just curious about how hard is it to date a girl these days? There's a guy at work who's been looking for a girlfriend in the last 6 years and still have no success of finding one. He goes on a date every chance he gets and whines about girls are always playing hard to get. Is it true?
Yes. Of course they do.
And contrary to what some people say this IS lots of fun... so long as they are actually interested, arent just stringing you along and arent flirting with other guys at the same time bouncing you off one another into a pissing contest.
Unfortunatly this is how things usually turns out, which makes it not fun. And finding a girl that doesnt do this ....problematic. I used to be really concerned about it, now Im more interested in my music career and how Im going to make money with it. Girls are more trouble than they are worth, but being a red blooded hetrosexual I am still drawn to them. Damn you instinct. Still, I live in hope that eventually when I am personally eventually in stable situation girls wont be such asses anymore.
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In highschool I didn't care too much for dating. In University I didn't find anyone particularly interesting (girls at that school were crazy). It wasn't until I got here that I actually found anyone interesting (my ex-girlfriend was on the China paraolympic team in the 2004 olympics and in a couple of years she is going to go to Harvard). Now I am too busy to think about dating, but I have one that might happen in the next few months.
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my ex-girlfriend was on the China paraolympic team in the 2004 olympics
In communist china, girl bone you!
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He needs to hang out with friends more often. That's how I finally fell in love with someone, I lived alone, was the typical "desperate" guy, I know exactly what he was like. Hanging out with friends and not expecting something in return or expecting something to happen in the first place helped me not be so desperate with people, and it helped me show who I really was inside.
But here's the key, some of the friends should be female. All male friend groups wont do it.
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Until he can learn to have fun without a partner, no girl is going to be interested in going out and having fun with him. I've often been amazed at how effective simply being candid about yourself can be, I've frequently made comments like 'You know, you're right, I should do that, but it would require effort, so the chances are I'll just keep complaining.'
You would think a comment like that would be pretty ineffective, but honesty is worth a lot more than trying to impress ;)
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I'm just curious about how hard is it to date a girl these days? There's a guy at work who's been looking for a girlfriend in the last 6 years and still have no success of finding one. He goes on a date every chance he gets and whines about girls are always playing hard to get. Is it true?
I think that this is one of those questions that can best be answered with another question:
WHY ARE YOU NOT DATING HIM?
Once you've answered that question, there's a good (not 100%, granted) chance that you've got the answer to your question.
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like I said, single girls do not exist. she has a guy already.
girls are like quarks, they exist in and of themselves in theory, but you can not find one by it's self.
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like I said, single girls do not exist. she has a guy already.
girls are like quarks, they exist in and of themselves in theory, but you can not find one by it's self.
For halfway decent girls, you're spot on. :lol: I'm definitely remembering that'n.
Of course, if I ever tell it outside the physics department, I'll probably never get a girl again. Oh well. I think there's... maybe a girl in the physics department...
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I'm just curious about how hard is it to date a girl these days? There's a guy at work who's been looking for a girlfriend in the last 6 years and still have no success of finding one. He goes on a date every chance he gets and whines about girls are always playing hard to get. Is it true?
I think that this is one of those questions that can best be answered with another question:
WHY ARE YOU NOT DATING HIM?
Once you've answered that question, there's a good (not 100%, granted) chance that you've got the answer to your question.
I would hazard to guess that perhaps he is a dick.
Or, she is otherwise engaged.
Or both.
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If he was truly a dick, this thread would either be about how there's some jackass at work with a crappy girlfriend, or wouldn't exist at all (probably the latter).
One of the basic rules about dating seems to be that the people who seem to most deserve to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, don't. "Ignorance begets confidence", and all that.
Oh, and :footinmouth: on the subject of Fragaria being 'otherwise engaged'. :p
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If he was truly a dick, this thread would either be about how there's some jackass at work with a crappy girlfriend, or wouldn't exist at all (probably the latter).
One of the basic rules about dating seems to be that the people who seem to most deserve to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, don't. "Ignorance begets confidence", and all that.
I'm not sure about that one........
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You're asking here? :wtf:
I agree, HLP is for wacky zany talking about crap you do in RL, not an instruction guide, although we can offer witty pithy comments to mislead you if you want :D
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At the age of 25, I could frankly careless about women. Maybe your friend should stop wining and start worrying about the more important things in life. A girl friend will NOT make him happy unless he is first happy and content with ones self. Other wise he would just such the life out of the relationship, or become involved with a psychotic *****.
But, yes if you go around looking for a gf you are not likly to find one.
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But, yes if you go around looking for a gf you are not likly to find one.
Thats not true at all.... :mad: If you dont look you will NEVER pull, Kazans just got married, take it as inspiration you canlead a healthy HLP life and still get your nuts in.
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If you go around constantly being preoccupied with something as trivial and misleading as dating, you will not find happyness.
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Hands up all those that are married, *raises hand* i've been hitched years, Get out and about and be yourself, but contrary to Redmenaces statement, you have to strie for something. You can hope that she'll (whoever she may be) will come up to you, but you have to make it happen too.
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At the age of 25, I could frankly careless about women. Maybe your friend should stop wining and start worrying about the more important things in life. A girl friend will NOT make him happy unless he is first happy and content with ones self. Other wise he would just such the life out of the relationship, or become involved with a psychotic *****.
But, yes if you go around looking for a gf you are not likly to find one.
I think it's always better to 'stumble' into someone, but if you fall in love with the right person generally it irons out the worries and issues you have with yourself. The right girl (or boy), after all, is someone that makes you happy just to know you're on the same planet as them.
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i've been hitched years
Yeah, and we can all see what it's done to you. :rolleyes:
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No thats just job stress and years of drinking too. All i'm saying is life is like a lottery, you gotta be in it to win it.
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*raises hand* I've been married for 5 years this September gone.... when I met her I wasn't looking for anything but a good night out. I was on holiday for a week and thought I'd just have a laugh the first night there. Thats when I met HER. We met every night that week and when I returned home she rang me and then came to live with me, (leaving her then husband in the process). We have been together for nine years now. I always say you can never find anything when you look for it, stop looking and it will find you!
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Whoa..... Well sometimes things just work out, but i'm keeping my misses away from you :p
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*raises hand* 6 and a half years. We've known each other for nearly 14, though. We met in highschool, generally annoyed the heck out of each other, and that kind of evolved into a (
grudging? no, not really, but reluctant definitely) respect as verbal sparring partners. We had about the most atypical courtship I've ever heard of. Depending on whose memory you trust, we either met in a morgue (biology field trip freshman year) or in the middle of a bomb threat at the high school. Either way, not particularly auspicious beginnings. :p
After a few years of sharpening our wits on each other and editting each others papers, we were more or less an item. I realized afterwards that most of our friends had either: 1) thought we had been an item for over a year, or 2) been rolling their eyes at us and wondering why we weren't going out for significantly more than a year. (shrug) Waited until after we'd gotten our undergrads, then we got married. Best thing that ever happened to me.
Neither of us had been planning on anything. "Things just happen. What the hell."
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From the title I thought WF was posting a vacancy sign....... :drevil:
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I'm just curious about how hard is it to date a girl these days? There's a guy at work who's been looking for a girlfriend in the last 6 years and still have no success of finding one. He goes on a date every chance he gets and whines about girls are always playing hard to get. Is it true?
Bloody hard. Let me tell you. The last one that I had a go at didn't work out so well. It takes me a bit to psych myself up and it also means that I usually think that person is really great or at least seems really great from the onset. We had one date, it went really well, and that was it. Then she stopped talking to anyone and disappeared. By a strange coincidence another guy I know tried to date her about a year and a half later and it went even worse...she blew up when he even tried to ask for a date.
Now I realize that not all of us guys are not perfect and if we're not your thing...not a problem. But geeze...try and have some class. I have not found anyone with class for a while. Not a shred of it. I keep forcing the blame on myself...and I bet your co-worker there...if he's a genuine guy who is trying to find someone...he's probably doing exactly the same thing. The nice guys, the guys that the girls say they want...nope...we're out here but we're exactly the last on the list. When we do try and go for someone we're made to feel like the jerks of the whole thing for even considering them.
Its screwed up but you can't get ahead these days by being the honourable gentleman. Not even close. I have one friend who's dating this jerk of a guy and she keeps dumping him and picking him back up again and it never seems to end. She really should find one of those nice guys out there but she's content to live this dramatic and possibly abusive relationship instead.
Sorry...ranting now.
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Reminds me of a friend of mine, who used to ask out just about every woman he met. As he put it 'I've heard "No" so many times that it just doesn't bother me any more'.
Oddly enough, he managed to lead a very active life as far as partners were concerned.
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Ok...not sorry...have to rant more.
I hear constantly about hanging out with your friends, it'll just happen when you least expect it to, don't go looking, sort out other things in your life first. Well...so far it hasn't helped a damn bit. I do sound bitter and disgruntled and at this point I feel its very justified with that amount of garbage I've had to put up with.
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"...we're exactly the last on the list."
we're on the list? :eek:
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Thing is, I met Sharon via the Internet, she lived in Glasgow when we first met. Sometimes you do have to go a long way to find a partner that matches you, but it's so worth it.
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"...we're exactly the last on the list."
we're on the list? :eek:
In pencil...half erased.
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Voila. (http://voxday.blogspot.com/2006/01/mailvox-essence-of-alpha.html)
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Thing is, I met Sharon via the Internet, she lived in Glasgow when we first met. Sometimes you do have to go a long way to find a partner that matches you, but it's so worth it.
My cousin met his wife via the 'net, too. They're now married and living (via Airdrie) in Texas.
I guess the moral of that story is, when you find someone worth fighting for, then fight. :)
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I guess the moral of that story is, when you find someone worth fighting for, then fight. :)
Mef's handy tip #43: Know when to draw the line between 'fighting for' and 'stalking'.
Anyway, I couldn't agree with you more IceFire. Sad state of affairs, indeed.
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If thats the case, take the list, Rip it up, and scrawl your name on her forehead in marker pen.
Pretend you're your own pimp. Sell yourself high.
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:lol: Hardly....
However, this would not be relevant if Sharon caught me trying to find out if my chatting-up skills still worked ;)
I can't help but envision your wife as a Cylon. :p
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:lol: Hardly....
However, this would not be relevant if Sharon caught me trying to find out if my chatting-up skills still worked ;)
I can't help but envision your wife as a Cylon. :p
Lucky boy - if she gets wrinkly or saggy he just has to off her and get a nice new shiny one :D
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Yeah, but apparently after 3 or so resurrections, it really, really starts to hurt. ;)
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i met a girl about 3 weeks ago on a wedding and she seems intressted, so i am doing my best to win her over ;)
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i met a girl about 3 weeks ago on a wedding and she seems intressted, so i am doing my best to win her over ;)
3 Weeks, how far have you got? not base/fraKK wise but you must have taken her out at least once a week by now?
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Thing is, I met Sharon via the Internet, she lived in Glasgow when we first met. Sometimes you do have to go a long way to find a partner that matches you, but it's so worth it.
i agree.
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i met a girl about 3 weeks ago on a wedding and she seems intressted, so i am doing my best to win her over ;)
3 Weeks, how far have you got? not base/fraKK wise but you must have taken her out at least once a week by now?
The problem is she lives in anohter city about 250 km from where i live, if I said that I was taking it slow i would be lieing
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i met a girl about 3 weeks ago on a wedding and she seems intressted, so i am doing my best to win her over ;)
3 Weeks, how far have you got? not base/fraKK wise but you must have taken her out at least once a week by now?
The problem is she lives in anohter city about 250 km from where i live, if I said that I was taking it slow i would be lieing
Ah, that's a bastard - the old who-moves-where type scenario.
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Just tread some water round your way, Build up the the old Mojo reserves and then utilise gained experience on target bird :)
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Slow and steady wins the race.
I met my girl in my Psych course and after a couple of months of getting to know her, asked her out to dinner. I think if I rushed things and moved any quicker than that I would have scared her away.
(Although it also helped that she and I were looking for dance partners for Salsa lessons: nothing gets the chemistry going more than dancing to some latin music.)
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Just be careful hse doesn't use said Psych course knowledge to manipulate said you.
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Yes. Of course they do.
And contrary to what some people say this IS lots of fun... so long as they are actually interested, arent just stringing you along and arent flirting with other guys at the same time bouncing you off one another into a pissing contest.
Oh yes, I hate those who play games too! But not all girls are like that though.
I think that this is one of those questions that can best be answered with another question:
WHY ARE YOU NOT DATING HIM?
Once you've answered that question, there's a good (not 100%, granted) chance that you've got the answer to your question.
Well, aldo has answered the question. Some guys are just not really meant to have partners if they don't stop being JAs.
From the title I thought WF was posting a vacancy sign....... :drevil:
Yes. It's for you, dude :P
Bloody hard. Let me tell you. The last one that I had a go at didn't work out so well. It takes me a bit to psych myself up and it also means that I usually think that person is really great or at least seems really great from the onset. We had one date, it went really well, and that was it. Then she stopped talking to anyone and disappeared. By a strange coincidence another guy I know tried to date her about a year and a half later and it went even worse...she blew up when he even tried to ask for a date.
Now I realize that not all of us guys are not perfect and if we're not your thing...not a problem. But geeze...try and have some class. I have not found anyone with class for a while. Not a shred of it. I keep forcing the blame on myself...and I bet your co-worker there...if he's a genuine guy who is trying to find someone...he's probably doing exactly the same thing. The nice guys, the guys that the girls say they want...nope...we're out here but we're exactly the last on the list. When we do try and go for someone we're made to feel like the jerks of the whole thing for even considering them.
Its screwed up but you can't get ahead these days by being the honourable gentleman. Not even close. I have one friend who's dating this jerk of a guy and she keeps dumping him and picking him back up again and it never seems to end. She really should find one of those nice guys out there but she's content to live this dramatic and possibly abusive relationship instead.
Sorry...ranting now.
It's fine to rant, everyone has to right to rant :) You sound like someone I know. Well, I always believe everyone has a path (especially good people) where you will meet someone who will be your life partner. Do not procrastinate though if that someone appears ;)
Oh, you're probably right about most girls, having naughty boys on top of the list. I do not have a list, but if I do, it's the opposite :)
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Yeah...attempting not to procrastinate. I did learn my lesson there...I think over the last 5 years I've run the gamut of far far far too slow to way too fast (well not way way too fast, don't get the wrong impression here). Neither seems to work. Sadly the middle didn't either...just gotta find the right one. Its hard...
And thank you for listening to my rant...probably needed. One one small piece of my enormously complicated life puzzle at the moment. I think I want to be an undergrad again...gosh that sounds wrong :)
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Yeah, but apparently after 3 or so resurrections, it really, really starts to hurt. ;)
Well, 3 in one night can be hard work.....
Sorry :nervous:
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From the title I thought WF was posting a vacancy sign....... :drevil:
Yes. It's for you, dude :P
I know, babe, I know. It's the car isn't it ? Chicks dig a flashy car. ;7
Yeah...attempting not to procrastinate. I did learn my lesson there...I think over the last 5 years I've run the gamut of far far far too slow to way too fast (well not way way too fast, don't get the wrong impression here). Neither seems to work. Sadly the middle didn't either...just gotta find the right one. Its hard...
And thank you for listening to my rant...probably needed. One one small piece of my enormously complicated life puzzle at the moment. I think I want to be an undergrad again...gosh that sounds wrong :)
Y'know, you shouldn't over analise it. Do that and you'll get all wound up and serious. Then you end up like WF's buddy. The lay-dees can smell that **** a mile away. Just try to be happy in yourself.
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Yes. It's for you, dude :P
I know, babe, I know. It's the car isn't it ? Chicks dig a flashy car. ;7
Hah! She's seen your car, the only flashy thing about it is the big red letters on the garage reapir bill :p
Y'know, you shouldn't over analise it. Do that and you'll get all wound up and serious. Then you end up like WF's buddy. The lay-dees can smell that **** a mile away. Just try to be happy in yourself.
'Anal'-ise. Heehee.
Ah, I'll get my coat.
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Yeah...attempting not to procrastinate. I did learn my lesson there...I think over the last 5 years I've run the gamut of far far far too slow to way too fast (well not way way too fast, don't get the wrong impression here). Neither seems to work. Sadly the middle didn't either...just gotta find the right one. Its hard...
And thank you for listening to my rant...probably needed. One one small piece of my enormously complicated life puzzle at the moment. I think I want to be an undergrad again...gosh that sounds wrong :)
Nothing wrong for wanting to be a college kid again. I sometimes wanted to be that myself. College's fun :D Finding the right one is hard, but you're still young, chin up. You have lots of opportunities and hopes :)
From the title I thought WF was posting a vacancy sign....... :drevil:
Yes. It's for you, dude :P
I know, babe, I know. It's the car isn't it ? Chicks dig a flashy car. ;7
Y'know, you shouldn't over analise it. Do that and you'll get all wound up and serious. Then you end up like WF's buddy. The lay-dees can smell that **** a mile away. Just try to be happy in yourself.
Well, which buddy? I have a few buddies gave up hopes but I told them to hold on and they eventually found their ones :D People shouldn't just gave up hopes that easily, not when they are still young :D
Hmmmm, your car's cool, but not for me :P I'm a formula one person :D
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Well, which buddy? I have a few buddies gave up hopes but I told them to hold on and they eventually found their ones :D People shouldn't just gave up hopes that easily, not when they are still young :D
Hmmmm, your car's cool, but not for me :P I'm a formula one person :D
Would a Renault Clio do? ;)
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Well, which buddy? I have a few buddies gave up hopes but I told them to hold on and they eventually found their ones :D People shouldn't just gave up hopes that easily, not when they are still young :D
Hmmmm, your car's cool, but not for me :P I'm a formula one person :D
Would a Renault Clio do? ;)
A Mazda 3 stands a better chance, an Audi TT will be even better... Nah, still a formula one girl :D
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Well, which buddy? I have a few buddies gave up hopes but I told them to hold on and they eventually found their ones :D People shouldn't just gave up hopes that easily, not when they are still young :D
Hmmmm, your car's cool, but not for me :P I'm a formula one person :D
Would a Renault Clio do? ;)
A Mazda 3 stands a better chance, an Audi TT will be even better... Nah, still a formula one girl :D
I have Formula 1 Scaletrix* :D
*Nigel Mansell edition
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Does it do the 'vroom vroom' thingy?
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Does it do the 'vroom vroom' thingy?
Give me 5 minutes with sticky tape and a dictaphone...........
It does now ;)
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Speedy! Sure you're not faster than the formula one?
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Speedy! Sure you're not faster than the formula one?
I'm as fast as you want me, baybeeeeeeeee :D
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Vrooooooooooooooooooooooom!!
Austin Power, where's your mini me :P
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Vrooooooooooooooooooooooom!!
Austin Power, where's your mini me :P
Mini?!
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He's some what annoying sometimes, talks too much.
that's a nervous tick.. i do that
live with me, (leaving her then husband in the process)
entirely, totally and completely uncool
*takes katana down off the wall and keeps his wife away from you* [as if]
Oh and Icefire - from someone who knows what you're talking about and has been through it - Step 1: relax
Step 2: remind yourself, it's just a girl
Step 3: relax
Step 4: tell the little simulator in your head that likes playing out all the possible resultants of your actions, and really likes to concentrate on the bad ones, to STFU
Step 5: Make yourself available (IE go to a place where girls you'd want to date are likely to congregate)
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From the title I thought WF was posting a vacancy sign....... :drevil:
Yes. It's for you, dude :P
I know, babe, I know. It's the car isn't it ? Chicks dig a flashy car. ;7
Y'know, you shouldn't over analise it. Do that and you'll get all wound up and serious. Then you end up like WF's buddy. The lay-dees can smell that **** a mile away. Just try to be happy in yourself.
Well, which buddy? I have a few buddies gave up hopes but I told them to hold on and they eventually found their ones :D People shouldn't just gave up hopes that easily, not when they are still young :D
Hmmmm, your car's cool, but not for me :P I'm a formula one person :D
can't I interest you in some mid 80s Rally Car action ? :sigh:
that's the best chat up line I've got :p
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Step 5: Make yourself available (IE go to a place where girls you'd want to date are likely to congregate)
That's the problem. There aren't any single girls (plenty of married or taken ones) in the places girls I'd like to date are likely to congregate.
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Step 5: Make yourself available (IE go to a place where girls you'd want to date are likely to congregate)
That's the problem. There aren't any single girls (plenty of married or taken ones) in the places girls I'd like to date are likely to congregate.
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for the time being i give up on love. a 25 year old male can attract 2 kinds of women, the younger kind who are looking for a free ride in life, and the kind whove been around the block a few times. if i need to get laid, it will only cost me 60 bucks and a trojan.
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if i need to get laid, it will only cost me 60 bucks and a trojan.
Charming.
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No offence, but walking around semi-convinced that all women hate men and are just playing games with you is practically certain to leave you sleeping alone at night. There's more than one person in a relationship, bear that in mind.
I was 26 when I met Sharon, today is our Anniversary, in fact, but if I'd gone into the relationship looking for the 'catch', I'd have found one, whether it existed or not. Just bear in mind that a LOT of women are just as convinced that all men want is to 'conquer' them and then move on to the next target, they are just as wary as you, but if you spend your life tiptoeing around each other waiting for the shoe to drop, you're going to end up unhappy.
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/agree flipside
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Well, which buddy? I have a few buddies gave up hopes but I told them to hold on and they eventually found their ones :D People shouldn't just gave up hopes that easily, not when they are still young :D
Hmmmm, your car's cool, but not for me :P I'm a formula one person :D
Would a Renault Clio do? ;)
A Mazda 3 stands a better chance, an Audi TT will be even better... Nah, still a formula one girl :D
Good taste with the Mazda 3. My current favorite car! Mazdaspeed 3 is a bit more of a dream but love the Mazda design.
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No offence, but walking around semi-convinced that all women hate men and are just playing games with you is practically certain to leave you sleeping alone at night. There's more than one person in a relationship, bear that in mind.
I was 26 when I met Sharon, today is our Anniversary, in fact, but if I'd gone into the relationship looking for the 'catch', I'd have found one, whether it existed or not. Just bear in mind that a LOT of women are just as convinced that all men want is to 'conquer' them and then move on to the next target, they are just as wary as you, but if you spend your life tiptoeing around each other waiting for the shoe to drop, you're going to end up unhappy.
I'm too forgiving of a person to walk around with that specific chip on my shoulder all of the time. Sometimes I do...if someone presses me or I'm having a really bad day then maybe I'll let loose with some frustrations that do tend to aim in that direction.
The thing is...tiptoeing doesn't seem to have much to do with it for me. Not more recently. The sheer lack of possibilities is most disheartening. I've met a few girls recently (the last year) and found myself totally uninterested. Sure there's that physical attraction thing but that aside...no real connections. Well...hopefully one day. I think I've already proved to myself that I'll do whats necessary when I want it...just need for that to be reciprocated. Ya know?
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Well my 2 cents (ie. story):
I was a late bloomer when it came to being interested in the opposite sex. When I did, I couldn't even interact with girls in a positive context, which means talking to them in a social setting, because I was constantly preoccupied with accidentally saying the wrong thing, or something really stupid, that I ended up saying nothing at all, and was very much the quiet guy who you rarely hear from. I eventually came to terms with that reality, late in high school and decided that in order to lighten up and relax myself somewhat, I had to convince myself that the girl I was trying to talk with, didn't have any romantic interest in me, n'or would they in the future. It's harsh, but it worked, and I started being able to carry on conversations. Unfortunately, my problem still was the fact that much of what I might be able to converse about (my interests, mainly) was completely boring to most people, let alone most girls. Regardless, I started to relax somewhat, but I then realized that I had come to believe what I'd had to convince myself of in order to relax. I came to realize that if a girl did display some signs of interest in me, I wouldn't even take notice. It hit me, when I discovered after the fact, that a young woman I had a mild infatuation/crush on during early years of College, may have reciprocated. She dropped out of the program 2 years in. What I'd found out wasn't conclusive, but it was enough to kinda shock me into that realization. That said, from what I knew of her as a person (or could infer), she and I wouldn't have been a good match. She was more of an out-going, popular type, and I'd rather stay home and watch a movie or use the PC.
After completing College, I kinda moped around for a year until I got my current job (not in my field of training), and less than 2 months into it I was introduced to the woman who I am now married to for just over 3 months, as a new employee. In fact, I recalled later that I'd seen her at a movie theater more than a year before our first introduction (she was in costume at the X-Men premiere, and worked at the theater I'd gone to see it at). It was about 15 months after our introduction, that we started doing social activities outside of work. Less than a month and a half later, we had our first official date (things got a bit stalled because of Xmas vacation). We'd been official dating for little more than a year and a half when I proposed, we got married about a year later.
As far as personality is concerned, what attracted me to her was first that she laughed at my lame jokes (though a bit too much, which made her a bit difficult to read at first), then later I learned that we shared quite a lot in terms of values. The fact that she liked sci-fi, and was very close to me in age just sealed things. During my Xmas vacation, I told my mom that it was a fair bet that we'd be officially Boyfriend-Girlfriend within a month, and I was right. She was a bit more social than me, but patient, which was very comforting.
Now, if you'd asked me during the summer of 2002, what I felt was the likely hood of me finding that special someone, I'd have put it in the same odds as winning a trip on the Space Shuttle. Shows that I can't predict odds. Oh yeah, I just turned 29, to put the chronology in context.
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Lets face it...most girls are more social than us men. Thats partly to do with brain chemistry.
Good to hear that things still go well for some folks.
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for the time being i give up on love. a 25 year old male can attract 2 kinds of women, the younger kind who are looking for a free ride in life, and the kind whove been around the block a few times. if i need to get laid, it will only cost me 60 bucks and a trojan.
Why would you want to get laid with a prostitute Ancient Greek era soldier?
I was 26 when I met Sharon, today is our Anniversary
Congrats!
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live with me, (leaving her then husband in the process)
entirely, totally and completely uncool
*takes katana down off the wall and keeps his wife away from you* [as if]
::)
Just to put the record straight, I didn't know she was married when I met her. I didn't go out looking for another man's wife and she left him not because of me, but because she had been unhappy for quite a while. The fact that he was a heavy gambling, wife beating drunk didn't help either.
I think the fact that I lived in an entirely different town helped her decide. I was more of an escape for her at that time. However, as the years have passed we became closer and decided we were definately in love and therefore got married. :D
We both ended up with a happy ending! :p
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Here's a question for you folks then...
Take a situation where you have one of the many many aforementioned single folks out there who more or less haven't dated ever. They are in their mid 20s now. What happens when they try and date someone who has had the opposite experience...they have dated many many times and experienced all that it has to offer. Does that not sound like utter disaster to you? This is part of the problem in and of itself. I think a larger percentage of guys are out there who are missing the whole experience....I worry what chance they have even if they do manage to find someone compatible. It seems self perpetuating.
But I guess thats part of the reason that folks are getting married much later in life...and population rates are declining. Everyone is so busy with education/work that they have no time for any of this stuff. Male and female. It just makes the whole situation pretty depressing all around.
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I suppose you know when you've met the right person when none of that really matters to either of you. If anything, the more experienced one will be understanding of their partners 'nervousness' about being intimate, and the other will not mind that you've been with other people before them. As it was once put to me, 'Your life made you who you are, and that's who I fell in love with, why would I want to change it?'
It's comments like that, come to think of it, that prove there's always more to learn ;)
Congrats!
Thanks :D
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Here's a question for you folks then...
Take a situation where you have one of the many many aforementioned single folks out there who more or less haven't dated ever. They are in their mid 20s now. What happens when they try and date someone who has had the opposite experience...they have dated many many times and experienced all that it has to offer. Does that not sound like utter disaster to you? This is part of the problem in and of itself. I think a larger percentage of guys are out there who are missing the whole experience....I worry what chance they have even if they do manage to find someone compatible. It seems self perpetuating.
But I guess thats part of the reason that folks are getting married much later in life...and population rates are declining. Everyone is so busy with education/work that they have no time for any of this stuff. Male and female. It just makes the whole situation pretty depressing all around.
Not a disaster in my experience :)
People are attracted to people, personalities, not history. If you meet someone, find a mutual attraction, and then fall in love, they won't give a **** about past history or experience. If you were attracted to a girl (or boy), would you stop being attracted if you found out they had a long (not, er, absurd like sleeping around - although odds are you can judge that from personality), or conversely non-existant, relationship history? Of course not. And if we're talking mid-20s, then we're talking of an age which is, give or take, mature enough not to judge a person as who they are (certainly if you're going for a proper, stable long term relationship).
Honesty is always the best policy; if you really are attracted to someone, then you should feel able to trust them enough to be open - and if the attraction is mutual then they will simply not care, because honesty and openness says a thousand times more about your character than the flashiest dinner date.
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@Ice,
You have my sympathies with the "availability" problem. I've several friends, male and female actually, who are in the same boat. One lady is in her late 20's, has had precisely zilch dating experience, and is about to graduate from her PhD program, meaning she's about to leave the best environment for meeting new (intelligent) people. Absolutely nothing wrong with her except that she's pathologically shy, and I certainly would have asked her out if my wife and I had never met. She's told my wife and me many times that she's lonesome, and it's heartbreaking to watch. She's a very sweet person, and cute I daresay. I don't know what crack she fell through that she's ended up alone. I have to hope she'll eventually meet someone.
I have several other friends and a sister-in-law with similar stories, but for now, none of them have any prospects. My point is that there are still a lot of good single people out there, and don't lose hope.
Look, I blundered my way into love through a combination of earnestness and cluelessness that was (somehow???) endearing. I do not humor myself to think that it was any kind of skill or talent on my part that got me here. I was lucky. But one piece of advice I can give is listen to her and remember what she says. If anything played in my favor to make her choose me, it was that she felt safe talking to me. The art of listening is a dying one. Most everyone is so busy worrying about their own image they don't bother to actually listen to people unless the conversation revolves around themselves.
I watch people. You could call it a hobby, but it's not. It's just something I do and can't really turn off. And what I've seen is a bunch of horribly lonely people desperate for someone to confide in, but unwilling to sacrifice their vanity to do it. When you actually give them an out and ask them what's wrong, they frequently leap for it like a lifeline. That goes for men and women both, but it is especially true of women (in my experience).
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lonely? cute? PhD?
where?
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lonely? cute? PhD?
where?
Down boy!
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Here's a question for you folks then...
Take a situation where you have one of the many many aforementioned single folks out there who more or less haven't dated ever. They are in their mid 20s now. What happens when they try and date someone who has had the opposite experience...they have dated many many times and experienced all that it has to offer. Does that not sound like utter disaster to you? This is part of the problem in and of itself. I think a larger percentage of guys are out there who are missing the whole experience....I worry what chance they have even if they do manage to find someone compatible. It seems self perpetuating.
But I guess thats part of the reason that folks are getting married much later in life...and population rates are declining. Everyone is so busy with education/work that they have no time for any of this stuff. Male and female. It just makes the whole situation pretty depressing all around.
Not necessarily a disaster. Look at it this way, the less experience one has, the less baggage they'll have also. Too much dating may leave one a bit jaded.
These things are what you make of them, really.
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well I can assure you too _little_ dating can leave one quite jaded as well.
the less experience the one person has the less they will know as to the logistics and procedure of the date, if it's a guy he's screwed past 16, as generally the guy leads on dates for whatever reason.
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I usually go with the age old "When it comes to women, you'll find they are available, attractive, and mentally stable. Now choose only two." Sorry, it doesn't really help, I know. :blah:
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can I get available + (attractive + mentally stable)/2
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do they cancel out?
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The Parenthesis are always a problem....
Boom Boom Tish!
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can I get available + (attractive + mentally stable)/2
Even mostly attractive + mentally stable would do. Thats a tough find.
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Here's a question for you folks then...
Take a situation where you have one of the many many aforementioned single folks out there who more or less haven't dated ever. They are in their mid 20s now. What happens when they try and date someone who has had the opposite experience...they have dated many many times and experienced all that it has to offer. Does that not sound like utter disaster to you?
The again a lack of experience might be refreshing to the other person.
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Even mostly attractive + mentally stable would do. Thats a tough find.
That would be because you left out the "available" part... :D
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In other news, this thread already has 982 views. :p
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Even mostly attractive + mentally stable would do. Thats a tough find.
That would be because you left out the "available" part... :D
Which reduces us to a rough number of exactly 0.
Its interesting that the experience thing doesn't seem to bother people here too much. Scares the crap out of me personally...but then I guess thats to be expected.
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It is scary not having experience.. I remember that with my first girlfriend.. but ya learn quick. :)
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Assuming you get the chance to learn anything...
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*shrugs* There are times I think being a bachelor forever would be OK by me. But yes, there are times where I wish I weren't. Okay, I'm not helping, I know I know... :sigh:
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*shrugs* There are times I think being a bachelor forever would be OK by me. But yes, there are times where I wish I weren't. Okay, I'm not helping, I know I know... :sigh:
Yeah...you can try and reason within your brain in an intellectual way and then the other biological process kick in and tell you how stupid that idea was. No sense in fighting it.
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I remember thinking that way. The thought of being perpetually single was something I felt I could live with comfortably, but that fact was also disturbing in itself. Its like saying that you'd be perfectly fine getting from point A to point B, by taking the shortest route, even though it meant climbing through raw sewage, then taking a step back from yourself for a moment and saying, "my God, how can I possibly be OK with that?" Weird analogy, I know. As IceFire put it however, biology takes over and forces you out into the open. Once you see someone who just might fit the bill, all that "I am alone and lovin' it" crap goes right out the window.
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well if I don't go that rout I'm going to be stuck at point A for the rest of my life.
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It took a bit more than merely seeing a possiblity for me. It took actually not being alone to drag me out of my "you know, single is great" mode. I ended up with my first girlfriend rather by accident. It was at that point reality came along and slapped me in the face and said "You wouldn't know great if it marched up and tried to tear your head off, you moron."
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Ditto.
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It was at that point reality came along and slapped me in the face and said "You wouldn't know great if it marched up and tried to tear your head off, you moron."
:D
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It took a bit more than merely seeing a possiblity for me. It took actually not being alone to drag me out of my "you know, single is great" mode. I ended up with my first girlfriend rather by accident. It was at that point reality came along and slapped me in the face and said "You wouldn't know great if it marched up and tried to tear your head off, you moron."
Man...I'm envious :)
Quite by accident is fine by me too.
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Quite by accident is fine by me too.
Often it's the sweetest way :)
Never lose hope; I know how you feel justnow, but sometimes things just happen, seemingly out of the blue, and change your life for the better.
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I don't know you in person but you sound like a very sweet and special person, Icy. It just a matter of time. You're still young and don't just give up hope that easily :)
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And I got flamed for a 'what to do' thread about a chick i knew. Oh look, 6 pages.
I have never had a GF yet. I have been turned down many times, and have turned down one girl sofar. The ratio sux.
And, no i am not a computer geek who goes to SG conventions (refrenec from page 1). Rather, id like to be a comp geek and id like to start going to SG conventions.
EDIT: Godam english class. I write essays all the time, and look ^ now im refrencing and starting to cite work in POSTS! This is scary.. :shaking: :confused:
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so you hope to one day get up to the lofty position of computer geek who goes to SG conventions?
...hmmm...
so how long are we suposed to never give up hope for? forever?! what if it never comes? are we realy suposed to tourchure ourselves all that time with fanticies of loveing and being loved in return that never come to fruition, reminding us every day how truely alone we are? why should I do that?! I've tried it, it sucks, you whana know what happens when I don't give up an unatainable hope? well let's see here, in 2003 I met a girl, she was perfict in every way, and she seemed to like me and she was single, for two years I tried to get a date, but every time something happened that would foul things up at the last second, but I didn't give up hope, first semester ended, I left her my number I didn't get a call all summer, I get back to school three months later convinced she didn't want to have anything to do with me, I purposefuly avoided her for about three months cause I thought that's what she wanted, untill I ran right into her one day in the parking lot, we had a nice conversation I told her were I would be she showed up we started talking, I saw her almost every day for the rest of that semester, I sighned up for a class I didn't want so I could sit next to her. we had many a nice days, but I could never get her to do anything outside of school. another summer came, this time we stayed in touch to a degree, I would get to talk to her about once every few weeks, near the end of the summer I finaly talked her into a movie she came we had a nice time, she said she was going out of town for a few weeks and would be back on suchandsuch date, I told her I'd take off work and we'd have plenty of time to do stuff when she got back. the time came I called off work, I left her a message, no responce, for a whole week I spent every day waiting and I got nothing, just like I spent every weekend of the last semester waiting for her, I leave her a mesage about once every other day then once a week soon many of them to the effect of "if you don't want to talk just tell me", I have in my wallet right now the mesage I prepaired for her voice mail begging her to just tell me to **** off that I didn't give her because she changed the mesage to say that she lost her phone and all the numbers (thinking that was the reason she hadn't been calling me back). I don't hear from her untill two months later when I get a hasty nervus call on a saterday morning when she tells me that she was going to school in Chicago, and she can't afford to talk to anyone in the area, I ask her how she's doing and we have an extreemly short conversation were she mentions someone I've never heard of, I ask her who that is, she asks me if I'm kidding I say no, I've never heard that name before, the phone goes dead, I call her back and in a very hurried tone she says she can't talk cause her minutes are racking up. about a month later I see her car in the mall parking lot, search every department stor and I find her, she tells me she just transfered back cause she couldn't handle Chicago and no one else knows she is here, and seems very worried that I'd tell any of her freinds. she tells me to call her, I don't. two weeks later, I decide to find her email and send her a mesage puting my feelings in as certan of terms as posable. she basicly says she's sorry and didn't mean too, and she's been dateing a guy sence summer (I don't know if that means begining or end, but it doesn't realy ****ing matter at this point), I try to stay frendly with her, and try to keep in touch, but unless I seem to be upset that she hasn't called back in months she never responds, I probly sent about a dozen emails over the course of four months, the last one was on her birthday, may 2nd, she responded saying thanks, and that was the last I heard from her. now I could keep myself in that cycle indefenately, but to hell with it, as perfict as she was as well as we got along I couldn't even get one date (unless you count the movie thing, wich I don't) if I couldn't get one date with her how the hell am I suposed to find someone else? someone better? screw it, look at my activity here for the last few years, at the end of the spring 2005 semester I did jack ****, my hopeing did nothing but consume my world into a black hole of unfufilled potential, my hope left me with nothing but hopelessness, I'm sorry, but whenever I hear these cliched phrases of advice from people who don't have these problems and never will it's like packing peanuts on a chalk board, you don't get it, hope hurts. the only way I can function is accepting my fate of being allone for the rest of my life and trying to make the best of it, rather than pretending like that's going to change some day, it's an unfortunate reality of nature not every individual pairs up, there are more men than women, some of them aren't going to get any (so to speak) I'm tired of waisting my time and my energy into these hopeless soal eating ordeals, to hell with it, can't-win-don't-play.
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Oh my god! My eyes! My eyes are burning!
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Well bob, if you want to feel depressed, that's fine by me. :p
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My fiance of four years was seeing another man for a year before she bothered to tell me. I then went for 5 years without a partner because I couldn't trust anyone.
**** Happens. Regretting it or is just a recipe for continued ****.
Some people aren't designed for continued relations with 'Forbidden Fruit', I'm one of those people, I don't regret that fact, though I used to.
Look at it this way, would you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who screwed you around like that? It's not exactly an auspicious start on her part, no matter what excuses she attempts to use to justify it.
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Oh my god! My eyes! My eyes are burning!
and with my absence of sentence structure or punctuation, I shall make you all suffer as I have!!!
sorry I wasn't even planning on making a long post, I just got on a tyraid and then next thing I know I'm 15 minutes late for class.
no, you see, I wasn't depressed before I made this a priority, right now, I'm trying to put myself back were I was, trying to purge the ideas that I'll have any sort of loving relation ship forget about it, stop trying, and just focus back on trying to get threw school and code. that will be my life, and I will enjoy it, like I used to. I don't want to feel depressed, that's why I'm giving up, sense all I do is fail, THAT depresses me, so I'm getting away from it.
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Your life comes first anyway Bobb. Always.
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[in response to your first post]
and I'm not going to lie to myself, I knew at the time she was perfect, I knew from the first time I talked to her, I'm not going to sour grape the situation, one of the things I was attracted to was how kind she was, I honestly don't think she did any of that on purpose, I just wasn't any ware near as important to her as she was to me.
please don't put me in a position were I have to defend her, I'd rather not remember.
BTW this sort of thing has happened about four times, gets worse each time, I don't think I could survive it next time.
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Fair enough, I'm not here to re-open old wounds.
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I'm sorry to hear that, Bob.
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Bob, I don't want to open old wounds either, but bear in mind hope isn't meaning you have to go looking, it's just to be open in case somone else finds you :)
People sometimes find love in the strangest, oddest ways, after all - sometimes in places they least expect or least hope to find it. I'm not saying you can't hurt or that you should expect to find someone, just that life can still surprise us in good as well as bad ways. Hope is just a reminder that, even though we can hurt terribly, we should never lose the capacity for happiness.
At least, that's my psychology :). Sometimes it's easier to look back at a tunnel when you've gone out the other side, after all, than when you're deep inside. The important thing is that there's always an other side, even to the darkest tunnel.
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well if some girl falls into my lap, I'll be more than happy to let her sit there, but I'm not going to expect it, and I'm not going to try and make it happen.
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well if some girl falls into my lap, I'll be more than happy to let her sit there,
I know this is a very serious conversation, but :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
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This thread reminds me of my sad. Thanks.
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[in response to your first post]
and I'm not going to lie to myself, I knew at the time she was perfect, I knew from the first time I talked to her, I'm not going to sour grape the situation, one of the things I was attracted to was how kind she was, I honestly don't think she did any of that on purpose, I just wasn't any ware near as important to her as she was to me.
please don't put me in a position were I have to defend her, I'd rather not remember.
BTW this sort of thing has happened about four times, gets worse each time, I don't think I could survive it next time.
I did read that whole thing despite lack of paragraphs and sentences :) I do sympathize. Semi-similar thing happened to me. I gave up eventually. Actually I think it happened twice. That was enough. Makes you want to scream.
Let me just say that while you are putting yourself back together. Try and keep some of that stuff away from work related stuff...although I'm sure SCP will suffer without your very brilliant coding talents I learned from personal experience that a full retreat isn't entirely desirable either. At least it wasn't for me...I dove into my school work...but it leaves you feeling empty and bitter on the inside.
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I don't know you in person but you sound like a very sweet and special person, Icy. It just a matter of time. You're still young and don't just give up hope that easily :)
Thanks! I do appreciate it!
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nukes theory of love:
burn them!!!!! burn them! burn them! burn them! burn them!
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"although I'm sure SCP will suffer"
it already has, if you look I haven't hardly done anything in the last two years, there are a number of factors leading up to this, but this was a major one, the whole situation left me not wanting to do anything but sleep and watch TV and snack.
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You're asking here? :wtf:
Givens aside, advise him to try alcohol, the great unifier. Best case scenario, he can find a girl, get her drunk, and take advantage of her. Worst case, he can have a good time home alone... watching BSG reruns...
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"although I'm sure SCP will suffer"
it already has, if you look I haven't hardly done anything in the last two years, there are a number of factors leading up to this, but this was a major one, the whole situation left me not wanting to do anything but sleep and watch TV and snack.
Somehow manage to get your friends to kick your ass and get you going out somewhere. To a movie, to a pub, to a bar, to a coffee shop...whatever your scene is. It helps. It doesn't cure...but I've found it to be at least good at making things a tiny bit better. I resisted but my friends kicked my ass...I needed it. Still do.
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My fiance of four years was seeing another man for a year before she bothered to tell me.
er... you were engaged for four years without getting married?
Call me tactless, but maybe she got impatient. :)
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My fiance of four years was seeing another man for a year before she bothered to tell me.
er... you were engaged for four years without getting married?
Call me tactless, but maybe she got impatient. :)
BURN!!!!!!!!!!!! [/just-kidding]
Seriously, you got farther than most of us... I didn't get past first kiss when my only ex-girlfriend broke up with me.
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May we ask why?
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May we ask why?
Part of it was the horrible experience at junior prom (she's the typical good girl, so when the cops pulled her outside to take a Breathalyzer test because a parent thought she was "walking funny", she got really upset. We had to go home after that.), part of it was me acting (non-sexually) without thinking several times, which is typical for me, and why I don't expect to get a girl again.
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Ouch.
Personally I just don't have time for girls anymore. There is a girl I wouldn't mind chasing, but now I just have no time......
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Somehow manage to get your friends to kick your ass and get you going out somewhere. To a movie, to a pub, to a bar, to a coffee shop...whatever your scene is. It helps. It doesn't cure...but I've found it to be at least good at making things a tiny bit better. I resisted but my friends kicked my ass...I needed it. Still do.
it would help if my only friend wasn't living in California at the moment.
interesting thing that, she's a girl I tried dating after the one I ranted about collapsed, we can hang out together but there's nothing other than that, inspite of the fact shes a freking nymphomaniac.
I suppose she is the closest thing I've ever had to a girlfriend, but we have little in common and can only stand to be in each other's presence for about three days in a week without killing each other.
if I could follow your advice she'd probably end up trying to hook me up with a guy, most likely her fiance.
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Ouch.
Personally I just don't have time for girls anymore. There is a girl I wouldn't mind chasing, but now I just have no time......
Hmmmm... why are you so busy lately?
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When i read this thread its good to know that there are people that has been through the same **** like i have. My experience in love has learned me this: A person has to go through the dissapointment, hartbreak and lonliness just find a shred of hapiness in this world. Some people learn from their misstakes and they get stronger other people choose the second path, to feel sorry for them selfs. Its all a question of choice.
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Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships. I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner. By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?
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My fiance of four years was seeing another man for a year before she bothered to tell me.
er... you were engaged for four years without getting married?
Call me tactless, but maybe she got impatient. :)
You're Tactless :p
Seriously though, the reason why was because we couldn't afford to get a place together, she must have gone through about 5 jobs in those 4 years and was sacked from 2 of them. To be honest, she'd been running me round in circles for a long time, I was just too blinded by my own 'addiction' to her to see just how much of an idiot she was making of me and those close to me. This is a common mistake in both genders. There's a lot more to the story, but as an example, I had to have major surgery on my jaw, and when she saw how bruised my face was, and the fact that my teeth had to be wired together for 6 weeks, she decided she didn't want to see me again until I'd healed. It still infuriates me that I was stupid enough to accept at the time, but you live and learn.
In hindsight, I don't regret us breaking up one bit, lesson learnt, and I came out of it with something far better :)
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Ghee... if I was in her shoes, I don't think I could leave you for a second after your surgery. You poor thing. Anyhow, I am happy that you're with someone miles better *hug* Stay happy :D
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Thank you :)
I think we all go through life making idiots of ourselves in one way or another, in reality, the abiity to succeed isn't about not making mistakes, it's about learning from them, whether it be in love, work or anything else.
Beating yourself over the head with your own percieved failures is a perfectly natural, but ultimately pointless exercise (Though having a Catholic upbringing didn't help).
Or, to quote Everclear, 'They cannot hurt you unless you let them' ;)
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Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships. I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner. By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?
Love is, after all, about needing someone that other person to be with you to truly feel complete :)
Well, not just complete, but more alive than you've ever felt before. :d
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Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships. I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner. By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?
everything is going well, i am going to spend the new years eve with her :)
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Aw... Sweet!! :D Hope you guys have fun. ;)
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Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships. I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner. By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?
everything is going well, i am going to spend the new years eve with her :)
Cool :D
I'm spending the holiday season (2 weeks of it, anyways - not nearly long enough) with my opposite half as well :D
It's, er, a substantially longer distance relationship than 250km, but distance matters little when it's the right girl :)
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Pardon me - you all know I'm not a Bible-thumper or anything - but this seemed appropriate:
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
- 1 Corinthians 13
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Yeah, most people don't have smooth rides in relationships. I think it's just part of life to feel sad and lonely, sometimes angry because of missing a partner. By the how are you getting on with your 250km girl, Windrunner?
everything is going well, i am going to spend the new years eve with her :)
Cool :D
I'm spending the holiday season (2 weeks of it, anyways - not nearly long enough) with my opposite half as well :D
It's, er, a substantially longer distance relationship than 250km, but distance matters little when it's the right girl :)
Aw... Sweeter (+ cute) :D
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Aw... Sweeter (+ cute) :D
Well, she's (more than) worth it :D
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Pardon me - you all know I'm not a Bible-thumper or anything - but this seemed appropriate:
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
- 1 Corinthians 13
That sounds like a lot of love, but very sweet :D I guess some of us here did find love after all :)
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Uhm. It's a chapter in the Bible...
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Interesting, but I don't read the bible :D
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Interesting, but I don't read the bible :D
You really ought to.
I say this, incidentally, because you really can't swing a two-by-four without running into a Biblical reference, so it's worthwhile to know your schiznit before it smacks you upside the head.
Jumping back a ways...Bob, you see, I have the exact opposite problem. I think. If I just act, everything works. If I start thinking I get trapped in a loop and can make no decisions, thereby resulting in irretrivable screwup at some point.
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Interesting, but I don't read the bible :D
You really ought to.
I say this, incidentally, because you really can't swing a two-by-four without running into a Biblical reference, so it's worthwhile to know your schiznit before it smacks you upside the head.
Jumping back a ways...Bob, you see, I have the exact opposite problem. I think. If I just act, everything works. If I start thinking I get trapped in a loop and can make no decisions, thereby resulting in irretrivable screwup at some point.
Why not the Koran, or the Guru Granth Sahib, or the Vedic Scrolls or the Tipitaka or the Torah?
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Well, WF is smart enough to stay out of the religion debates in the first place, so she doesn't really need to read up on any of them.
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Interesting, but I don't read the bible :D
You really ought to.
I say this, incidentally, because you really can't swing a two-by-four without running into a Biblical reference, so it's worthwhile to know your schiznit before it smacks you upside the head.
Jumping back a ways...Bob, you see, I have the exact opposite problem. I think. If I just act, everything works. If I start thinking I get trapped in a loop and can make no decisions, thereby resulting in irretrivable screwup at some point.
Why not the Koran, or the Guru Granth Sahib, or the Vedic Scrolls or the Tipitaka or the Torah?
Because most of the people we know don't base their vernacular usage of religious text on any of those books.
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Interesting, but I don't read the bible :D
You really ought to.
I say this, incidentally, because you really can't swing a two-by-four without running into a Biblical reference, so it's worthwhile to know your schiznit before it smacks you upside the head.
Jumping back a ways...Bob, you see, I have the exact opposite problem. I think. If I just act, everything works. If I start thinking I get trapped in a loop and can make no decisions, thereby resulting in irretrivable screwup at some point.
Why not the Koran, or the Guru Granth Sahib, or the Vedic Scrolls or the Tipitaka or the Torah?
Because most of the people we know don't base their vernacular usage of religious text on any of those books.
I've only come across vernacular usage of religious text on the internet - and only here - never anywhere else......
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Interesting, but I don't read the bible :D
Didn't think you did, which is why I put the reference right... there! *points* ;)
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Why not the Koran, or the Guru Granth Sahib, or the Vedic Scrolls or the Tipitaka or the Torah?
Those would be good too, in particular the Koran.
But Biblical references are of much greater number if you have to read any serious amount of literature or argumentative essays in college. :blah:
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Personally the only college essays based on religion worth a damn are the ones based off the teachings of Surak... but I digress...
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Ace, that's the kind of statement that, when said in real life, causes a kind of silence to settle over the room that's not really silence at all, but the sound of everyone's soul dying a little bit.
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You're going off-topic guys.
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We are participating in a time-honored HLP tradition, too.
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Back on topic: in my experience/observation of friends, etc, I've noticed that when you find yourself happy with yourself, it becomes easier to find another. That's not to say "find" in relation to looking, but more like... when they'd decide "okay, I can live with being single", later some girl would walk by, smile, and say "hi." Unforunately, this isn't always true.. but I think it's safe to say it increases your chances since being happy with yourself increases confidence, etc.
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It is all about confidence! But it's a little harsh when someone is not having any luck finding anyone and keeps getting the knock back, to tell them to be more confident.
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Wild Fragaria could set up a dating service, she's already gotten a loyal customer base right here. :doubt:
:p
Sign me up!
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I've decided that Britney Spears is more attractive now she's a divorced wreck. I might have to try my luck there.
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I was just wondering where the religous talk was going... *phew*
Sign me up!
Yes, Fury's the first one on the list... Who else's next?
I've decided that Britney Spears is more attractive now she's a divorced wreck. I might have to try my luck there.
Good for you, dude. I have not followed her story (or seen her pictures in a while) but I trust your judgement :D
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I've decided that Britney Spears is more attractive now she's a divorced wreck. I might have to try my luck there.
Well she's already started flashing her bits off to everyone apparently so at least you can see what you're letting yourself in for. :)
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I've decided that Britney Spears is more attractive now she's a divorced wreck. I might have to try my luck there.
Well she's already started flashing her bits off to everyone apparently so at least you can see what you're letting yourself in for. :)
she started that about a decade ago anyways........
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Ah, I didn't know there were more than one Brtiney Spears fan on HLP...
:p
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This'll never do.
Someone get me a shotgun.
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Ah, I didn't know there were more than one Brtiney Spears fan on HLP...
:p
Who admitted to being a fan?
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Hmm, the thread went off-topic twice in the same page.
We should set up a poll. Which thread derailment makes you cringe less: religion or Britney Spears?
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The irony of that post better not be lost on you...
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How about a thread starting out with people trying to contact Volition about the forbidden topic, only to end up discussing various DVD sizes and storage formats?
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How is this a derailment. I'm single, and to my surprise, I'm looking out... for Britney Spears. I expect to see her in Netto buying cheap wine on Saturday.
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there is a 50%+ divorce rate because people who aren't ready for relationships seek them out activly in part because of the excessive sociatal pressure to seek out relationships
not always to marry, in fact less and less so, there are for the first time in america more unmarried couples living together than married couples than ever before
any sociologists in the house who want to discuss the implications? I'm at best an amatuer.
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I don't think we are that far off track - we are talking about Britney :D I think she's pretty and it's not surprising people are looking out for her, especially she's divorced...
:D
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I might be vaguely interested in Brittany if she hadn't gone off the deep end upon being divorced. I prefer a girl with some dignity.
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I prefer a girl with some dignity.
Sounds like hard work to me :P.
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I don't think we are that far off track - we are talking about Britney :D I think she's pretty and it's not surprising people are looking out for her, especially she's divorced...
:D
...twice.
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Sounds like hard work to me :P.
But worthwhile. So very worthwhile.
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Twice??!! That's news to me.
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Three times now. Stop it will you :P.
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Three times now. Stop it will you :P.
It'll be 4 by tomorrow, then.....
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The irony of that post better not be lost on you...
That's why my post is on a new page. :)
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Was that why you waited so long to post a reply - waiting for a new page?
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No, it was actually coincidental. :nervous:
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Hmmm... may I say... what a miracle!!!
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Britney used to be attractive... kinda..
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I don't think we are that far off track - we are talking about Britney :D I think she's pretty and it's not surprising people are looking out for her, especially she's divorced...
:D
...twice.
She has issues these days. You really want the Britney of old, with schoolgirl outfit and reassuringly concealed privates.