[S-99]

How do I choose the people I want to stay with? I sign a contract for a place in a flat, someone signs the same contract and... I need to stay with that guy.

When I signed the contract there was only 1 guy. When I moved to the flat after a couple of weeks I found 2 more guys...I wasn't informed about it.

You find some people with an apartment that you like and you can move in with. That's what i did.

[WMCoolmon]

It took me a couple of years to find some room mate i could move in with at an apartment at the bottom of the hill of the uni i'm at. I didn't like the dorms. Be very choosy and strict about the kind of people who you may get to choose to live with next.

How do I choose the people I want to stay with? I sign a contract for a place in a flat, someone signs the same contract and... I need to stay with that guy.

When I signed the contract there was only 1 guy. When I moved to the flat after a couple of weeks I found 2 more guys...I wasn't informed about it.

I've heard housing leases can be absolutely brutal if you don't know what you're doing when you write one up or sign them. Also, always have a housing lease. And write payments in a trackable way (eg check). All these things will cover your arse if somebody decides to take advantage of you.

If you signed a lease with the understanding that there would only be one other guy in the house and now there are more guys, you could make a good case for a breach of contract, especially if those two other guys aren't paying as much as you are or the amount you needed to pay was misrepresented (eg you only need to pay XXX, and your roomate will pay XXX, but then suddenly these two other guys are both paying XXX as well...so where is that extra money going? And why didn't you ask your roommate why the other half of the payment wasn't being covered, or why his share was so much larger than yours..I just can't see how two extra people would suddenly show up and there would be no change to the rent from when you first signed the contract)

That being said, you should really get some competent advice on housing if you feel like you've been wronged or want to get out of your contract. Hopefully if you find something concrete, he'll back off, but it sounds as though you're just putting yourself and your dad in a bad position.

If nothing else, there must be someplace to study at your school. I have never heard of a university or college that didn't make an effort to keep someplace closed off for students with rowdy roommates who want to study. That is just about the cheapest way to ensure some kind of academic success.

[CP5670]

Pretty much any decent library will have cubicles for studying. Many people do their homework there instead of their dorms. There was apparently one guy here many years ago who lost his funding (failed the qualifying exam too many times) and just lived in the math library after that.

It's fairly common for students to spend most of their day at the campus though and essentially only use their dorm as a place to sleep, especially graduate students who have offices. (although I would hate to do that myself)

[Mobius]

If you signed a lease with the understanding that there would only be one other guy in the house and now there are more guys, you could make a good case for a breach of contract, especially if those two other guys aren't paying as much as you are or the amount you needed to pay was misrepresented (eg you only need to pay XXX, and your roomate will pay XXX, but then suddenly these two other guys are both paying XXX as well...so where is that extra money going? And why didn't you ask your roommate why the other half of the payment wasn't being covered, or why his share was so much larger than yours..I just can't see how two extra people would suddenly show up and there would be no change to the rent from when you first signed the contract)

That being said, you should really get some competent advice on housing if you feel like you've been wronged or want to get out of your contract. Hopefully if you find something concrete, he'll back off, but it sounds as though you're just putting yourself and your dad in a bad position.

If nothing else, there must be someplace to study at your school. I have never heard of a university or college that didn't make an effort to keep someplace closed off for students with rowdy roommates who want to study. That is just about the cheapest way to ensure some kind of academic success.

Uhm...interesting post...

There was nothing in the contract that would have made it invalid had other guys come to live in the flat. I signed it because other people were unlikely to come in mid October, that is all.

The first guy, Luigi, pays 250€ per month because he stays in a room with a single bed(the best option).

I'm the second guy, Francesco...I pay 190€ per month because I stay in a big room with two beds(one is _fortunately_ unused).

The other guys, Vincenzo and Giuseppe, stay in a room that is slightly smaller than mine and pay 180€ per month.

What I DON'T NEED is another person in my room. That'd be awful.

About the places mentioned in the last part of your post - if I take the bus at 2:00 PM I get back home and study there. I virtually have no time to study anywhere near my University.

One more thing - I didn't go to the Uni today. Same thing yesterday. I become worried for basically everything(I'll have two exams in about 25 days, that makes the situation even worse) and this badly affects my health. So meh...

[S-99]

I got a good deal with my apartment. First off they're a couple i knew for about 5 years and finally got married last july. Good stuff, i'm happy for them, even happier that i'm living with dependable people. What my room  mates did was pretty much put me on the lease too...i wouldn't really say that, that's sort of incorrect...more to say that people who must pay rent are on paperwork more to say while my room mates are signed on the lease (idk which paper i'm on exactly). Anybody else who moves in has to pay their fair share also and get's stuck in paperwork too. The rent gets split up no matter what, and it's on paper that this has to happen. So far we don't live with anybody who's an asshole and it's a very smooth situation.

We all have our own rooms which is really good.

[BengalTiger]

Quicker path:
- Keep driving until you feel comfortable behind the wheel.
- Buy a Lada (there are bound to be people who'd sell their Lada for 50€. Even 20.)
- ???
- Profit!

A 50 Euro LADA???

What's that thing's crash test rating, handling and braking?

[Jeff Vader]

Quicker path:
- Keep driving until you feel comfortable behind the wheel.
- Buy a Lada (there are bound to be people who'd sell their Lada for 50€. Even 20.)
- ???
- Profit!

A 50 Euro LADA???

What's that thing's crash test rating, handling and braking?

If we concider the old skool Ladas:
1. On a one-on-one crash the other car is likely to be crushed to a small cube, whereas the Lada most likely merely takes damage to one of its headlamps (since the old Ladas were made of steel, unlike modern cars that consist mostly of plastic).
2. They can be handled. More or less.
3. At least it will stop if you hit a wall or run out of petrol.

[BengalTiger]

3. At least it will stop if you hit a wall...

Maybe a Lada, but Crown Vics found a way:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zeZculJ7LKE

 

[Mobius]

Alright, I'm back. This experience turned out to be less traumatic than the first ones under all points of view.

I have a new room mate but he appears to be a nice person...he was in another flat with his cousin but his sudden death in october led him to change flat and fill the empty space in my room. I was "" when he told me the reason behind his move(who wouldn't be?!?)...

I decided to come back...I don't know what to do for thursday and friday...I may either go back to the flat tomorrow and return on friday or use the bus...I'm kind of confused because my father was a bit "" when he saw me today...

What did you do with your parents/relatives when they didn't like your choices? I'd really like to know...at the moment I think everyone should be as much independant as possible while dealing with Univeristy...

[Colonol Dekker]

Be a man and tell them that it's your life. Not theirs. Then punch them. . .

[lostllama]

Glad to hear things might be looking up Mobius.

As for parents... Do you have any ideas why your dad was a bit "" towards you?

My parents tell me that if I'm happy, they're happy, but (this might sound odd) I struggle to accept that they really think that, based on past happenings. Leaves me confused.

[Mobius]

Be a man and tell them that it's your life. Not theirs. Then punch them. . .

There's one big problem, though: even if "build my body"() my father is fairly stronger than me so, well, I would lose any kind of confrontation...

As for parents... Do you have any ideas why your dad was a bit "" towards you?

Probably because I need to work hard if I want to earn the title of "son"...it happens when you're not a _biological_ son...

Well, I think the primary reason is the fact that spending 190€ per month for a flat I'm using rarely is pretty meh for him. It looks like attending the Uni is meh if I don't stay there to use the flat.

[lostllama]

Well, I think the primary reason is the fact that spending 190€ per month for a flat I'm using rarely is pretty meh for him. It looks like attending the Uni is meh if I don't stay there to use the flat.

Hmm that's probably why. Maybe tell him you'll pay him back big time when you discover a diamond mine?

[Mobius]

I'm taking note of this...

Have you ever failed an exam, by the way? What do parents think when that happens?

[lostllama]

Have you ever failed an exam, by the way? What do parents think when that happens?

*deep breath*

Yes. SAT mathematics, I was about 13 or 14 at the time. It's always been my weakest subject, I think I'm a "late developer" in that field unfortunately. I was gutted, but tbh I didn't try to revise hard enough. My dad seemed ok about it though, maybe because I passed all the other ones, and I showed improvement in the later, more important exams.

Didn't fail any uni exams though - I felt like I had to make up for some percieved earlier shortcomings. My parents say I'm my own worst critic.