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Off-Topic Discussion => General Discussion => Topic started by: redmenace on June 16, 2007, 09:50:32 pm
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Alright guys post your stories of your worst first date or worst date[preferebly the former.]
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Went out on my first date with a friend of a friend who was actually really cute, but had no social skills whatsoever, and was new to driving his car - we were both 16. We didn't even really make it half a mile before he rear ended some lady. Nobody was hurt, but we were stuck waiting for the police for an hour. I couldn't call my parents - they didn't know I was dating - so we just spent an awkward hour loitering on the side of the road.
Poor guy was already jittery, it was his first date ever, and he just kept apologizing over and over and over until I was utterly sick of him and we were BOTH miserable. But I had to date him again so he didn't completely collapse in on himself. Sigh..
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Alright, now mine. Tonight I met this girl through a dating service. I have spoken to her on the phone a few times. When I got there I was fashionably late, 5 minutes [DC traffic sucks]. She already had gotten and enjoyed her coffee from starbucks when I got there. Strike 1. She had crap caked to her teeth. Strike 2. She had so much maskera on it wasn't funny. Strike 3. It gets better. I drove 1.5 hours to find out she could only stay 25 minutes. She had the personality of a cinder block. I was very disapointed because I really put my absolute best foot forward.
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So there's a hot (and very smart) girl in my class, and we're friends. When I asked her out to the movies she clearly stated that she isn't interested in dating anyone yet...
so there wasn't even a date techincly...but hey, I'm a picky person and so far there have only been 3 girls I'd really wanted to date (I'm not into that dating for cute racks sake...or dating sake)
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So there's a hot (and very smart) girl in my class, and we're friends. When I asked her out to the movies she clearly stated that she isn't interested in dating anyone yet...
I'm sure i'm not the only one here who sort of hoped that you would have continued on to say that you saw that very same girl on a date with someone that evening. Would have made for a far more interesting story. :nervous:
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Usually "not interested in dating anyone yet" means try harder.
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She's a programmer...far better then me as a metter of fact (hehe...I waste my time modding gamez :D).
No, she doens't have glasses, and she's hot. And there's even hotter chicks in my class...computer sinces in't for for boy geks wiht glasses anymore. And I'm glad :D
And no, she's not dating anyone...as a matter of fact, I don't think she ever truly dated...but then again, neither have I...meh. :blah:
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I'm 25, and I have never dated. I win :(.
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I'm 26...I win :D
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omg!
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omg!
I would qft, but then i'd be a hypocrite.
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getting back on topic.
I asked this girl out to a movie in highschool. she was pretty cute, and in a few of my classes. We went and saw "The World is not Enough" and things are going pretty well, we chatted for a bit, i even did the wonderfully high school "put your arm around her with a yawn." We sat down for a coffee afterwards to wait for our folks to come pick us up, and she says to me...
"so, when i said yes, I didn't realize this was a date...I'm not interested in seeing anyone."
I thought i had made my intentions pretty clear, and needless to say i was crushed, and was at a loss for words for the remaining few minutes. Looking back on it now, its rather funny, and it turned out she really wasn't interested in seeing anyone (as far as i know, she still isn't.)
Just one of my many dating horror stories
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I went to see "Hollywood Homicide" for my first date. That kind of speaks for itself. :p
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I'm 25, and I have never dated. I win :(.
I'm 26...I win :D
I'm 29... :tumbleweed:
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God.. Such geeks we have here... :eek2:
I've dated a couple of times. I kinda ruined both of these promising starts though... :doubt:
And I even once had to turn down one chick that was after me. She was moderately attractive. But I hear she had the habit of cutting herself, which I have lately been thinking would have been quite interesting. But she also was crazy for horses, and I have to draw the line at something...
She once came to me just before class crying that her parents sold her pony... "Woman! That's not interesting!"
That may have been mean. She did start yapping crap about me after that. But also did some other questionable things that made me feel happy about my resolve.
Been on a bit of a dry spell now... For about 3 years... :blah:
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Heh, didn't meet someone I wanted to stay with until I was nearly 30, but I will admit, I did have relationships before that, some good, some er... not so good, but that's life :)
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omg!
ERm...a small error...I'm still 25..LOL ..will be 26 in 2 months...hehehe
Besides, who sez you HAVE to date X times boefore you Y years old. Stupid society....
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omg!
ERm...a small error...I'm still 25..LOL ..will be 26 in 2 months...hehehe
Besides, who sez you HAVE to date X times boefore you Y years old. Stupid society....
:wtf:
How could you forget how old you are?????
Early onset of senility????
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If someone asks for my age, I have to do some serious calculations to give the answer. Why would I need to memorize something as trivial as my age? Especially when I have to memorize it again once a year! It's enough that I remember my date (and year) of birth as it is far more useful.
Though in TrashMans case, he even seems to forget the date... Thats crazy...
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But I hear she had the habit of cutting herself, which I have lately been thinking would have been quite interesting. But she also was crazy for horses, and I have to draw the line at something...
No, not the horses! Anything but the horses! :blah: :wtf:
:D
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How could you forget how old you are?????
Early onset of senility????
I don't celebrate my bithdays... 25...26....jut 2 months difference so I wasn't far off anyway.
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But I hear she had the habit of cutting herself, which I have lately been thinking would have been quite interesting. But she also was crazy for horses, and I have to draw the line at something...
No, not the horses! Anything but the horses! :blah: :wtf:
:D
You're telling me you wouldn't want a scarred bad ass ***** to ravage you day and night? ;7
And I disdain horses. Not that they ever did anything to me. But as a kid, during the times when girls were still icky, I got so sick of them always go on and on about their horses and horse magazines and other horse apparel. I still kinda have that "I hate horsies" gear stuck in...
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getting back on topic.
I asked this girl out to a movie in highschool. she was pretty cute, and in a few of my classes. We went and saw "The World is not Enough" and things are going pretty well, we chatted for a bit, i even did the wonderfully high school "put your arm around her with a yawn." We sat down for a coffee afterwards to wait for our folks to come pick us up, and she says to me...
"so, when i said yes, I didn't realize this was a date...I'm not interested in seeing anyone."
I thought i had made my intentions pretty clear, and needless to say i was crushed, and was at a loss for words for the remaining few minutes. Looking back on it now, its rather funny, and it turned out she really wasn't interested in seeing anyone (as far as i know, she still isn't.)
Just one of my many dating horror stories
Dude you have to realize that chicks are allways testing the guy to see what kind of person they are going out with. So do not ever feel bad beacuse she said something like that, instead you should have answered her with something like: "Good, beacue I am not intrested in dating you either, just beacuse your hair is to big" or something like that. You have to tease her all the time, to create attraction.
And one tip to all of you, taking your date to movies is a BAD idea. Take them somewhere that they don't expect so that you can get to know her better, and thatswhy taking her to see a movie is a bad idea.
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Good tips all, that I have already taken into account.
Fortunately my dating skills have greatly improved since those high school days filled with much dating stupidity! Women, you may have confused me then...but you confuse me much less now! well slightly less....
nah women still do things that make no sense :p
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so, still confused then ?
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Poor heterosexual bastards. :p
Movies really aren't a bad idea for a first date. On a first date, you want to keep things as smooth and stable as possible. It may be boring, but the last thing you want to do is swing wildly and miss. It's really hard to **** up a movie.
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To be fair, this is about the first formal date we had. That helps explain some of the things that happened, and it also means you need to bear in mind that we were already very close.
Her name was **** ***; I met her when I was senior in high school. I was pretty sure I was in love with her, despite my tendancy to try and talk myself out of that conclusion.
The date itself? I asked her to senior prom. I intended it to still be a kind of casual thing. It was about a week before when I realized she wasn't going to let that happen. Why? She suddenly asks if it would be too much trouble to get a room for after. Now I've been seeing the girl for most of the year, I'm fairly sure I'm in love with her, she's given every indication she feels the same, but we've never gone much further than a kiss on the cheek and some snuggling. Honestly, I was okay with that. This came as a bit of a shock. But I agreed to do it; she did ask, and she knew me well enough to know if worse came to worse I would not care in the slightest if she backed out of the implied offer there.
The date itself went...well, perfectly. To this day the dress she wore remains probably the sexiest piece of clothing I've ever seen (which is vaguely amusing to me considering it showed very little skin indeed), we both had a lot of fun, she commented repeatedly on how handsome I was in a tux. The after, the hotel room, that went...well, nothing has quite compared since, but since has been a little few (I count two).
So what's the horror story?
Two days later she stopped speaking to me. Completely. I was lucky if she acknowledged me before she bumped into me. Four years have passed and she still will not speak to me. I see her often, as her older brother was and is one of my better friends.
I have never found out why.
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To be fair, this is about the first formal date we had. That helps explain some of the things that happened, and it also means you need to bear in mind that we were already very close.
Her name was **** ***; I met her when I was senior in high school. I was pretty sure I was in love with her, despite my tendancy to try and talk myself out of that conclusion.
The date itself? I asked her to senior prom. I intended it to still be a kind of casual thing. It was about a week before when I realized she wasn't going to let that happen. Why? She suddenly asks if it would be too much trouble to get a room for after. Now I've been seeing the girl for most of the year, I'm fairly sure I'm in love with her, she's given every indication she feels the same, but we've never gone much further than a kiss on the cheek and some snuggling. Honestly, I was okay with that. This came as a bit of a shock. But I agreed to do it; she did ask, and she knew me well enough to know if worse came to worse I would not care in the slightest if she backed out of the implied offer there.
The date itself went...well, perfectly. To this day the dress she wore remains probably the sexiest piece of clothing I've ever seen (which is vaguely amusing to me considering it showed very little skin indeed), we both had a lot of fun, she commented repeatedly on how handsome I was in a tux. The after, the hotel room, that went...well, nothing has quite compared since, but since has been a little few (I count two).
So what's the horror story?
Two days later she stopped speaking to me. Completely. I was lucky if she acknowledged me before she bumped into me. Four years have passed and she still will not speak to me. I see her often, as her older brother was and is one of my better friends.
I have never found out why.
That still probably kills most first dates...
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Poor heterosexual bastards. :p
Movies really aren't a bad idea for a first date. On a first date, you want to keep things as smooth and stable as possible. It may be boring, but the last thing you want to do is swing wildly and miss. It's really hard to **** up a movie.
That answers the one question I have been wondering since the begining of this thread. :lol:
But I disagree, it really depends on the girl or guy. Some people like substance to a first date. Also movies are seen as sometimes too safe. Girls particularly want to be impressed by how creative you can be on a first date. But then creativity also needs inspiration! Sometimes it is a good idea to pair it with dinner immediatly afterwords. This way you can talk about the movie. This also allows gives you the opportunity to get her plastered. Because heaven forbid any guy rely upon his personality or charm to swoon a woman or man.
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It's really hard to **** up a movie.
A movie would be a horrible choice for me...hell, my normal friends hate watching movies with me, i just talk to damned much...
and as for girls I'm the only geek in my grade...so understand if I've never dated before. There is this one guy who is nerdier then me, but he gets it off so easy cause he's Asian and half my damned country (Canada, go figure) is Asian as well so they like support him or something.
The pitiful thing is i don't even look geeky. No glasses, and at 6 feet i'm the tallest in my grade, some people say i even have a good build if i worked out...
Then again i know how young i am so I'm not gonna get mixed up in any of that crap...I mean, half the kids in my grade have been dating and making out since they were like, what...10 ****ing years old?
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Poor heterosexual bastards. :p
Movies really aren't a bad idea for a first date. On a first date, you want to keep things as smooth and stable as possible. It may be boring, but the last thing you want to do is swing wildly and miss. It's really hard to **** up a movie.
That answers the one question I have been wondering since the begining of this thread. :lol:
Haha! I should have made that clear.
But I disagree, it really depends on the girl or guy. Some people like substance to a first date. Also movies are seen as sometimes too safe. Girls particularly want to be impressed by how creative you can be on a first date. But then creativity also needs inspiration! Sometimes it is a good idea to pair it with dinner immediatly afterwords. This way you can talk about the movie. This also allows gives you the opportunity to get her plastered. Because heaven forbid any guy rely upon his personality or charm to swoon a woman or man.
Points taken. I suppose it depends on the girl or guy. I've taken guys out to do the standard dinner and a movie thing before, but only if I don't know them very well. Movies do give you something to talk about.
If I know we share an interest I work it out that way. Like the last date I went on, we had some pizza and then played Super Smash Bros and Megaman for hours :D The guy before that, we went shopping. Whatever works.
A movie would be a horrible choice for me...hell, my normal friends hate watching movies with me, i just talk to damned much...
and as for girls I'm the only geek in my grade...so understand if I've never dated before. There is this one guy who is nerdier then me, but he gets it off so easy cause he's Asian and half my damned country (Canada, go figure) is Asian as well so they like support him or something.
The pitiful thing is i don't even look geeky. No glasses, and at 6 feet i'm the tallest in my grade, some people say i even have a good build if i worked out...
Then again i know how young i am so I'm not gonna get mixed up in any of that crap...I mean, half the kids in my grade have been dating and making out since they were like, what...10 ****ing years old?
Better to talk too much than to clam up cause you're nervous. :) You sound like you shouldn't really have a problem with girls, and besides, considering how old you are, it isn't something you have to worry about. I didn't date until I was 16, I think most guys as nerdy as us are the same way at least.
Good things come to those who wait. :D
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am I the only person here that thinks movies are a crappy substitute for awkward silence? :nervous:
i guess I'm messed then... :nod:
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am I the only person here that thinks movies are a crappy substitute for awkward silence? :nervous:
i guess I'm messed then... :nod:
Well, it's easier to segue into making out from a movie than it is from awkward silence, if that's any incentive. :P
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Point. :nod:
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am I the only person here that thinks movies are a crappy substitute for awkward silence? :nervous:
Definitely. To be completely honest, I've only really gone out on dates once or twice, and neither were to movies. The first was to Starbucks for some coffee, and then to a basketball game at my high school. The second was at the mall with a bunch of her girlfriends and her dress shopping while I carried stuff around, then to Steak & Shake (that's a Midwest fastfood chain that is megasuperior to any other such chain in the US).
Of course, then I found out she was cheating on me and sleeping with some dirtbag who had come back from Air Force basic training for a week or so before he left for RAF Mildenhall. Damned near felt like getting the kid fired from his job for a while (since what he did was essentially statutory rape).
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Heh, I can't pay attention at movies, the idea of sitting still for an hour and a half just watching something happen seems mind-numbingly dull. That's why I have to watch stuff on DVD and just take breaks when I feel my attention wandering :)
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It's really hard to **** up a movie.
It happens. In high school, the one and only time I went out with this girl I had a super crush on, we were going to see Titan A.E. Good, fun popcorn flick; worth watching; I highly recommend it, even today. When we got to the theater, we found out that it wasn't showing at its scheduled time because of some stupid technical reason. So, at a loss, we decided to see Me, Myself, and Irene, because it looked like it would be funny. Big, awkward mistake. :sigh: We went out for dinner afterwards and I had to struggle for conversation, because the movie didn't provide a springboard like I had hoped.
And then I inhaled some of the spice mix from a steak fry and spent half the rest of the dinner as if I had been shot in the face with pepper spray. :nervous:
Her name was **** ***...
I've asterisked that out; she may not want this publicized. :)
Two days later she stopped speaking to me.
Doesn't surprise me TBH. I've heard too many anecdotes where premature consummation ruins a friendship.
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There is this one guy who is nerdier then me, but he gets it off so easy cause he's Asian and half my damned country (Canada, go figure) is Asian as well so they like support him or something.
Hmm, is he a computer geek? If so, does he know about FS:SCP? *prods haloboy* Go get'em! :lol:
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Well, it's not her real name actually. Just what I knew her as. Granted the last was the same, but...
I don't know. I felt rather blindsided. I still do. It was the time lag that made no sense. For two days we were closer than ever. The morning after she wanted to know what I thought about an engagement ring! That's a pretty damn big thought to take into serious consideration at 18; but I had, and so had she. You must bear in mind we had been close for a year and been friendly for two or three times that. If this was premature...you get the idea. She knew me too well to think what happened was her only or even a good option if it had been too much too fast in retrospect. That is the pain, the irony, the cruelty of it. It is not just that I do not know, I cannot even guess why she broke it off in such a fashion.
I think, Goob, you're speaking from your religious leanings here. At the time I was a practicing Catholic. (If you want to trace my lapse from that...well she's a good place to start, not from what happened with her but from what happened after her. There is nothing like seeing a year of hope, struggle, and prayer your every waking moment nullified in under ten minutes to make you question the existence of a benevolent God.) Granted two semesters of living in the dorms at SDSU may have given me a skewed perspective, but in the end, as long as it stays in the relationship sexual activity is generally not a disruptive thing.
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And then I inhaled some of the spice mix from a steak fry and spent half the rest of the dinner as if I had been shot in the face with pepper spray. :nervous:
That is just plain bad luck G. :(.
What i have learned from my previous relationship and dates is that most guys like us that are nice, geeks and so on try it to hard to make girls to like us by beeing a niceguy or somekind of gentelman. But there are extremly few girls or women that fall for that, most of them look for a guy who is cocky and funny, and ofcourse there are those girls who fall for the biggest assholes on this godgiven earth.
When you are out on a date, go out to have fun and try not to think to mutch how you can please her.
What we dudes need to understand is that falling in love or creating an attraction is NOT a CHOICE that we kan make, in other words it is not rational.
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And love has nothing to do with dating.
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Heh, if I had a dollar for every time I've been turned down I'd have rather a lot of useless coins that I'd have to take to the bank. ;)
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"so, when i said yes, I didn't realize this was a date...I'm not interested in seeing anyone."
So doggie style it is! :p
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I'm still bitter from my break-up, so i hate all women apart from quiet sluttish ones..........If i get layed on the first meeting then its not a date, so i've not dated mush......
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Heh, if I had a dollar for every time I've been turned down I'd have rather a lot of useless coins that I'd have to take to the bank. ;)
If I had a dollar for every time I've been turned down I'd be broke. But I would also be broke if I had a dollar for every time I asked someone out. :/
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Hmm, is he a computer geek? If so, does he know about FS:SCP? *prods haloboy* Go get'em! :lol:
Nah, i tried to get him into Freespace. He got interested...but only because of the star fox: shadows of lylat mod :doubt:
go figure. He hates me now, and he never gave it any second thought anyway.
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Heh, if I had a dollar for every time I've been turned down I'd have rather a lot of useless coins that I'd have to take to the bank. ;)
If I had a dollar for every time I've been turned down I'd be broke. But I would also be broke if I had a dollar for every time I asked someone out. :/
First rule of Dating, don't ask, don't get ;) Admittedly sometimes, you'll ask for a date, and get a refusal, but for my part, I'd rather know than be wondering whether someone liked me for ages, I'm not a big fan of mysteries, so I tended to just go ask the source rather than chew my nails over it ;)
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All the girls I know are really annoying. Even the good looking ones. :(
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:lol: Don't expect that to change :nervous:
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You think there would be at least a few sane women at a high school with 6000 people. But I guess I could be the crazy one. Considering what I do for extracurricular activities and in my free time, that would be more likely.
Wow. Rapid posting!
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I'm 25, and I have never dated. I win :(.
Idiot. **** you.
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I'm 25, and I have never dated. I win :(.
Idiot. **** you.
What the hell?
Ease up, seriously. I don't know what the deal is between you two, but just drop it.
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I sense a Monkeying on the horizon if people can't behave like adults, that's 2 threads this has now happened in, and if there's one thing I know, it's that spreading this kind of crap all over the board is not looked upon kindly.
You have been warned.
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You think there would be at least a few sane women at a high school with 6000 people. But I guess I could be the crazy one. Considering what I do for extracurricular activities and in my free time, that would be more likely.
Wow. Rapid posting!
There are no sane high school girls.
Sanity develops in females during your second semester of college.
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I will quote someone whom I forgot the name of:
Pick two.
•She's stable
•She's pretty
•She's available
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I sense a Monkeying on the horizon if people can't behave like adults, that's 2 threads this has now happened in, and if there's one thing I know, it's that spreading this kind of crap all over the board is not looked upon kindly.
You have been warned.
Let me explain. I tried being civil, after that stupid faux Flame war I had with Cobra. The person decides 'Hey, let's still call him an idiot!!!111' Excuse me for not taking that kind of ****. I suppose I can apologize to the rest of the forum members for this crap. Just don't expect me to take what are cleary attemps to flame lying down.
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Let me explain. I tried being civil, after that stupid faux Flame war I had with Cobra. The person decides 'Hey, let's still call him an idiot!!!111' Excuse me for not taking that kind of ****. I suppose I can apologize to the rest of the forum members for this crap. Just don't expect me to take what are cleary attemps to flame lying down.
Stick to PMs next time. The rest of us have neither the time nor the inclination to have to deal with your gripes cluttering up unrelated threads.
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I sense a Monkeying on the horizon if people can't behave like adults, that's 2 threads this has now happened in, and if there's one thing I know, it's that spreading this kind of crap all over the board is not looked upon kindly.
You have been warned.
Thank you.
Agreed. IF somebody has **** to say to me, use the PM box.
You should have thought about that before you decided to stir **** up in the OSNAP (?) thread. Great way to demonstrate to everyone your intelligence there, pal.
Oh, that reminds me. I would say to add intelligence to that list of of things to pick, and to pick three. Many women have the very invalid idea that the more 'bimbo'-like a woman is, the more men are attracted to her. I would be one to vouch the opposite. I cannot stand ladies who are dumber than average, let alone dumber than Southern Californians...
Meh, maybe my standards are set too high.
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Agreed. IF somebody has **** to say to me, use the PM box.
You should have thought about that before you decided to stir **** up in the OSNAP (?) thread. Great way to demonstrate to everyone your intelligence there, pal.
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I see that being civil is self-defeating. I actually am still learning, ok, so stop giving me crap.
Way to be civil, eh :rolleyes:
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Le sigh.
If this is still going on when I return from the trip I'm about to go on, there will of course be the mandatory punishments given out to those who couldn't stop flaming eachother. Consider yourselves formally noticed / warned etc. Thank you.
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Oh goodie, personal grudge. And both are just too stupid to stop dragging helpless threads in it. Well thats the last we've seen you guys I hope.
Once you arrive in Monkey Town, Kazan is soo going to make you his *****es... :lol:
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I don't agree with the sexist negative generalizations, I don't agree with the sexist positive generalizations.
Generally I've found that asking girls out is the fastest way to ruin a relationship. No matter who it is. Even the most intelligent woman will often turn into a condescending asshole the instant that I ask her out (or she thinks I'm going to ask her out.) It's very rare for me to meet someone who actually appreciates being asked out. Which is ironic, from my POV, because it seems that women choose to provide the majority of the 'risk'. Have a great friendship with a girl? Forget it. That seems to be even worse because then you know her and can be more of a threat.
Obviously I'm not a girl, so I don't know exactly why so many women choose to act this way. Neither do most women; they don't even bother to consider the consequences of what they're doing, they just label a guy negatively and be done with it.
So I used to recommend to people that they ask girls out, but now I generally don't. Women seem to be more likely to be assholes because they expect to be spoiled by attention and to be able to take guys for granted and treat them like dirt. There's still enough chivalry alive in society today that people have issues with people who respond in kind to women.
So I don't think that blind faith works any more, or that you should automatically assume that you're not getting any just because you haven't asked any girls out. Remember, it's the 21st century, women are fully capable of displaying interest and asking guys out as well. I've yet to hear anyone give a good reason why guys _must_ be expected to ask girls out that doesn't rely on extremely shaky reasoning.
So really, it may just be that you haven't met anyone who's a decent person and/or you get along with. If you don't feel comfortable asking a girl out, she may pick up on that and assume it's insecurity or that you're not really into her, get insulted, and blow you off. So it's in your best interest (and probably everybody else's) that you only ask a girl out because you believe it's worth it and you actually want to, not because somebody told you that it's the only way you're getting laid. (Remember, hookers are legal in at least two counties in Nevada)
That's probably more enticing flamebait than the little personal war we had going on. :p
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Hmm, is he a computer geek? If so, does he know about FS:SCP? *prods haloboy* Go get'em! :lol:
Nah, i tried to get him into Freespace. He got interested...but only because of the star fox: shadows of lylat mod :doubt:
go figure. He hates me now, and he never gave it any second thought anyway.
:nervous: ... His name here wouldn't be takashi, would it?
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I wouldnt worry Kal. He has the advantage of having two strikes more than I do. His **** talk came out of the blue, my responses did not. Not one response of mine was uncalled for, and for what it's worth, I handled both his initial flames quite tamely. I could go back and change them to more appropriate (read: meaner) responses, but TBH, it's not worth my time. Anyway, as he has still failed to make any valid counterattacks, while I made all of them, which means I win once again.
Anyway, I'll behave, as the next foul thing that comes out of his keyboard will get him monkeyed for a little while, and that will be a sufficient enough retort from you on my behalf.
EDIT: WMC, I am DEFINITELY insecure in person. That's one reason I've never had a date. The fact that most girls I knew as a teenager were stupid and immature didnt help either. There was one, and only one, exception to that. However, due to the insecurities, she moved away before I could explain my feelings. I kick myself every day for that.
/me starts playing his miniature violin :(
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Allright keep this thread ontopic people otherwise it will be closed, and like you said keep your squabbeling outside of the threads and stick to PM instead.
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What he said, but let me clarify.
Shut up, right now. Don't even bother responding to me telling you to shut up with an "Ok" or a "Yes, master", or whatever the heck you might want to say. I don't care who's in the right and who's in the wrong, nor do I have time to find out, so if I hear of one more peep on this squabble from either of you in ANY thread, that person is getting monkeyed for a month.
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this link seemes to fit in with the topic: http://break.com/index/first-date-honest-answers.html (http://break.com/index/first-date-honest-answers.html)
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The thing women find most attractive in men is self belief/confidence. As most men get tongue tied trying to impress a woman, they lose their self confidence. I find the best option is not to look at women as potential mates/dates/whatever but as friends and to try to be myself and have fun.
Of course until I met the wife I wasn't that successful but still!
*Slinks off to the Oh Snap thread to find out what all the fuss is about*
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Agreed. Confidence is the sexiest thing in the world. But confidence isn't the same as bravado. Just be at ease, and be yourself, and don't think you have to be exceptional. Trying to impress a girl (or guy) is just as likely to freak him or her out.
So be yourself! If he/she doesn't care for you being yourself, then that person isn't worth your time anyways. :) If you have to force it, it's not worth the effort.
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WMC, I am DEFINITELY insecure in person. That's one reason I've never had a date. The fact that most girls I knew as a teenager were stupid and immature didnt help either. There was one, and only one, exception to that. However, due to the insecurities, she moved away before I could explain my feelings. I kick myself every day for that.
/me starts playing his miniature violin :(
I'm only insecure (In the sense that I'm not sure how to approach them) around women that attract me...go figure. And a similar thing happened to me.. Girl moved to the USA before I could asked her out
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Psych yourself up, rememebr times when you felt invincible like winning a fight or getting an A+ on a test, then realise that the girl you ware after is only a human being, someones daughter, possibly someones sister, and that she has to get up go to the toilet and brush her teeth just like you do. Get up some courage, suck it in, stride up to her.......
Then put rohypnol in her tea :) Then say hi.........
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I haven't been on any really killer bad dates. I probably haven't dated enough :)
The last one was not the greatest...went on a date with a friend and she and I were pretty awkward the whole time. I think I ended up having to leave after dinner with an excuse of something or other. At this point I'm not even interested in anyone at all...its just easier being single. Too much damn trouble and I have so much trouble in other areas right now...once some other stuff gets sorted out a bit maybe then I'll go and find some really great terrible date stories for everyone.
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Posted by: Ashrak
this link seemes to fit in with the topic: http://break.com/index/first-date-honest-answers.html
What is this? You mean you don't do it like that?
Reminds me of a situation when I was confronted by an attractive woman asking how her dress looked like. I prefer the classical answers: "Like someone vomited on it" or "Had you wanted my opinion, woman, you should have asked it in a shop. You cannot return those."
I think that's enough for me on contributing on this thread...
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I like the classic
"Do these jeans make me look fat?"
"No, your fat makes you look fat!" :lol:
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The more I read of these stories, the gladder I am that I've never had the opportunity to put my personal theory of dating into practice. That "'tis better to have loved and lost" line looks great on a greeting card, but damned if I buy it; I'd much rather spend my weekends sleeping and gaming than go through the angst of the whole romance thing. :p
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The more I read of these stories, the gladder I am that I've never had the opportunity to put my personal theory of dating into practice. That "'tis better to have loved and lost" line looks great on a greeting card, but damned if I buy it; I'd much rather spend my weekends sleeping and gaming than go through the angst of the whole romance thing. :p
Apparently its a "good thing" (tm) when it gets going properly. But I haven't seen that happen...
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I don't know. I felt rather blindsided. I still do. It was the time lag that made no sense. For two days we were closer than ever. The morning after she wanted to know what I thought about an engagement ring! ...
I think, Goob, you're speaking from your religious leanings here.
I was actually trying to speak purely from secular experience here. By "premature" I meant moving a relationship faster than the people involved want it to go, or moving it somewhere where one person doesn't want to go.
In other words, perhaps this girl was expecting things to move to an engagement/marriage/lifelong relationship track, and when it somehow became clear that it wasn't, she felt betrayed/tricked/embarrassed or whatever. Sex is a serious thing; it affects people in deep emotional and yes, spiritual ways.
I hope this doesn't make me sound like a heartless analytical jerk. :( I am, honestly, sorry that things turned out that way. Breakups are always very painful, especially when the relationship lasted so long beforehand.
Apparently its a "good thing" (tm) when it gets going properly. But I haven't seen that happen...
I have. I'm helping a friend get ready for his marriage this Saturday, and he and his fiancée are truly, madly, deeply in love with one another. :)
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I have. I'm helping a friend get ready for his marriage this Saturday, and he and his fiancée are truly, madly, deeply in love with one another. :)
:D I wish them the best. :nod:
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Thank you for keeping the thread on track admins.
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:nervous: *looks around* ... since when was it off-track??? :wtf:
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since right now.